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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsWhy do you care if someone has you on ignore?
This is something that I truly do not understand. I see a fair amount of angst about it, and I've read some posts asking if we can be told who has us on ignore. Why is this a thing?
NRaleighLiberal
(60,009 posts)if we don't go looking for it, it can be quite surprising to find yourself ignored, I suppose.
Llewlladdwr
(2,165 posts)It might be my age (50+) but I don't find it particularly surprising that I sometimes irritate people. I've found that almost anything you do or say , no matter how innocuous, will irk someone.
NRaleighLiberal
(60,009 posts)liberal N proud
(60,332 posts)I am not hurt by it.
Don't like to piss anyone off to that point. Sometimes it doesn't take much though.
Llewlladdwr
(2,165 posts)Some people are *very* easily provoked.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)It was just a conversation that was going to go nowhere, I plan on un-ignoring them in a week but for now... I'm good.
Sometimes the naivety burns.
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,534 posts)They just plain do not like me, and that bothers me.
It's personal.
I wouldn't care if it were over political things, but it's not.
Major Nikon
(36,818 posts)Just sayin'
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)be able to figure out...how people can like or dislike someone they only "know" from limited interaction on a discussion board. I mean, it's not like these people know the whole person or anything.
If they ever met you in RL without knowing who you were, they might actually like you.
Some years ago I was posting on a discussion board for people with certain disorders. Anybody who thinks this place is crazy would think it's pretty normal compared to the other place, but anyway...
One of my friends decided to do a little experiment. She and another person with a strong personality didn't get along, so my friend created an alter ego and interacted with the other person in a totally different way. The other person "liked" this new alter ego and they got on well until the truth came to light, and then the other person was all whooping and hollering and feeling betrayed because the other person "made" her like someone she actually hated (the person behind the alter ego).
Which goes to show, I guess, that it's not really ourselves people dislike (on a discussion board, anyway), but what we say or how we say it, or how what we say is perceived by others.
But in the end, it still hurts...
rrneck
(17,671 posts)I almost never set out to annoy people. Really. But there are about twenty or so people who don't want to know I exist here. It is fascinating to wonder what I could have possibly have said that would make them want to metaphorically blink someone out of existence.
Major Nikon
(36,818 posts)Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Llewlladdwr
(2,165 posts)pipi_k
(21,020 posts)I do too.
Ignore my own ignore list, I mean.
I just don't want/need to know things like that
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Lil Missy
(17,865 posts)840high
(17,196 posts)ConcernedCanuk
(13,509 posts).
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If someone wants to bad-mouth me, Id prefer to know.
I just don't respond in kind.
It's good to know who is bad-mouthing me I think, -
then I know not to respond to the threads they participate in even if it interests me.
There are those that hide and do not post, just using the PM system to back-stab you.
I been here ten years, and yeah, pissed a few off - can't be here that long and not rub someone the wrong way
200 thousand plus members here - I don't expect all of them to agree with me or like me.
Expectations otherwise would be plain foolish.
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Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)from knowing you are being 'ignored' by people you, yourself, consider to be assholes. As in "Good, I won't have to deal with that twit ever again" Particularly, I think, for those of us who have no one, or very few on our own ignore list.
ConcernedCanuk
(13,509 posts).
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I can read insulting inflammatory posts and ignore it without a button.
One of the benefits of getting older -
many of us don't give a shit what some think about us!
I'm one of them.
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polly7
(20,582 posts)I was sad to know I'd offended someone that much.
Now, I don't care at all. And knowing some of those who've got me on theirs ... it's almost a badge of honour.