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way? As in a little gosseling being in love with his human rescuer? Or as in a child admiring an older person? My mom, when she could speak, used to use the latter all the time.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)In a non-sexual way.
Moondog
(4,833 posts)in places where I have spent some time.
Not so much in the UK, at least the few years that I spent there.
Is it uncommon in Canada?
applegrove
(118,778 posts)I saw it in a story on a baby goose. I've used it. Is it from a time before when people were in love for years before they became sexually active? Were love and sex more separate then? Or did the 'in love' come way before the sex.
Moondog
(4,833 posts)we in the States have gotten a bit sloppy with our choice of words.
To "love" something, or even someone, can mean anything from "he / she / it" is OK, to "I will die without him / her / it". In short, it is contextual here, and it can mean anything from "meh" to undying passion. Sorry to not be of more help.
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)but this may be a regional thing.
OriginalGeek
(12,132 posts)and I'm not in a sexual rela....wait....nevermind..
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)The Greeks have, I believe, 8 different words to describe the various types of love...less confusing I'm sure.
The Magistrate
(95,255 posts)"When a man says he loves his wife, he loves his daughter, and he loves a good hamburger, he had better mean something very different in each instance."
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)I've often wondered why we don't have a better way of expressing 'extreme like' or the various types of love... We tend to assume which type is being expressed...
The Magistrate
(95,255 posts)I tend toward the view that where a language has points where confusion about intended meaning can easily arise, the culture is hiding something from itself about its mores or beliefs concerning that point....
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)that so ails this nation. As long as language can disguise the true intent, the culture can ignore its own culpability in a great many areas.
The Lounge is quite inclusive, as I'm sure you are aware.
The Magistrate
(95,255 posts)I have found it a useful tool. Look at the various meanings of 'property', for instance....
I know the Lounge is broad joint indeed, but I usually visit with levity in mind, or music.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)as 'property rights' are enshrined in the US constitution, more so than that of any other nation.
The Magistrate
(95,255 posts)Covers everything from personal effects, like the books on my shelves, to pieces of paper entitling someone to a portion of the income from an industrial plant covering dozens of acres upon which thousands depend for livelihood. These are very different things, and debate on the subject often consists of convincing people ( or at least trying to convince them ) to see the whole range of meaning in terms of just one slice of it, so that a person, say, forms his views on the question of regulating toxic emissions from a refinery in terms of whether someone should be able to tell him where to put his lawn furniture....
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)or do we need to clearly define the type of property we are discussing? Could we not distinguish between the properties which play no significant role in the public domain, ie. the lawn chair, and those which do, ie. refineries? I think perhaps we could, if we had not become so cavalier about expressing thought.
The Magistrate
(95,255 posts)The different forms need to be clearly delineated; I think we agree on that. This can certainly be done, with the language as it stands, but it generally is not done, and deliberately not done, I suspect, in many instances, because it serves a disputant's purpose to have the various types conflated, and people confused about whether their own interest actually align with someone else's or not. The use of a single word as a catch-all for anything which can be taken as owned by some individual makes this sort of thing more easily done.
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)The issue that remains to be considered is just how one goes about eliminating the confusion created by those who would deprive us of our ability to make an informed decision.
The Magistrate
(95,255 posts)"Men of reason all are men of violence at heart."
trof
(54,256 posts)I've had sex with people I didn't love, and loved people I didn't have sex with.
Fortinbras Armstrong
(4,473 posts)Thereby demonstrating his almost total ignorance of love.
Some years ago, a woman and I had a fairly close relationship that certainly at least verged on love. We once considered having sexual relations, but decided that it would undoubtedly change our relationship, and probably not for the better.
nolabear
(41,991 posts)I'm in love with sweet phrases.
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marzipanni
(6,011 posts)freshwest
(53,661 posts)Locut0s
(6,154 posts)Than sexual.
The only overtly sexual use I can think of is "to make love" and that is starting to seem old fashioned.
I love cake and chocolate.
I absolutely love that TV show.
I'm in love with his music
I love cats
I'd love to help you but I don't have the time too right now
I love people who know how to take a joke
I love going for long hikes
Etc etc...
Xyzse
(8,217 posts)I tend to substitute "love" in the sexual context with the word "want".
So, when that word is used, it is usually for something more positive.
So, even when I use that word to a special someone, I think it is in a better context.
ConcernedCanuk
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especially when they are newly acquired . . .
Car, truck, atv, boat,whatever - - -
firearms
fishing lures/rods
get it?
People say they love their relatives,
not "in-love" -
that is usually reserved for their partner.
hopefully!
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olddots
(10,237 posts)We are loosing languages like endangered species ,there are a little over 6000 languages left .