Dad - you were a good dad

[Taverner]

You were a good dad

You made us look things up

You made us question everything

Even if that made us disagree with you

You were a GOOD dad

I remember when you picked me up from juvy in Pacerville.

The look on your face was priceless.

Since I had dyed my hair blonde a la ‘The Outsiders’

I could watch you form the words “what the fuck?” with your lips

I remember when you took us kids to your work

For fun you took us in your patrol car

Brought us to whatever arrest procedure was done in the 80s

Then showed us SJPD on W Mission

I remember the cars you drove home in the late 80s

The unmarked cars that looked like rentals

Even in my teenage years I asked

“Where is that siren light they use on TV? You know, the one you’re supposed to affix to the roof…”

I also remember a man who read every night

A man who appreciated the validated and proven

He wanted evidence of whatever claim you made

This prepared me for a world that required proof

Half-assed speculations were just that

Proof comprised of evidence were what they were

Dad, you were a great father

The two of us would never have turned out like we did

If it weren’t for you

I miss you dad

And I will forever

[antiquie]

1. <<<<>>>>

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. I am so sorry to read of your loss, my dear Taverner...

May he rest in peace.

And may your good memories of him sustain you through this time of transcendent grief...

[MiddleFingerMom]

3. I am very sorry for your loss.

[In_The_Wind]

4. May he rest in peace.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[denbot]

5. You have my most sincere condolences.

Peace.

[livetohike]

6. My sympathy to you and your family Taverner and to everyone who knew and loved your Dad

May the good memories of times with your Dad help ease the sadness of his final days......he will live in your heart forever.

[HarveyDarkey]

7. Words fail me at times like this, so I seldom say anything

My heartfelt sympathies to you and all those others that loved him.
I know it's not much, but it's all I can offer.

[Callmecrazy]

8. Sorry friend...

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamonds glint of snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the autumn's gentle rain.
When you waken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.

[Taverner]

19. +1000

[nolabear]

9. A sweet tribute. I'm sorry, Taverner. May he cross easy.

[Kaleva]

10. He's leaving knowing he couldn't have asked for a better son.

[WilliamPitt]

11. I'm sorry, brother.

[LiberalEsto]

12. I'm so sorry for your loss

[graywarrior]

13. Sorry for your loss, Tav.

[NewJeffCT]

14. I'm very sorry for your loss

You and your family have my sympathy.

[JCMach1]

15. Dear Taverner,

So very very sorry...

[SalmonChantedEvening]

16. My deepest sympathies, Taverner.

You are in the best sense of the term, a very fortunate son. Bless his memory, and your grieving heart.

[Johnny Ready]

17. I know you don't know me

but I felt like saying your Dad raised one hell of a son to feel that way about his Father. The apple really doesn't fall far from the tree.

My condolences, hang in there.

[HillWilliam]

18. So terribly sorry

What a beautiful tribute.

[glinda]

20. RIP. Sorry Taverner.

[applegrove]

21. I am so sorry. He did not suffer a long time. Still, you are never

ready. VIBES!!!

[MuseRider]

22. Oh Taverner

I am so sorry. He sounds like he set quite an example for you. I wish you and yours peace in the following days.

[alphafemale]

23. Very sorry. nt

[babylonsister]

24. I am so sorry, Taverner,

but your honoring him like you did is the mark of a truly good man, both of you! He knows and is smiling.

[renate]

25. there is nothing I want more from life than for my kids to feel like this about me

Your words here are beautiful. Your dad did indeed do good.

I am so sorry.

[No Vested Interest]

26. Such a beautiful tribute to your father, Taverner, and such wonderful memories.

I'm sure you realize how fortunate you and your brother have been.

Condolences to you both, good and loyal sons.

[westerebus]

27. My sincerest condolences

[sarge43]

28. Condolences Taverner

May your memories give peace and confort

[derby378]

29. Taverner, I am so sorry.

Love and solace to you and your family.

[Jack Rabbit]

30. ()

[Demeter]

31. Condolences

one newly orphaned to another....we are truly the adults, now.

[liberalmuse]

32. What a beautiful tribute.

This is deeply touching. I'm really sorry you lost your dad. I wish more men knew how fucking much it means to kids to just be there. Be a dad. Many of us never knew what you knew, so I hope you take some comfort in that. Your dad sounds pretty remarkable. Thank you for posting this.

[rurallib]

33. our condolences, Taverner

been following the last few days. The end is always tough.
but you have memories that will last you forever.

Soon as VP Biden said - the smiles will come before the tears when you think of him.

