My wife wants me to be a house husband.

[Tobin S.]

I could deal with that if she made enough money to make it possible. I've been cleaning and making her breakfast and lunch every day since I've been off work. It's not a bad gig, although we do not have any children. Things might be considerably tougher if we did.

[pinboy3niner]

1. iirc, that wasn't what you just worked so hard to get your degree for

And I'm sure that's not what she wants, ether.

NO TOBIN FLAMEBAIT LOUNGE POSTS!

[Tobin S.]

4. She said she wants to keep me in the kitchen, barefoot, and pregnant.

She sounded pretty serious to me.

Actually, what I've been doing with a good chunk of my time off is researching companies and applying for jobs.

[Indi Guy]

20. If you actually GOTpregnant...

...you'd be set for life -- with all the world wide notoriety and endorsements.

[Tobin S.]

21. This sounds like a good strategy for my retirement portfolio.

I'm going to see if we can get started on this tonight. I don't know why a man hasn't thought to get pregnant before now.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. I would be very cautious about agreeing to do this, my dear Tobin...

You just finished going to school so that you could get a really good job, one that would use your talents.

Perhaps a compromise is in order?

You both work at jobs you love, and you hire someone to clean house.

That's one way to handle it. There are certainly other ways.

Good Luck!

[Tobin S.]

3. I'm not really going to be a house husband, Peggy.

As I said in the OP, she would have to be making a lot more money for us to truly entertain the idea.

I don't know if you missed the thread, but I've been off of work getting tested for sleep apnea. According to the doctor who did my DOT physical for my job, I am at risk for having sleep apnea because I am overweight and I have a large neck. I can't go back to work until I get this sorted out because my physical certification has expired.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. Ah, OK. I'm glad to hear you won't do this!

I did see your post on your getting tested for sleep apnea, though I didn't comment. I think they'll decide you're fine, and then you'll get your certificate back.

Life sure is interesting sometimes, isn't it?

[Tobin S.]

6. Yes, you never know what life has in store for you sometimes.

Regarding the certification, I'll get that whether I have sleep apnea or not. If I do have the illness, I will have to get a CPAP machine and wear it when I sleep. I will also have to get re-certified every year instead of every two years. But I don't think I have any of the symptoms and I think the test is going to be negative.

All of that might be moot here in the near future. It just depends on how soon I land a new job.

[pinboy3niner]

7. I know you're worried about your driving cert

But even as safe and reliable as that occupation is to you, you're an educated and talented man and if that doesn't work out you have other opportunities. Whatever happens it will be scary, until you find your berth. But somehow I think you're going to come out alright, whichever way it goes. You've got serious qualifications, Jen's love and support, and all of our support here.

[Tobin S.]

8. 10-4, 39er

I appreciate the compliments.

In the capstone class for my major in my last semester, I had to come up with a plan and contingent plans for what I was going to do after graduation. I'm on the contingent plan that says something to the effect of, "Start over from scratch. It's the most unsettling of my options, but it very well may be what I have to do."

[DFW]

9. Those sound like difficult waters to navigate.

My wife wanted me to do what made me happy and I wanted her to do what made her happy.

So far, that has worked out rather well, although we've only been together for forty years.........

[Tobin S.]

10. Nah

We do appear to want to spend more time together than many couples do, and we are all about the happiness. I suppose I wasn't frivolous enough in my OP to show that it's a joke between us. I confused Peggy, too.

My bones ache from 18 years of trucking. I've been hanging around the house for the past five days because my physical certification is up in the air, and it's been nice just to be able to do what I like. I'm in the middle of a career change. I just graduated from college and I'm looking for a good job- something that I want to do that won't put me in a wheel chair or an early grave. That makes both us very happy.

[DFW]

24. Sounds like the right mindset to have.

I wouldn't consider a career change at this point (40 years with my outfit this summer, and I figure no more than 30 more before I retire). Too set in my ways at this point. My hat goes off to anyone who can manage it after 18 years, although if it's THAT physically demanding, I would also be saying enough is enough.

[dawg]

11. You'll find the right job.

Just make sure to keep your expectations in check.

If I were you, I'd probably look for a situation where I could go into a small or medium sized business as something like an assistant controller. Especially if the controller was an older person looking to retire in 5-10 years or so.

It wouldn't be the most exciting job ever, but with the right boss and co-workers, it would be comfortable and well-paying.

[Tobin S.]

13. Thanks, dawg

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A job crunching numbers would be right up my ally. I'm good at math and stats and I have good computer skills as well as training in accounting and finance.

I've been sending out resumes and applications to companies all around the area. Some as far as 60 miles away. I've gotten a couple of bites, but I researched those companies and they get very poor reviews from their employees- very high turnover.

I'm going to change my strategy. I live in a small town of about 40,000 people. We do have some industry around here- some good places to work. I've made a list of those places, and I'm just going down it and customize my resume and cover letter for each one after researching the company. I'll let you all know how it goes.

[rug]

12. She wants you as a sex slave.

[Tobin S.]

14. Of course! Isn't that what all women want?

[mnhtnbb]

15. Actually, I think what most women want is a wife.

Only to men does that translate as 'sex slave'.

[Tobin S.]

16. You could be on to something there.

[Kali]

17. if you do have OSA and you can become compliant with cpap you will be amazed at the difference

in your sleep and your energy levels. though from how you have been living and working the last few years I highly doubt you have it or at least not bad.

[Tobin S.]

18. My wife said I had some of the symptoms before I quit smoking

but they went away after I quit 2.5 years ago. She says I still snore a little, but nothing like I used to and I don't stop breathing and start gasping for air. One problem with people who have sleep apnea is that during their waking hours they are often tired and sleepy, and sometimes doze off when they are doing things like driving which is why the DOT is so concerned about truck drivers having it now days. I don't have that problem. I have been tired at times, but I think it's just been because of the crazy schedule I've had for the past few years.

But if it turns out I do have it, I, of course, will get the proper treatment. If I can feel even better than I do now, I don't see a downside to that.

[Kali]

19. well it isn't the most romantic way to sleep

unless you have a snorkle or scuba fetish, but healthwise, it can sure help in that dept if you are better rested.

I have very severe OSA and had it obviously, even when I was a skinny teenager. with the extra weight I lug around now it is even worse. I got on cpap finally about 6 years ago. I believe it saved my life, and I am so compliant I can't stand to lie down without it. the first time I read about apnea I knew that was my problem. with no insurance, I didn't have much hope of any solutions but lucked out that the UofA was participating in a large study and got into that. it was kind of a drag because I got stuck in the placebo group using a machine at low pressure for 6 months before getting to try at my prescribed pressure at the end of the study. OMG that night was so amazing. I slept in one position for 6 hours and it actually hurt my shoulder! LOL

Got paid and they gave me my machine too. I would like to find a newer one (and a battery set-up) so I can try camping again. It has been too long!

[olddots]

22. becoming a sex slave would get boring

But think about the day time TV you might be subjected to .

[DebJ]

23. This meme was going round FB this week:

" I know what women want....they want you to drag them to the bedroom, throw them on the bed, and do dirty.....
dishes while they take a nap."



LOL. So true.

[pipi_k]

25. It's actually working out well

for my son and his wife, who moved to SC from Mass a year ago tomorrow.

She works in banking, and he has been doing a job he can no longer do (the physical part) because of health issues. His employer up here has allowed him to do online consulting work so he's employed at least part time down there, from home.

They have two daughters, 13 and 11.

He enjoys cooking and is a bit of a clean/neat freak, so there's that aspect of it as well.

All in all it works out well for them, but it's probably not an option for everyone.