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Had a family get-together for Thanksgving dinner, one relative went all "clean freak," chewed out another relative for touching his nose.
Viciously. Said his hands were now covered in "filth."
Then another relative got into a physical fight with her son.
Lot of pushing and shoving and others trying to keep them apart.
Glad to be home, with my kitties.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Archae
(46,362 posts)Just upsets me, and my Mom pretty badly.
Art_from_Ark
(27,247 posts)At least, not my blood relatives. The only time there was friction at a Thanksgiving dinner was when one of my sister's in-laws started going on and on about Pearl Harbor after I had told everyone about my trip to Japan. I said that Pearl Harbor had been more than 50 years ago and that today's Japan was nothing at all like Imperial Japan, but he still went on and on. So I decided to avoid further confrontation by going outside for a while.
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)it was riddled with alcoholics and the like.
Anyway, yesterday, as usual, we went to the oldest stepdaughter's house, where it was her and her hubby, her hubby's widower dad, her dad's brother and his wife and their grown son, me and Mr Pipi and the middle daughter and hubby and his father, and their 2 1/2 year old daughter.
I remarked on the way home that I'm glad in all the years we've gotten together with various people over there, nobody has ever discussed politics/religion. We just talk about silly stuff and laugh a lot.
The only stain on the evening was the banshee screaming done by the toddler, and the banging of metal utensils on her auntie's beautiful teakwood dining table (many dents left) and neither parent so much as batting an eye. Well, that's not true, exactly. Her mom issued a couple of half-hearted admonitions for the kid to stop while continuing to set the kid up to fail by giving her back the metal fork instead of finding the kid-friendly plastic one. Mr Pipi, beside me, was getting quite pissed at his daughter for allowing her kid to act like a brat.
As for myself, I was busy blocking my ears from the noise of banging and screaming because I'm hypersensitive to nose, and dammit, it was PAINFUL. I really wanted to cry.
I had a headache when we left.
and I'm getting to be not so thrilled about future family gatherings there.
NV Whino
(20,886 posts)Thanksgiving (and other holidays) with cats or fronds (with no family).
Safe. Sane. Lots of fun.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)TBF
(32,114 posts)now that I live 1200 miles away!
rurallib
(62,468 posts)well as my friend used to say - you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your family.
mucifer
(23,580 posts)you can't pick your friend's nose.
magical thyme
(14,881 posts)for my mother to go on a screaming, abusive, rageaholic meltdown.
Pretty much every day was an excuse, come to think of it, but the holidays added extra hours and intensity since we were all on lazy inconsiderate do-nothings on vacations from whatever, deliberately spoiling my mother's lazy, do-nothing every days. No wonder I loved being in school. Being bullied and teased by classmates held nothing to mommie dearest.
That's why I now spend holidays alone with my furfamily, except when I'm scheduled to work. No drama for the holidays here, tyvm.
B Calm
(28,762 posts)bothering to cover his nose.
mokawanis
(4,454 posts)I didn't complain when my son showed up with a friend who wasn't invited, but I didn't like it. The only other problem we had is that my wife dropped $525 on dinner for 11 people. When I saw the receipt for the groceries we had a tense but productive discussion. Next year everyone invited brings a dish.
Man, I hate the fucking holidays. Can't wait for Dec. 26th.
geardaddy
(24,931 posts)My mom does most of the cooking, but we each bring something to share.