[donnasgirl]

34. Thank you so much

For this post, even though I remember my parents each and everyday your post made me remember why I miss them so much, one thing to keep in mind, every time you think of him do it with a warm smile.

[mopinko]

35. i tell my kids- i am all flaws, held together by good intentions.

i finally realized that my father had been, too. he gave me an amazing mix of genes, and i am my father's daughter. i am only really seeing it now that my own kids show me that they have inherited those parts of me.
in a lot of ways he was a bad father. but somehow i ended up in a place that would have made him so happy. i did what he failed at. i built a place that where he would have been at home. happy.
but he pissed that away. and was a jerk. and was extremely unlucky, where i have been truly blessed.
fwiw, it took me 40 years to get here. it will take you a long time.
be brave.

[Bertha Venation]

36. I'm very sorry, Taverner.

You wrote a lovely tribute.

[Sissyk]

37. There is nothing I or anyone can do or say

to help with the way you feel right now.

Just know, you are in my thoughts.

He would be very proud of that beautiful tribute to him.

[LibDemAlways]

38. What a lovely tribute.

Thanks for sharing. Sending heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I hope that memories of good times shared bring peace and comfort.

[orleans]

39. and now life is forever changed

i'm very sorry.

"When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight."
--Kahlil Gibran, from The Prophet

[rbnyc]

40. Thinking of you.

Thanks for sharing that beautiful tribute with us.

[redwitch]

41. I am glad you loved him so much.

But I am sorry for the sadness that fills you now.

[jtuck004]

42. My dad was nice enough, most times, but abusive when

he punished. Unthinking racist like most people of his generation. Rarely drank. Left one wife after WWII, outlived the next one and started a new family with a third (but he let my sister and I live in his house while he went onwards, till he stuck us in boarding schools to get us out of the way). I know he cared somewhat, but he wasn't exactly the emotionally bonding type, and I got my education despite him He got pretty well screwed over in business, which he didn't deserve, and died after bankruptcy, which hurt him.

Still, it devastated me when he died, so when I hear of someone who was close to their father I can only think their sense of loss, and pain, is worse. We will have some good thoughts for you.

Out of my experience, however, I found that there was something that changed in my outlook when I outlived my father. A piece that suddenly matured, perhaps, even though I was already a married, working adult. I've spoken with a number of men who felt the same thing in themselves, some months later. And I am stronger for it. I hope you can find something that helps you from this.

[GreenPartyVoter]

43. I'm so very sorry for your loss, and deeply touched by your post.

[proud patriot]

44. wonderful words , I am so sorry for your loss

big hug .. sounds like a great dad.

[GoCubsGo]

45. I'm so sorry, Taverner.

Your dad sounded like a really neat guy.

[Taverner]

93. He was - albeit a total conservative

And the only reason why I can think is that he was a cop in the 60s

But he was fun to be around, even if you were a liberal. Actually, especially if you were a liberal.

[CherokeeDem]

46. So sorry for your loss....

Thank you for sharing such a beautiful tribute. May you and your family find solace in your memories.

Peace be with you all...

[dorkzilla]

47. He sounds like an amazing man

He sounds like a man worth celebrating. And you will, for the rest of your life.

So very sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace.

[Generic Other]

48. A wonderful tribute to your father

The torch passes.

[Rhythm]

49. *tight hugs and condolences*

[roguevalley]

50. i wish you peace Tavener. you could be tking about my dad.

They were something that generation. Only time is your friend now. And me. Take care, you and yours.

[RebelOne]

51. Your dad must have been a wonderful man.

Sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace.

[supernova]

52. So sorry for your loss

[handmade34]

53. your memories are priceless

[Taverner]

54. Yes. I hope I can pass them on to my kids nt

[cristianmarie533]

55. Sorry to hear that your dad didn't make it.

I felt the exact same way when my favorite uncle died 3 years ago. He was like a father to me. Anyway, I hope your dad is in a better place now.

[hopemountain]

56. sorry for your loss

and happy that you have wonderful memories and thoughts of your good

[progressoid]

57. Lovely.

[amyrose2712]

58. Sorry for your loss...

[TuxedoKat]

59. Darn

I just saw this after I posted in your other thread. I'm so sorry he didn't make it. What a great dad you had and what a lovely tribute you wrote for him. (((HUGS)))

[hibbing]

60. Wonderful tribute

Hi,
I'm sorry for your loss, that was a beautiful tribute.

Peace

[pacalo]

61. I'm so sorry about your loss, Taverner.

That's a beautiful tribute to your dad.

[haele]

62. So sorry -

It's a special relationship, and it's always hard to say goodby.

Haele

[OmahaBlueDog]

63. RIP

I have neither validation nor evidence, but I hope he's in a better place.

