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http://madamenoire.com/62456/10-things-men-find-unattractive/Welcome to 10 things men find unattractive. Let the record reflect that just because men find said issues unattractive that does not mean we will not attempt to sleep with you. The two are not mutually exclusive; this is a very real disclaimer
geardaddy
(25,392 posts)charlie and algernon
(13,447 posts)geardaddy
(25,392 posts)Major Hogwash
(17,656 posts)Don't you know what "scootch" means in Sweden?
geardaddy
(25,392 posts)LynneSin
(95,337 posts)
geardaddy
(25,392 posts)ellisonz
(27,776 posts)hlthe2b
(113,973 posts)What claptrap.
geardaddy
(25,392 posts)RFKHumphreyObama
(15,164 posts)the Lounge
But I agree -this is a lot of sexist claptrap and the guy writing it sounds like a real chauvinist
struggle4progress
(126,157 posts)UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)looking for a man? This guy must really think he's a stud.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)something women find unattractive about men
http://www.democraticunderground.com/100227262
formercia
(18,479 posts)Peckerwood as Pecker does.
MiddleFingerMom
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... what is unattractive enough to hold all 25 places in
The Top TWENTY-FIVE Things Men Find Unattractive.
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pacalo
(24,857 posts)
Major Nikon
(36,925 posts)My first time I was 'experienced' was when I ran away and joined the circus one summer. I can still remember the feel of her beard next to my young skin.
theNotoriousP.I.G.
(3,372 posts)Who gives a flying fuck?
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)good to see you!
gratuitous
(82,849 posts)I prefer my woman to curse like a well-oiled hobo.
redqueen
(115,186 posts)dimbear
(6,271 posts)Whatever that meant is lost in the mists of time.
gratuitous
(82,849 posts)Not many people use the term "hobo" anymore, though. That could, though, give it an appearance of antiquity. I still remember my surprise at seeing the word "polluted" to describe someone who'd gotten drunk the night before used in a Bertie Wooster story by P.G. Wodehouse back in the early part of the last century. We thought we'd come up with that all by ourselves in the eco-conscious days of the 1970s.
Bucky
(55,334 posts)It doesn't mean "guy who rides the rails" so much as "bum".
siligut
(12,272 posts)Disguised as a survey and designed to influence impressionable young minds.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Never understood that one. There's a double standard, as men come off as desperately looking to get laid and admit it. If they are so desperate to get laid, wouldn't women who appear uninterested be less attractive than women who are also desperate to get laid?
It's like praying for rain but getting upset that it's all wet.
The rest of them sound like beauty is the biggest concern and keeping the beauty industry in $$ is the most pressing thing around which men form relationships, with a few from a 19th century aunt thrown in.
dawg
(10,777 posts)I mean, if they are, then where are all the women beating down my door?
Just kidding!
But seriously, I think either sex is probably less appealing if they appear too desperate.
Chan790
(20,176 posts)If I'm desperately looking to get laid (and I'm not saying I am), then the woman desperately looking for a commitment is less not more appealing.
Even if you're stand-up fellow, the woman just looking for the commitment and no longer caring with whom, is not appealing.
treestar
(82,383 posts)It's just a misogynist assumption that all women want to grab them a husband - thought that one went out with the 50s and Sally what's her name on the Dick Van Dyke show.
Chan790
(20,176 posts)these women that the author is referring to are looking for that. I've been in conversations with women like this and the first three things I get asked are:
1.) What do you do? (Nothing, it's wonderful until the rent is due.)
2.) What kind of car do you drive? (I don't. I take the bus.)
3.) Is that real? (My Tiffany Mark watch. Yes, it is. A gift to myself when I graduated college. Saddled with $30K in debt, why not buy a $6K watch?)
At that point, I don't want to know you...I know why you're interested. I'm not the fool you're looking for.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Though she could have been recently burned by someone who wanted money, too. But those questions if stated as quoted would seem to indicate a gold digger.
JI7
(93,617 posts)which is totally different from someone who just really really wants to be in a serious relationship.
hyphenate
(12,496 posts)has never asked those questions. I swear!
That's why every guy she seems to fall for is a loser. A REAL loser.
She says she doesn't like "nice" guys. I think some women have major self-esteem problems. Anyone who has had incest, abuse, alcoholism, drug addictions, or worse thrown at them growing up is likely to repeat that same behavior in their own lives.
Some women are told during their growing up that they're no good, and that they are going to end up to be either trollops or "just like their mothers." I don't know about guys, but women as children have a great deal more fragility when it comes to these things. Being told you're worthless makes you want to die, or marry some abuser that is just like the one who is belittling you.
I have never seen my sister stand up to any man in her life. She has had enough trouble with them, but never once was she secure enough to tell them to fuck off.
I'm no nun, but I prefer being alone to being with some loser who gets his rocks off by putting down women.
redqueen
(115,186 posts)as my dad was fond of telling me.
Once I was convinced he was right (I refused to believe it at first, then I entered the house of fun), and that all men were dogs after only one thing, why would I bother looking for a decent guy?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)hmmmm. i think i see a pattern.
to this day i tell my getting old father how thankful i am i had a man like him in my life that gave me the self worth and respect i learned i deserved from others.
it makes him feel good. no better gift a father can give a daughter.
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boys are just as dependent and emotional and vulnerable as girls. dont anyone fool themselves.
yankeepants
(1,979 posts)She was always jealous that her ca,t Mr. Henderson, was always going out to get lucky and she was staying home alone.
Must have been either her hair or her posture.
I suppose that her character being probably one of the first women comedy writers for a successful program was not something that would be attractive according to this list of shallow tripe.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)making conversation.
i cannot imagine getting to know a person and not ask what they do for a living since it takes up most their day.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Just to have something to talk about.
