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BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 07:51 PM Dec 2016

Shoot...christmas is just a nice time off work. But it's kinda lonely.

Thanksgiving was the same. New Years will be too.
I set myself up with nice munchies and movies, but the aloneness is getting to be a bummer.

Anyone else been googling "how to be alone and happy at Christmas"?

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Shoot...christmas is just a nice time off work. But it's kinda lonely. (Original Post) BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 OP
If you were anywhere close you would have been welcome at our house liberal N proud Dec 2016 #1
Tanks! It's kinda funny...not humorous...that my friends never invite me to join themm BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #3
Just my wife and I today. We saw a matinee HeartachesNhangovers Dec 2016 #2
That must be nice, to be with someone you love. :). n/t BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #4
Definitely less stressful! My parents have HeartachesNhangovers Dec 2016 #5
I don't have any family. BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #6
Go out. Be around people. Help out at a shelter or a hospital. Yavin4 Dec 2016 #7
It's about bedtime here, but that's a good idea. BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #8
Waste some time watching funny cat or dog videos on YouTube, you'll be laughing JudyM Dec 2016 #10
I always love funny animal vids!!! BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #13
This is an excellent suggestion True Dough Dec 2016 #15
Well I went for breakfast at Denny's this morning saw 6 other of my doc03 Dec 2016 #9
This message was self-deleted by its author sl8 Dec 2016 #11
Same here - just hubby and me Paula Sims Dec 2016 #12
A Meetup would be very cool! BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2016 #14
Do you call them? cwydro Dec 2016 #16

liberal N proud

(60,302 posts)
1. If you were anywhere close you would have been welcome at our house
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 08:04 PM
Dec 2016

Heck, you could have flown cross country, we don't like to see anyone alone on holidays.

We are staying with our children while we relocate but Christmas dinner today included a young family who is not able to travel this season.

There is always too much food and the more the merrier.

Sorry you are alone.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
3. Tanks! It's kinda funny...not humorous...that my friends never invite me to join themm
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 08:17 PM
Dec 2016

They're all busy with their families and such.

This one guy I'd been friends with for awhile has stopped talking to me...we tried a romance a few years ago but in the end I had to friend zone him. Just no attraction for me, ya know? But we'd been close friends for 5 or so years anyway.

Well, when I lost my beloved doggie, who was all the family I had, in the summer he was a support for a short time. (I have new babies now). But he's limited emotionally, and supporting a friend who's not a sex partner was too much I guess. He stopped responding after that.

It's funny how people you don't know will reach out but friends, not so much.

Thanks for listening!

2. Just my wife and I today. We saw a matinee
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 08:08 PM
Dec 2016

of La La Land (good!), my wife made all the family phone calls. I'm making the roasted beet-avocado salad and the marinara sauce for her lasagna for tonight. We have a bottle of red wine and a gingerbread woman for dessert.

5. Definitely less stressful! My parents have
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 08:51 PM
Dec 2016

both passed away and my out-of-state siblings have their own holiday traditions. My wife's parents are still around, but they are divorced and also are in the habit of visiting specific friends/relatives on Christmas. We see them all over the course of the year, just not during the holidays.

I pity the folks who only get a limited amount of time off, and have to use it travelling around the big summer holidays or Thanksgiving or Christmas.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
6. I don't have any family.
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 09:02 PM
Dec 2016

I do this alone at the holidays thing each year with varying amounts of poise. Today the needle on my keep-up-a-cheery-exterior meter is hitting E.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
8. It's about bedtime here, but that's a good idea.
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 10:12 PM
Dec 2016

Geee, thinking about going and doing it gives me phobia attacks, though. Hmmm. Better work on that.

JudyM

(29,122 posts)
10. Waste some time watching funny cat or dog videos on YouTube, you'll be laughing
Mon Dec 26, 2016, 10:40 PM
Dec 2016

out loud if you're anything like me. Oh, and check out this one that was posted earlier in the Lounge: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1018&pid=911763
And this one: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1018&pid=911627. (The link has even funnier ones)

True Dough

(17,092 posts)
15. This is an excellent suggestion
Tue Dec 27, 2016, 12:20 AM
Dec 2016

There are others out there not only alone but struggling, either with physical health or mental health. You can't cure what ails them, but you can be a bright spot in their day.

doc03

(35,148 posts)
9. Well I went for breakfast at Denny's this morning saw 6 other of my
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 10:19 PM
Dec 2016

single friends there. I come home and my nieces and boy friends come, it was nice but I couldn't wait
till they left. Went out for dinner at Steak and Shake and now I am watching "We are the Millers" on TV
funny movie. Worst part for me most every place is closed.

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Paula Sims

(877 posts)
12. Same here - just hubby and me
Mon Dec 26, 2016, 11:34 PM
Dec 2016

No friends or relatives bother to call. Even direct siblings. It really hurts. We have a few Christmas cards but they never bother to call. The only person that called us was my Mother and she died in May.

I secretly hope to win the lottery to watch them grovel then say - where were you during the holidays and didn't bother to call us?

I cry alone at night so hubby doesn't see but he knows. And I know it upsets him too.

Perhaps next year a DU Christmas meetup??

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
14. A Meetup would be very cool!
Tue Dec 27, 2016, 12:01 AM
Dec 2016

Hugs!!!! I'm sorry that you're lonely too.

I'm kind of introverted so the effort of developing friendships is difficult.


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