Do kids send thank you notes any more? Or maybe thank you texts?

[raccoon]

Reason I ask, I have a great-niece I mailed a present to. I haven't heard anything back.
I know she got it because her dad said she did.

I don't expect a kid to send any thanks without prompting, but I would've thought
her dad would get her to.

Or have things changed in that area?

[F4lconF16]

1. I think it depends.

My mother would never have let me not write one in return, but that was my family. It also depended on who gave me the gift--many of them I opened in front of the gift-giver, and it seemed unnecessary when they knew how much I liked it.

I know friends whose parents are similar, and some whose parents don't care either way.

I do think it's changed some, though, but it's purely anecdotal evidence.

Btw, I'm quite young, so this is reasonably relevant information, if anecdotal evidence counts for anything.

[marym625]

2. I got bitched at for saying to a cousin, the mom,

I guess Dylan didn't like the books? Actually said to me, you want another thank you? I said thank you when you gave them to me.

They were the original Christopher Robin books. I had said I hoped to give them to him myself but I wouldn't be around for Christmas

So I guess acknowledgment that it made it to the kid intended is too much to ask

[Skittles]

4. that mom needs an ass kicking

YOU DESERVE A THOUGHTFUL THANK YOU FOR A THOUGHTFUL GIFT

[marym625]

5. Thanks

I thought so. Was actually blown away. I sorta wish I hadn't given the books to the kid. But, maybe he will learn something from the books

Thanks .

[Skittles]

3. F*** THAT

REMIND THE DAD YOU HAVE YET TO RECEIVE A THANK YOU NOTE - maybe HE needs a lesson too

[MADem]

6. In my family gifts, cards, etc. are always acknowledged.

Doesn't matter how they acknowledge, but the acknowledgement is key.

Gotta pound that reflex into them at an early age. If the niece is five or six, I blame the dad. If the kid is eighteen, that's a different story.

[Kali]

7. mine did/do

but then I am a hard ass about the matter

[progressoid]

8. I think that custom is getting lost.

I know a lot of people that have also lamented it's demise.

[shenmue]

9. I always send notes

[auntAgonist]

10. I get more thanks from my granddaughters than I do from ADULTS for their wedding gifts.

Twice last year we attended weddings. One of those weddings we (husband and I both) were in the wedding party, the other was his son's wedding.
NEITHER one sent a thank you note for the gifts we'd given.

The son and new wife received an extremely generous monetary gift and shower gifts even although I was unable to attend wedding showers as they were in CA, I'm in MI. We had travel expenses etc. Would not have missed the wedding for all the world but .. It was very expensive for us. not a word of thanks. The wedding was 8 months ago.

The other wedding, 9 months ago. A handmade Pueblo Indian gift made especially for the couple. NO thanks at all.
We were in the wedding party. Tuxedo had to be rented, Dress purchased (not cheap) shoes purchased and showers attended. Bachelorette party attended and helped plan.
Bachelor night attended and helped plan. Both had costs involved.


We didn't mind the costs, we knew when we were asked to be in the wedding party we would be expected to handle some things.

but, seriously, not so much as a thank you for the shower gifts OR the wedding gift. WTF?

smh.

aA

[narnian60]

12. 3 weddings, 2 showers attended last year.

0 thank you cards for gifts.

[Dont call me Shirley]

11. Yes, always, a phone call, text, email, note or card! It shows respect and gratitude to the

generous giver.