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I love to explore and find new music. As someone who only gets a response to about every 20th post, I understand your frustration. 
trolls on DU. I made my mark initially by posting within the Texas group and spread out from there.
It also helps if you share some information about yourself so you might want to include some vitals about yourself within your profile. It doesn't have to get personal--race, gender and approximate age are usually good starts. I would not include any information that you don't want to share because the trolls out there will use that information against you.
That said, I have been surprised at how friendly some of the people here at DU are. I was going through some very troubling times during the first half of last year and the support from DU was amazing. If you find someone who you admire, then send them a DU mail and let them know. It might serve as an ice-breaker. 
But you can rise above them. In doing so, you'll make a new bunch of friends that also don't like clique mentality.
That I saw posters threaten to call you and schedule an ass-kicking before I had any idea who you were 
it was very properly intimidating 
I used to kick F16 pilot ass when I was USAF enlisted 
I hear tell that you're not an official member of DU until you've had your ass kicked by Skittles at least once, so lets go!
What did you fly?
they've come a long way baby
KMOD has made it into Du and doesn't even know it.
Skittles has never threatened to kick my ass.
Wake up OP!
No surprise between the cops shooting black males like its free and the gun rampages and the expected mid-term gloating by right wingers.
I always tell people that the Internet is a very hostile place.
Want proof?
I'm here.
I haven't cracked the code either. Doesn't really matter or change anything for me. I don't expect or expose enough of my personal details to make friends on any website, nor would I want to. But don't feel too alone or sad if people aren't as open as you'd like. Online personalities are not necessarily anything like the people they represent so you really never know who or what you're dealing with.
In any case, I'll be your friend!
Love it! Me too, dammit!
Did you get snubbed in high school by the in crowd? You have a hyper-sensitivity to perceiving people as excluding you. Your perception is completely subjective -- as is every one else's for that matter. But the marvelous way that the mind works is that you can change your point of view and attitude about your perceptions. Not once has it ever occurred to me that DU is "cliquey." Yes I have observed some folks are very friendly and have ongoing in-jokes for years here. But I never feel "left out," because my assumption is that I belong just as much as any one else. Stop trying so hard to "fit in," and assume that you already do. Choose to change your point of view. 
and while there are cliques here, as well as some afraid of trolls and cyber-stalkers, I found there are also people who are open to newbies.
So just keep hanging in, hang out with those that are open, and don't worry about the cliques. It's the same thing in the real world; some people never really left high school.
I like you KMOD and appreciate your perspective and everything you bring to the table!
Because of the cliques.
Keep on keeping on however. You're voice is welcome here by me!
you ARE cool. And already a lounge staple.
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It's ones with post counts of 50, 60, 70 K.
I've been here since 2004. And my post in GD drop like stones. 
have wondered where you'd gone to. It's such a big place, though.. sometimes it takes a bit to realize.. hey, I haven't seen KMOD in awhile! I still wonder what happened to Texas4obama? She use to post all the time.. the best things and poof.. gone! 
Anyway, hope you think about posting still.. I'd miss ya! 
clique hug)
I hope you will hang in here. You will be missed if you stop posting.
I didn't even realize you were "new" until I just looked at your post count. I thought you had been posting for a long time! I never sensed that you did not feel welcome.
The answer---really--- is to post more, not less. I don't click on music links, but have enjoyed seeing your posts and hope you will continue to visit the Lounge.
Over the years, I have seen "cliques" come and go. Honestly, I see far LESS of that kind of activity in the past couple of years. Some posters do know each other outside of DU, but most just show up here, check in, say a few words, and go back to their daily lives. Please don't take it personally or give up!
I did understand 'cliques' when I was in high school, was a member, but don't get it here at DU. I respond when interested in a post, often say 'hi,' and go on. Friendliness? Dunno, interest in subject matter is more like it. Please stay, KMOD, as some of yours have been interesting to me, as I recall. (Keep in mind my memory may not be as good as that of others!)
why my threads always sink like stones in the Lounge and in GD while other threads of similar (or lesser) quality get more attention, and maybe cliquishness is why. It's odd because I've been on here for almost 3 years now, so I'm not new. In fact, I wasn't mentioned once in the GD's poster appreciation thread from early last year, despite having over 5K posts in over two years and despite getting replies to my comments regularly. I wonder if I need to get into more arguments here.
