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(149,593 posts)UTUSN
(70,684 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,593 posts)Callmecrazy
(3,065 posts)Welcome to the party.
Funny how we(I) only need to prove it to other men.
The women know I'm all man.
UTUSN
(70,684 posts)Paulie
(8,462 posts)UTUSN
(70,684 posts)Revanchist
(1,375 posts)nolabear
(41,959 posts)Marie Marie
(9,999 posts)If not, then it is just a theory and then Alex Jones will turn it into a Conspiracy Theory and we don't want that!
MiddleFingerMom
(25,163 posts)zabet
(6,793 posts)having a 'man card' is proof enough.
Or did you get yours revoked and aare trying to earn it back?
In_The_Wind
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panader0
(25,816 posts)In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)Thank you vedy, vedy much.
UTUSN
(70,684 posts)The king-of-the-hill, paragon at the watering hole, respected/admired/envied/adored by one and all was just coasting without his usual pool (billiards) partners not in attendance. His joy at a couple of tables after his high pressure job is palpable.
I did not have a misspent youth, so I acquired some pool playing very late, at 21 in the Navy, the source and period of most of my life expanding, for good or ill, experiences. I stuck with it for the next ten years, under the wrong belief that improvement would come. Oh, I was able to slam off some amazing slop shots, and could sometimes shoot from around behind my back or with the cue straight up in the air, but finally I realized that I had reached the plateau I had probably been at from near the beginning, and I dropped it right out of my life.
Once every decade or so I do it, mostly for effect. Barflies who have never seen me near a table are duly impressed with some of my flash and dash, minus the winning part, how comfortably I handle myself around the chalk.
So last night I mustered the courage to invite the king to ONE table, as a service to him. He is a true gentleman, was surprised, and portents bode ill as I dropped a ball on the floor while racking. Yes, I missed some shots nobody would, but also made at least three excellent (not slop) shots, including a combination with both balls sinking (O.K., the cue ball went, too). I sensed the King was cutting me slack, and the peanut gallery was breathing Pity. But I got the effect.
So it ended with the King scratching (Edit: wrong pocket for 8ball), which I believe was his being the gentleman letting me technically win. For the heart I displayed. We shook chalky hands and he was regally munificent in declaring what a good game it was. Later, when he left, he came over to me to shake again and repeated it was a good game and said, "We'll play another game sometime."
It was extremely stressful and pressured, which defeats the premise of the o.p.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)and really - do you write for a living?
sl8
(13,748 posts)IrishEyes
(3,275 posts)There is nothing cooler than a man secure enough in his masculinity to do something traditionally considered feminine.
UTUSN
(70,684 posts)When I was 10 or so, I had empathy for my mother every day as she ironed my father's white shirt before breakfast and before her getting herself ready to go to work (they worked at the same place), and I asked her to show me how to iron my own shirts, which I do to this day. Then in the Navy, there was something called a ditty bag that included a sewing kit for buttons and such, and I've sewn military patches on uniform shirts and caps, badly, and for looks have them redone by dry cleaning tailors just because of the professional looks of the job. I was a mean square dancer in elementary school and, frankly, have spent the past ten months recuperating from a fractured fibula over a stomping type of dance. I'll cop to cooking, having interviewed my mother for our family recipes before it was too late, and I can fire them up as tasty as my mother's. Baking, I'll sort of pass on, although I can follow a recipe's instructions. Knitting, I'll definitely pass on, although it sounds therapeutic, something I could use (the therapeutic part).
Actually, my father was a good man, but he was orphaned at 13 and his older brothers weren't very fatherly, so he didn't know what or how to teach me stuff. Actually, my mother tried with some of that besides her own stuff. The Navy did the rest. Since then I've made it a practice to chat people up, interview them about their skills, and get tips. I still don't feel cool, always striving after all the stuff I don't know.
IrishEyes
(3,275 posts)I have always loved when someone would teach me about what they are passionate about. I have a dad, step dad, mom, step mom and lots of older brothers who were nice to their baby sister. They were happy to teach me stuff. Since I'm interested in so many things, I have never run out of stuff to learn. Here is a list of some skills off the top of my head. Some of them are considered manly skills. I haven't done all of these yet.
Self Defense
Shooting
Fencing
Car Mechanics
Wilderness Survival
Sailing
Motorcycling
Rock Climbing
Hang Gliding
Archery
Poker
Scuba Diving
Surfing
Foreign Language
Bar tending
First Aid
Horseback Riding
Swimming
Drawing
Fishing