And whichever men have a problem with that need, to be consistent, to not be looking at their date's cleavage or whatever. That'd be the equivalent.
redqueen
(115,186 posts)Asking someone what they do is not a 'gold digger' question on its own.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)what they did all fuckin day. was about stupid. ask and talk about what he does = golddigger. well fuck.....
Chan790
(20,176 posts)You know, 10, 15 minutes into a conversation after you've already gotten to know something about them, some level of comfort and interest has been established...it's conversational. You've already made it clear that your interested in them absent that information.
I'd never lead with it in the first 2 minutes for the same reason I don't ask people I just met for the balance of their checking account, how many sexual partners they've had or if they're actively engaged in sedition against the government. It's a little too personal and assessment-like.
redqueen
(115,186 posts)The answers, the way the question is answered, and the reaction to the question say a lot about the person.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Last edited Wed Dec 21, 2011, 08:53 AM - Edit history (1)
question. seeing how i never wanted shit from a man and paid my own way, i never had those concerns. i could see me ploppin down and saying, so.... what do you do all day.
yes. there are women that are after using men. and yes, i think a man can clearly see it if he chooses. i dont think women are good at hiding it. (like with issue of men). i think the signs are there to be picked up, if a man chooses to pick them up.
but i dont think there should be such a dogma to asking a man what he does for a living.
the only time i dont bring it up, is if i know he is doing something he.... HE may not feel secure or confident or "successful" in and will hurt his feeling or cause a preceived insult if i do bring it up. personally, i would not care.
Iggo
(49,928 posts)Bull-fucking-shit.
In fact it's like praying for rain and being upset that someone else is ALSO praying for rain!!!!
kayakjohnny
(5,235 posts)I dual bird them and move on.
So, consequently, I didn't see the 10 things.
These 'page hit' bastards are wrecking the net.
Kali
(56,829 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)In any internet articles labeled with a number like 10 things men don't like, or 11 things women like, or 33 things you ought to eat.
Hugin
(37,848 posts)Maybe, even 10 different clowns.
Skittles
(171,717 posts)I love the advice about lady gardening, given by men who sport thick thatches of both armpit and pubic hair (HINT for you guys - do at least a LITTLE BIT of manscaping)
dana_b
(11,546 posts)some people are so damn hypocritical.
Odin2005
(53,521 posts)BlueIris
(29,135 posts)It's appalling to me that it was allowed to stand.
formercia
(18,479 posts)obamanut2012
(29,369 posts)Wow.
How about, "10 Things White People Find Unattractive About Blacks"? Or "10 Things Straights Find Gross About Gays"?
Honestly, how is it any different???
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)all fair dissing women.
obamanut2012
(29,369 posts)Isn't it?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)has me baffled, mostly.
on edit... i think i read the first one and part of the second and clicked out. i dont even need to go further to know the shit they spew
obamanut2012
(29,369 posts)No, you don't.
rocktivity
(45,006 posts)Last edited Mon Dec 19, 2011, 08:04 PM - Edit history (2)
Madame Noir isn't striving to be Dr. Phil.
Don't waste your energy.
rocktivity
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)or post stupid lists.
this list seems to be made by someone who is unloved and unwanted by women and wants to strike back
formercia
(18,479 posts)The reason I posted this was because it is so bad, it's almost Satire, and I wanted to see what the reaction would be.
Some people have no sense of humor, while others are downright anti-Free Speech.
I'm glad we don't have the unrec button any more, otherwise, this thread would have disappeared long ago.
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)you told someone upthread "dont read it"
your current post is humorless
it seems like you can dish out the criticism but can't take it
if you really wanted people to know that you were posting this as satire, maybe you should have indicated it somewhere along the post. we dont have ESP you know.
Bucky
(55,334 posts)Hiya, toots!

La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)you post the shit and dont get the responses you want, now you step away.
redqueen
(115,186 posts)Major Hogwash
(17,656 posts)Without someone standing up and pointing at you and saying, "That's the guy! That's the guy that started that list at DU!"
formercia
(18,479 posts)I welcome their hatred.
NewJeffCT
(56,848 posts)and, I hated that I had to scroll through 10 pages, and it seemed like I had to hit the page forward link twice each time.
saras
(6,670 posts)First - they start out with women seeking life partners IN SINGLES BARS. Fail.
Yes, women. Your appearance - and uncontrollable aspects of it like what kind of hair you have - are more important than your values or personality. We all know men are ALL like that, right?
Gaah. If you wonder how right-wingers grow up into the judgmental haters they are, this article is an excellent beginners lesson. Someone looks some way that YOU disapprove of or dislike? Dump on them, ad hominem shit all over them, no problem.
"If you need a weedwacker down there, thats a problem." The AUTHOR needs a weedwacker down there, with a circular saw blade in it.
Ah, yes, the "angry woman" meme again. Yep, Hilary Clinton, P.J Harvey, Lady Gaga, Patti Smith, and Michelle Bachmann agree on something - NO ONE is attracted to or interested in "angry women".
Given the fact that the vast majority of pictures in the magazine are of black women, I'd probably get dumped from DU if I said all of what I think - but it does seem a good approach for Condi Rice or Sarah Palin. I don't think even this advice would have helped Margaret Thatcher, though.
formercia
(18,479 posts)And you expect an Intellectual Discourse in the Lounge?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)a little bet more, so you dont feel so foolish?
formercia
(18,479 posts)I'm just the Messenger.
Nobody is forcing you to read it.
As for insults, that hardly qualifies.. I'm sorry if you're thin skinned. Perhaps Martha Stewart would be more to your liking.
RedCloud
(9,230 posts)1. No oatmeal raisin cookies in cookie jar!
Okay I am stumped after that. I guess I am too open minded about such things.