When I was a kid, I tried to work some "open relationships" - it was considered "cool" at the time - but I always felt ill at ease, even in the single case where I cheated on my long term girlfriend.
After ten years of this sort of nonsense, I realized who I am. When I moved in with my last girlfriend - who became my wife - I made it clear that I was a one lover kind of guy.
One night, when we were first living together, her ex-boyfriend looked her up and invited her out to dinner. I said, "By all means, go." She did, friend to friend.
He asked her, "Doesn't your boyfriend mind you going out to dinner with your ex-boyfriend."
She told him, "He says that if he couldn't trust me, our relationship wouldn't mean anything." That's how I felt. I have never had any reason not to trust her.
It seems to have worked out; it's been thirty years, same woman, one woman, one lover, one best friend.
Every morning I wake up, realizing how fortunate I am; and every evening I fall asleep thinking the same thing. What is even more amazing is that when I think I couldn't possibly love her more; I manage to do so day after day.
Trust is great peace.
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