[ClayZ]

64. Sorry for your loss.

Lucky... you were, to have a Dad like that! And, lucky was he, to have a son like you.

[fizzgig]

65. i am very sorry for your loss

to you and yours

[UrbScotty]

66. I am so sorry, Taverner.

[blueamy66]

67. Sorry Taverner

😢

[Phentex]

68. I'm sorry for your loss, T...

my condolences.

[davidpdx]

69. I am sorry for your loss

I know you have been struggling with his health and the end nearing. The worst is over. He is in a better place and not suffering.

It's good to see you remember for who he was and has always been to you rather than the fragile state he's been in lately.

Even 10 years after losing my father it really seems like yesterday. I know it's early, but I've found in the years after sometimes joking with my brother and half-sister about his little quirks helped us not only remember him but also laugh as well.

[panader0]

70. Beautiful tribute

[abbeyco]

71. Deepest condolences to you

Enjoy the memories you have - what you wrote is simply wonderful.

[walkerbait41]

72. So sorry for your loss

[Squinch]

73. What a beautiful tribute.

It made me cry.

I am so sorry you have lost such a good father, but I am so glad you had him in the first place.

[bigwillq]

74. I am so sorry for your loss.

[joeybee12]

75. Very sweet and sad...

[Throd]

76. So sorry to hear that.

[Bombero1956]

77. I'm sorry about the loss of your father

But I'm happy that you have such fond memories of him. Where would we be without our Dads?

[SammyWinstonJack]

78. ...

[OhioChick]

79. I'm sorry for your loss

[MADem]

80. Those of us who were lucky enough to have had a great dad know exactly what you are feeling right

now.

What helped me was spending time with others who loved him, reliving the good times, and talking it out. It was a pretty painful time for us, though, I won't lie.

Eventually, the pain recedes and the good memories abide. It doesn't happen in a hurry, but it does happen with time.

[Raffi Ella]

81. I'm sorry for your loss,

my heart goes out to you, Taverner.

[WillyT]

82. :( ::::::::::::::::::::::::::

Peace...

[GentryDixon]

83. I am very sorry for your loss, Taverner.

Your Dad put up a good fight, and you have been through a great deal of late. Take time for yourself, and cherish the memories. My Dad passed 10 years ago, but I still have him in my thoughts almost daily. The grief will ease in time, and you will then find comfort. You will never stop missing him, but it will get easier.

[Aldo Leopold]

84. My dad died exactly two years ago 12 days from now

and I'm still recovering. God damn, it's a hard and enduring loss. Thanks for this beautiful post, Taverner. It calls to mind some precious experiences of my own...

[Liberal Veteran]

85. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Your tribute is beautiful.

[Rebellious Republican]

86. Beautiful words T.....

Stories like this have a special place in my heart, you see my father died 48 years ago when I was five in a car accident. It sounds like you had a good relationship with him. For those that do not, here is a video , take it from someone who knows, some things you can never get back!

[csziggy]

87. My sympathies, Taverner. Condolences to you and your family

I lost my Dad August 25. I will miss him forever.

[frogmarch]

88. What a wonderful tribute to your dad,

Taverner. I am very sorry for your loss.

[Ishoutandscream2]

89. Peace be with you and your family.

[ClusterFreak]

90. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

I recently lost my mom and posted a tribute to her here like you have done so eloquently for your dad. Never let go of the memories, and you'll never be without him.

-- Pat

[Boomerproud]

91. (((Taverner)))

May your memories and a great support system get you through this difficult time.

[raptor_rider]

92. I so very sorry Taverner,

He sounds like an upstanding guy, that loved, unconditionally. I hope you are at peace with his passing. My love to you and your family.

[cherokeeprogressive]

94. Aww dammit. I'm SO sorry for your loss Taverner.

Would that there were something I could say that might alleviate your sense of loss somehow. I know that's not possible. All I can do is offer to you my most sincere condolences. I can't walk in your shoes because I haven't suffered that loss yet. I can say this though, I live in fear of what you're going through, and I live with that fear each and every day. I live in fear of losing my Dad every day. He's comin' up on 80, just lost his last Brother last month, and each time I talk to him he sounds less enthusiastic about carrying on.

If I were within arms reach of you at this moment, I'd grab you and hold you tight. I'd squeeze you for all I was worth.

Please accept these heartfelt condolences. While there may have passed unkind words between us in the past, at this moment that's all simply water under the bridge.

I'm sorry for your loss Taverner.

[monmouth3]

95. My sincere condolences to you and yours...

[Arugula Latte]

96. So sorry about your dad, Taverner.