Therapy question.......

There are lines that should not be crossed--that's one of 'em.

The patient should understand this, and not let the whole transference thing take hold. The therapist should stick to her guns and not attend.

If it hadn't been that therapist, it would have been another one. The happy couple can celebrate just fine on their own--they don't need the therapist blessing every moment.

If it's too awkward and the patient won't say no, the therapist should lie and say they have a valid reason for not attending (another wedding, or an anniversary party of a relative, or a doctor's appointment--whatever). But if the patient is really that much of a noodge, maybe they shouldn't be getting married just yet!

OK - real answer - I would say stay away

not a 'romantic' relationship, just social, but I'm not familiar with the professional ethics issues for psychologists.

It's really hard to explain who you are...or not to. And it's not too hard to show how happy you are for someone while kindly saying no.

I'd end a theraputic relationship with anybody who was so hands off that they would not attend my wedding. How she feels is valid, but it's not the only valid perspective...and it may be worthwhile to go, just to avoid the conflict disrupting the theraputic relationship.

I mean, she could go to the wedding but not the reception and if anybody asks who she is, just say she's a friend of the bride's from around town.

It seems that it would be a supportive thing to do but it crosses a professional boundary. They are not friends, her patient is a client. I think it's a bad idea to blur the line between friend and therapist.

http://kspope.com/ethics/boundary.php

replies in the morning.

Thanks to all!!

I'm not involved in the profession at all, but I would say not go.

Peace

for more 'business' if she attends and is introduced as the bride's therapist and given credit as described in OP. Kinda puts the spotlight on her instead of the happy couple too.
Weddings are emotional events so there is a fairly good chance she would be introduced this way.

Twice in 20+ years I have attended milestone gatherings for employees of mine - not patients, mind you, but employees. Both times the professional relationship eventually went off the rails. Skip weddings, house warmings, watching the big game, dining together, etc. Not a good idea if the professional relationship is going to continue.

Certainly let her patient know she is appreciative for the gratitude of her patient. But she needs to lead her life without her therapist being a part of her personal relationships. How could a therapist go to a function and meet all those people in her patients life that have been discussed over the years. Very awkward and may taint the therapist's perspective in future sessions.

Would be my advice.

it surprises me she even needs to ask

We've been married 31 years.

Over the course of that time he's been invited to several weddings of patients/former patients. We attended one together--but the therapeutic relationship
had been terminated--and we only went to the ceremony, not the reception.

Once he attended a wedding on his own--I refused to go--and stayed for part of the reception. I was too uncomfortable with it
because I didn't want to be asked "how do you know the couple".

He declined attending another wedding because we were going out of town.

Personally, I think it's professionally inappropriate for her to go as long as the professional relationship hasn't been terminated.