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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsAn apology to Tuesday Afternoon
I've had a hell of a month on DU and took it out on you and you didn't deserve it.I wanted to apologize to you
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)backwoodsbob
(6,001 posts)Orrex
(63,165 posts)Another disappointment.
datasuspect
(26,591 posts)backwoodsbob
(6,001 posts)ladder match
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)ya big silly
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)on behalf of all the posters, incl. myself, who have been needlessly attacked on DU over the years by various other posters.
Having never called anyone a name, or said f___ yu, or cursed at another poster....it's amazing how many "ignores" I've racked up and how many insulting, if not outright attacking, posts I've rec'd from other posters. Why? I guess because I disagreed with their position, and they were extremists.
UTUSN
(70,639 posts)by your post.
It has been a few years since I got really lambasted/flamed, and years ago those things really hurt. Maybe I've learned to tippytoe in how I frame some opinions, or just avoid some topics that will set-them-off. Or maybe I've grown a thicker skin, and if so I'm thanking those flamers at DU because real life didn't do that for me, vulnerable/tender precious flower that I am. I get that you find the "reason" for flamers doing their ugly thing to be incomprehensible, NOT because we disagree with them in opinions, just a NASTINESS.
Here are some traits of flamers:
Flaming, characterized by:
* Replying provocatively to every post.
* Deliberately ignoring many MANY ANSWERS specific to their DEMANDS..
* Thinking they will wear out whoever their target it, determined to have the last word.
* Launching personal attacks/accusations.
* Ceaselessly demanding Replies, under cover of the pseudo-altruistic motive of eliciting an explanation, but with NO amount of answers EVER being enough explanation/clarification for this SAINT, with the demanded criteria ever-CHANGING.
I'll always lovingly remember Catwoman's posting long long ago to me, "Don't let them run you off!"
backwoodsbob
(6,001 posts)thanks..I guess
UTUSN
(70,639 posts)I replied specifically to the poster and then I talked GENERALLY about flamers (not you). I knew it was tricky jumping into a very personal thread.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)my "ignores" as badges of honor.
If a poster has been posting here for a couple of years and has no ignores, when we know how some posters are....I'm thinking the poster with no ignores isn't really saying anything or voicing an opinion, or giving a true perspective.
nolabear
(41,930 posts)Seriously, nice to see a hand extended and shaken. You guys are mensches.
UTUSN
(70,639 posts)bluesbassman
(19,358 posts)Good on both of you.