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[darkangel218]

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[Scuba]

1. It's never too late to start over.

Take three deep breaths, kick the past in the ass and figure out what you want to do next. Then do it.

[Sekhmets Daughter]

2. Oh sweetheart...

I'm so sorry for all the hurt and disappointment. In a perfect world men would be born with an on/off switch...and only the very best would get to control their own switches. (Of course the same can be said of women)

[WilliamPitt]

3. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven; that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.

- Tennyson



This, too, shall pass.

Oh, P.S. don't waste a thought on those CC asshats. Pity them, for they are truly pitiful.

[Xyzse]

4. I have no idea who CC is, but that sucks

Still, I hope in a little while, you'd go back to nursing school for that last semester.
Life is too long to live with the effects of a bad relationship, and too good to let those things keep you down.

Good luck.

[In_The_Wind]

5. Oh goodness!

If I were there we could go out for a drink together!

[darkangel218]

6. I know, im so lost right now :'(

[In_The_Wind]

7. Damn. Do you want to chat on the phone?

I'll send you my cell number by PM if that will help.

[In_The_Wind]

10. Any time at all ... just call me, 24/7. I don't care how late it is.

I'll put your number in my phone with a special ring tone just for you.
We'll get you through this one.
Better days are on the way!

Check your PM. My number is waiting.

[lunatica]

9. I got a divorce in 1995 and have never looked back

I have come to the conclusion that I have to be who takes care of me. It's been 17 years and I've been the happiest I've ever been. I don't even miss having controlling, immature, self-centered men around. And I get along just fine with men and women. I just have terrible luck with love relationships. Friendships are great, but I refuse to be anyone's punching bag or emotional or pshychological garbage dump anymore.

[pipi_k]

11. You say that

seeing a therapist won't help, but I think it will.

If you stick with it long enough to figure out why you are the common thread in this story.

I lived the same life many years ago. Kept getting with guys who acted like assholes. Well, it wasn't them I needed to "fix". It was me. Why was I always attracted to the same type of guy...

Joining a 12 Step group also helped, as I grew up in an alcoholic family

And yeah...I had someone do the same thing to me your most recent boyfriend did. My first husband. He took me out to dinner...a movie...we had a real nice time. The next day he moved out.

When he got tired of being on his own I took him back. At some point he did it again. The next time he wanted to come back I told him NO.

He married two other women after we divorced. Did the same to them, although his third wife stuck with him for nearly 20 years even though they broke up on a regular basis, at least twice a year. But hey...if it worked for them, it was no skin off my nose.

The point here is...it was his problem. Nothing to do with me. I just happened to find the same type of guys all the time, that's all, so that part is what I worked on.

I hope you can get some help and have a happy life.

[In_The_Wind]

14. .

[dawg]

13. Sorry you're going through this.

Relationships are hard. I suggest taking a break from men and focusing on yourself for a while. Then, when you are ready to try again, maybe give a "boring" man a chance. Some of us are way more fun than you would think, once you get to know us.