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rbrnmw

(7,160 posts)
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 11:07 AM Sep 2013

I can't handle anymore deaths

Since August of 2012 I been beset with misfortune I fell off a ladder my Uncle died 4 days later My parents couldn't afford a burial we had to cremate him which he always said he didn't want January, 3, 2013 my 44 year old cousin dies from diabetes and a heart attack March 13, 2013 my dad passes 10 days after being diagnosed with cancer, April 2013 Mom is admitted to ICU with pneumonia and has had a small stroke. June 2013 I am admitted to the James Cancer Center with possible Ovarian Cancer, I have complete hysterectomy on June 24. July 13 2013 My mother has a massive heart attack I pull her off the bed to do CPR she dies hours later at the hospital. August 25 2013 my Aunt passes from cancer. Now I am being told I need more tests because I am still bleeding from a hysterectomy and my CA 125 is slightly elevated. I am losing my husband to another woman though he doesn't know I know about cause he just leaves without telling me most of the time so now I am dealing with that She called for him I answered his "work" phone not knowing. We have 4 kids I am being evicted because SSD has not come through and my husband barely makes enough to pay all the bills. I need my DU friends now more than ever I need a shoulder to cry on that isn't family they too have been through enough this year.

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I can't handle anymore deaths (Original Post) rbrnmw Sep 2013 OP
Hey In_The_Wind Sep 2013 #1
We are always here for you. NYC_SKP Sep 2013 #2
I am on effexor but the counseling rbrnmw Sep 2013 #3
you mentioned the James (Cancer Center?) irisblue Sep 2013 #7
Oh my, that IS too much. redwitch Sep 2013 #4
That is a whole lotta bad stuff at once Duer 157099 Sep 2013 #5
That is way too much of a load... LiberalEsto Sep 2013 #6
That is really too much to handle within a year. RebelOne Sep 2013 #8
That's a lot to bear rbrnmw. Vibes for strength and wisdom going out too you. bluesbassman Sep 2013 #9
We'll always be here for you. LeftofObama Sep 2013 #10
That's too much stress for you to handle. We're here for you, but B Calm Sep 2013 #11
If your hysterectomy was done with robotic surgery, see an attorney. MiddleFingerMom Sep 2013 #12
I know its tough Ahpook Sep 2013 #13
. graywarrior Sep 2013 #14
What is your wishadoo name and can you link for donations? riderinthestorm Sep 2013 #15
rbrnmw same as here rbrnmw Sep 2013 #16
Oh my.. SammyWinstonJack Sep 2013 #17

rbrnmw

(7,160 posts)
3. I am on effexor but the counseling
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 11:14 AM
Sep 2013

center can't see me until October unless I am suicidal which I am not I could not even think about doing that to my kids.

irisblue

(32,911 posts)
7. you mentioned the James (Cancer Center?)
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 01:23 PM
Sep 2013

if you are in Franklin County, or near Columbus Ohio call Netcare 614-276-CARE(2273). There is emergency care 27/7/365.

redwitch

(14,939 posts)
4. Oh my, that IS too much.
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 11:17 AM
Sep 2013
I hope you can get the financial assistance you need to stay in your home and that you have actual shoulders to cry on and not just our virtual ones. Someone is always here to listen, usually lots of someones. I send you loving energy my friend.

Duer 157099

(17,742 posts)
5. That is a whole lotta bad stuff at once
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 12:13 PM
Sep 2013

I've had strings like that, but never to that extent. I don't even know what to say because there's nothing to say other than I feel your pain.

RebelOne

(30,947 posts)
8. That is really too much to handle within a year.
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 02:04 PM
Sep 2013

But you seem to be coping with it. I don't know that I could. Good luck. I hope circumstances improve soon.

bluesbassman

(19,358 posts)
9. That's a lot to bear rbrnmw. Vibes for strength and wisdom going out too you.
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 02:11 PM
Sep 2013

The best advice I can offer is to try and focus on one thing at a time, your own health being the most important.

 

B Calm

(28,762 posts)
11. That's too much stress for you to handle. We're here for you, but
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 07:01 PM
Sep 2013

you should seek professional help for stress.

MiddleFingerMom

(25,163 posts)
12. If your hysterectomy was done with robotic surgery, see an attorney.
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 07:10 PM
Sep 2013

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There has been a problem with post-surgical bleeding with some of those.
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Ahpook

(2,748 posts)
13. I know its tough
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 07:38 PM
Sep 2013

I lost four brothers, my wife, grandparents, stepfather, my beloved Labrador and my cousin to suicide in a 4 year span. If the phone rang I would break out in tears thinking more shit had happened.

I honestly numbed myself with drugs of any kind and booze for a couple years. Bad mistake cause when you finally clean out, the real pain starts.

Stay strong and healthy

 

riderinthestorm

(23,272 posts)
15. What is your wishadoo name and can you link for donations?
Thu Sep 12, 2013, 09:25 PM
Sep 2013

I know One Grass Root has you on her donation page...

Please let people financially help you AND give you a shoulder to lean on...

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