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Related: Culture Forums, Support Forumsthe breakup..part two :)
I posted a week or whatever ago that the wife and I are breaking up.Next Sunday will be the day we go our separate ways and both move into our new places.
I helped her move some boxes and stuff into her new place yesterday she is moving into a 40 year old trailer in the back of a trailer park where the average trailer is about 40 years old.Her next door neighbor has 4 pit bulls that run loose....her neighbors across the street are two males of about age 70 that are already hitting on her....she found out there have been two shootings there this year....all in all a lovely neighborhood
Then we took some boxes to my new apartment....4 1400 square foot apartments all alone on a hill...they are built from an old mansion....4 30 foot tall granite pillars at the entrance...oak floors...heat pump...dishwasher...literally living in one forth of an old mansion...amazing place.Island kitchen...just an absolutely amazing apartment.
We pay the same rent
She walked into my place...looked around...and said i hate you and laughed.
I give it 60 days before the pampered drama queen calls me crying wanting to talk.
IF we get back together it will be on terms that are more equitable
CaliforniaPeggy
(151,743 posts)Good luck...........to BOTH of you!
I truly hope you can come back together, and live happily...
backwoodsbob
(6,001 posts)the fighting is all about her kid...25 years old..wont work...wont look for work...we pay his almost 500 a month car payment plus his 200 a month insurance and buy his gas and cigs and give him pocket money while he lays in bed till two in the afternoon.
It won't take long for her to realize he needs to get off his ass and grow up
We have fought for 11 years over *her baby*....I give it two months of her supporting him without my input to wake up
backwoodsbob
(6,001 posts)I've been begging for OT at work and getting it...the bosses know my situation
I've been working 70+hours a week for months trying to make ends meet because of her kids bills....I will probably if I end the OT stuff make 75k+ already this year...she has never had to make it on her own and now she has to make her payments and payments for his primadonna ass too.
She is in for a shock.
I love her but she needs this to realize she cant baby him forever
Sedona
(3,811 posts)My SO ended up supporting his ex's three adult children AND their spouses AND three grandchildren to boot. Not to mention their 5 dogs. All under the same roof no less. This was the thanks he got for raising another man's children for over two decades. The youngest is in his mid 30's, the oldest over 40.
He left her two years ago once he finally realized the deadbeats meant more to her than her marriage.
The happy ending was for me (with three lovely self sufficient daughters) who ended up with a loyal, caring partner. So did he.
backwoodsbob
(6,001 posts)If all OT stops today I will be near 75k....if the ot continues...i will hit 100k this yearshe will make maybe 20k if she is lucky....her 25 year old kid wont work and now she has to not only live on her own..she has to pay her *babies* way too.
I give it 60 days
backwoodsbob
(6,001 posts)I get the cool dogs...she gets the neurotic pains .
My dogs are the badasses...katie is seriously OCD and doesnt take ANYTHING near her domain lightly.....and I get the big boy...I get Junior...he follows katie and will let anything she doesnt like know she has some badass backup.
Katie is OCD and Junior is her follower...They love me and I LOVE them.
Junior is my boy...he will never replace Buddy Guy....no dog will....Damn I miss him....crying again thinking about the Budster...I miss him more than I will miss her.
The Budster was my once in a life friend...I miss him so much...DAMN I miss the BUDSTER!!!!!
I miss him SO BAD
The Budster would make all this easier...I miss him so bad.
DAMN I loved him
antiquie
(4,299 posts)HeiressofBickworth
(2,682 posts)I'll say it anyway. You need to see a divorce lawyer. Even if you aren't contemplating a divorce at this time. You need to know what to expect if or when you do go through with a divorce. With the difference in income, you could wind up having to pay her alimony. You will need to make decisions on pensions, insurance, title of autos or land, etc. What ever agreement you have made on division of personal items, furniture, etc., you should get in writing.
And, if it is what you want, you get back together, a written agreement on rights and responsibilities would be helpful. There can be so many misunderstandings without a document to refer to.
I'm glad you are happy with the dogs who will be going with you. They will adjust to the changes and be satisfied just to be with you.
Sedona
(3,811 posts)but when said and done he still says it was worth every penny. His cost of living is significantly less now that he's not supporting a family of ten.