If someone abandons you when things are at their worst, consider it a blessing

[Miles Archer]

REALLY short version, omitting MOST of the personal dirt:

Met her a year ago, we've been pretty much inseparable, she showed up at my front door yesterday and said "see ya."

I think I miss the friendship more than anything else. All of the other elements of a healthy relationship were there too but I really considered her as my partner in crime. I was in a state of shock. I think my actual words were "Are you KIDDING me?"

BUT...while I have some genuinely ugly things going on right now that will all hit around November 1st (one week to make a miracle happen), the first thing that came to mind is "Are we dealing with Newt Gingrich syndrome here? If...God forbid...I got cancer, would she have walked out on that too?" It's better to know that she's not there for me, and that she no longer wants me there for her, than it is to pretend I have something that I don't. Doesn't stop it from hurting like Hell but it's better to know than to live in a state of blissful ignorance.

I'm not perfect...I'm Italian and that means all of the good things and all of the baggage. But she spent a year on a pedestal of my own making and yesterday said "I think I''m going to come down now." And my option was to watch her step down and walk away. I'm not the type of guy to plead with someone who's writing me off for dead.

Onward and upward.

[Wounded Bear]

1. If you loan someone $20 and never see them again.....

it was probably worth it.



Best wishes moving forward, guy.

Life goes on.

[Miles Archer]

2. Thanks...

...I think you and I are on the same page on this one.

[LeftofObama]

3. I think you are 100% spot on in your assessment!

You're definitely looking at it in the best way you can! Things will get better and so will you!

[Miles Archer]

10. This is a first for me

In the past it would have been me "reacting"...badly. Some parts of "maturity" aren't all they're cracked up to be, but in this situation, I'm grateful for seeing things through my 2013 pair of eyes.

[Joe Shlabotnik]

4. Don’t depend too much on anyone in this world,

even your own shadow leaves you when you are in darkness. - Ibn Taymiyyah. Such is life.

[Miles Archer]

5. That's a keeper

[Marie Marie]

6. When someone shows you who they are - believe them.

I'm sorry that she hurt you Miles, but always better to find that out sooner than later. May the real woman of your dreams be right around the corner. Until then, be your own best friend.

[Miles Archer]

8. You're right on all points

Thanks.

[bluesbassman]

7. Sorry Brother. Know it stings, but that will fade.

Onward and upward indeed.

[Miles Archer]

9. Thanks BBM

"This too shall pass."

[applegrove]

11. When you are going through hell, keep going. You are a catch with

wisdom like that.

[Miles Archer]

12. Thanks applegrove.

[beemer27]

13. She did you a favor.

This is a lesson that we all have to learn, and you found it out without a lot of loss. We come into this world alone, and will leave this world alone. In the time between these two events we will meet a lot of people. Some will enrich our lives, some will be real assholes, and some will just pass thru meaning little or nothing. You have to live your life, and she has to live hers. Sometimes people get together and stay that way for a long time. This is good, but it is not the norm. Be happy that you and her had a good year to share with each other, and move on with your own life.
Live well, and may you have a rich and happy life!