Why do I have to be a nice guy?

[runaway hero]

What is the point? Everyone else rude and disrespectful anyway. No matter how much I try to be decent, it's not working out.

[femmocrat]

1. "Everyone"?

Or someone?

I saw a sign once that always stuck with me, "Because nice matters." You can be better than the person who was rude to you.

[runaway hero]

2. Yeah

on the bus, at work, at home I don't even get along with my family that much. Maybe it's me but everyone just nasty now. I don't get it.

[femmocrat]

4. Sorry, runaway hero.

Sometimes it seems that way. Illigitimi non carborundum!

[runaway hero]

9. Thanks

I'm trying. But it seems like no one else is.

[clarice]

3. Interesting question....... I have thought a lot about that very subject...my opinion

is that it really doesn't matter how mean other people can be. They are just swimming in bad Karma...and
believe me, it will come back to haunt them. your primary responsibility is to YOURSELF , and no one else.
I have also learned that the best revenge is to kill those kind of people with kindness. It totally fucks up their world view,
you can see it in their faces.

In addition...physicist Sir Roger Penrose is discovering that there is a quantum/scientific rational/reward for sending positive
thoughts to those around you. You can google it if you wish. And no, it's not the same old "Power of positive thinking" bullshit.

[runaway hero]

10. Thank You

Will do.

[LWolf]

5. You don't have to be nice.

It's completely up to you to be the person you want to be.

It also has nothing whatsoever to do with anyone else. They also can be the person they want to be, nice or not.

[Orrex]

6. Here's a rule of thumb that's worked for me:

If I'm in a conversation with an asshole, then it's up to me whether there will be one asshole in the conversation or two.

In purely selfish terms, I find that being "the nice guy" in real life means that I'll have less shit to deal with later, so there's that.

[runaway hero]

12. Makes sense. Thank You so much

[surrealAmerican]

7. because you need to be able to see yourself as a good person

It's called having a conscience.

[shenmue]

8. Yep

[TexasBushwhacker]

11. Do I HAVE to be nice?

No. It's my choice and I choose to be nice because it feels nice to be nice. It's nice for tge folks I'm nice to also.

[Oneironaut]

13. You just remember the rude ones.

I live where everyone is thought to be "rude," and most really aren't. Most people simply do not care about you - their lives are much too busy.

Did something happen?

[Enrique]

16. yes I agree with that

and similarly, sometimes we forget times we are rude.

[mythology]

14. For me, it's because I have a hard enough time sleeping at night

If I'm an asshole, I tend to dwell on it late at night. Besides, giving in to being a jerk means you let them win. You let the jerks, the thoughtless buffoons win by making yet another one of them.

[Fla Dem]

15. If you touch even one person, make one person's day a little better

because you were nice to them, then all the other crap is meaningless. You should take joy in that.