My mother just had a stroke

[Feeling the Bern]

no warning signs, no nothing. Just slumped over in her desk chair at her computer. 64 years old. Currently at University Medical Center.

What makes this worse? I am such an outcast in my family that if I didn't see my brother's facebook posting about it, I would never have known. She had her stroke Sunday night. It is now Wednesday night in the States.

Any reconciliation between my father and I died this week.

[Liberal_in_LA]

1. sorry to hear that

[MissB]

2. I'm so sorry

I hope your mother's recovery goes well.

[Granny M]

3. I hope she recovers well.

Sorry for this sadness in your life.

[Spitfire of ATJ]

4. I hope it wasn't too severe....

My wife had a mild stroke last year and it's tough to deal with.

[montana_hazeleyes]

5. I hope your mom the best care and healing, and

am so sorry you had to find out this way and the way your family is treating you in this way. We are here for you.

[IndianaDave]

6. So Sorry to Hear This

It sounds like your pain is multiplied because of your great concern for your Mother, but also your sense of isolation within your own family. Family stuff can be so complicated. I think it's harder to resolve problems with family members than with anyone else. I'm really sorry you have to go through this, FtB, and please know that others have experienced similar, difficult family issues, and we really do feel for you. I hope your Mother recovers well, and that you're able to gather up enough strength to get through this. And may you - in your own good time - find some way to re-establish a relationship with your Father. He has shown astounding insensitivity to you, and the idea of forgiving him probably sounds ridiculous to you right now, but sometime, some way, you may find a way to reconnect - if you so choose. For the time being, I fully understand your pain and anger, and I support you. Best wishes to you and my prayers for both you and your Mother.

[barbtries]

7. i'm so sorry.

[CountAllVotes]

8. I know how you feel

I have a sibling like this. Said sibling moved away and didn't even bother to give me an address much less a phone #. Makes you feel like a piece of sh*t, I know! I had a brother that died and I found out about it via an email forwarded to me for God's sake!

Best thing you can do is to try to at least get in contact with your mother and let her know that you love her and that you care.

As for your father, if it is too late, it is too late perhaps. Things can change. Maybe this event will be the type of change that is necessary to cause the dynamics within your family to change for the better -- a healing event perhaps (?).

Take care of yourself and I am sorry to read about this.

[Phentex]

9. Sorry to hear it...

hope she is okay.

I have crappy siblings too so I know how petty and ridiculous they can be. It hurts.

[femmocrat]

10. So sorry. I wish her a speedy recovery.

Maybe there is another family member you could contact? It's so hard to be far away when a family emergency happens.

[irisblue]

11. I am so sorry

Family stuff can gut you.

[AgadorSparticus]

12. Hang in there! ❤❤❤

[TuxedoKat]

13. So sorry to hear this

family grievances are so painful. (((HUGS)))