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formercia

(18,479 posts)
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 12:11 PM Dec 2011

10 Things Men Find Unattractive

http://madamenoire.com/62456/10-things-men-find-unattractive/



Welcome to 10 things men find unattractive. Let the record reflect that just because men find said issues unattractive that does not mean we will not attempt to sleep with you. The two are not mutually exclusive; this is a very real disclaimer
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10 Things Men Find Unattractive (Original Post) formercia Dec 2011 OP
... geardaddy Dec 2011 #1
mind if I have some as well? charlie and algernon Dec 2011 #5
Sure. Skootch in and have some. geardaddy Dec 2011 #6
OMG!! I can't believe you said that!! Major Hogwash Dec 2011 #70
No, I have no Ikea, I mean idea. geardaddy Dec 2011 #73
Here, you're going to need a bigger bag.... LynneSin Dec 2011 #8
I think you're right. geardaddy Dec 2011 #11
Thank ye! ellisonz Dec 2011 #23
I never thought I'd REALLY regret losing the UNREC option... hlthe2b Dec 2011 #2
Yeah, I was looking forward to unreccing this. geardaddy Dec 2011 #3
Well you couldn't really have un-recced in the old forum either because un-rec didn't work in RFKHumphreyObama Dec 2011 #29
+ struggle4progress Dec 2011 #62
Men don't like women at the bar desperately UnrepentantLiberal Dec 2011 #4
Woman forced to carve boyfriend's name into own arm seabeyond Dec 2011 #7
They come in all colors formercia Dec 2011 #10
Without even looking at that "list", MiddleFingerMom has posted... MiddleFingerMom Dec 2011 #9
!!! pacalo Dec 2011 #12
Don't knock it Major Nikon Dec 2011 #17
PFFT! theNotoriousP.I.G. Dec 2011 #13
Hey Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #18
"Curses like a sailor" So fucking true dat! gratuitous Dec 2011 #14
... redqueen Dec 2011 #15
In the classical literature, ill spoken women curse like fishwives. dimbear Dec 2011 #32
I'm hoping to introduce a new classic gratuitous Dec 2011 #46
The kids today (at least the ones I teach) all use "hobo" Bucky Dec 2011 #64
Just more fucking propaganda siligut Dec 2011 #16
Why is looking for a man desperately unattractive? treestar Dec 2011 #19
I doubt that men who are desperate to get laid are all that appealing to women either. dawg Dec 2011 #20
Because they looking for different things. Chan790 Dec 2011 #21
OK so a lady desperate to get laid who wants no commitments is OK and beautiful? treestar Dec 2011 #22
No, I'm telling you that often as a matter of fact... Chan790 Dec 2011 #24
That does sound bad treestar Dec 2011 #28
yup, those are signs of golddigger JI7 Dec 2011 #31
My sister hyphenate Dec 2011 #49
Another factor is being told 'all men only want one thing'... redqueen Dec 2011 #50
and i had two stable, responsible, loving parents and had only the same with men i dated seabeyond Dec 2011 #53
Sally Rogers played by Rose Marie yankeepants Dec 2011 #37
and if a man asks a woman what do you drive, or do for a living it is seabeyond Dec 2011 #30
True, who would not volunteer that information early on? treestar Dec 2011 #35
Very much agreed. redqueen Dec 2011 #51
i started hearing this when dating and i couldnt believe i was not allowed to ask the person seabeyond Dec 2011 #52
Yeah, but one shouldn't lead with it. Chan790 Dec 2011 #66
It's often one of the first questions I ask. It will continue to be. redqueen Dec 2011 #67
meh... the only reason why i may put it off is cause i know men preceive it as a gold diggin seabeyond Dec 2011 #68
Yep. I clicked outa there as soon as I saw that. Iggo Dec 2011 #39
The minute someone makes me click through 10 pages of crap that they could have put on one page, kayakjohnny Dec 2011 #25
^^^ this Kali Dec 2011 #34
I agree. Yet that is always the case. treestar Dec 2011 #36
Clowns have GOT to be on that list. Hugin Dec 2011 #26
sexist drivel Skittles Dec 2011 #27
thank you!!! dana_b Dec 2011 #33
Sexist crap. Odin2005 Dec 2011 #38
This promotes both misogynist and racist stereotypes. BlueIris Dec 2011 #40
Then don't read it. n/t formercia Dec 2011 #54
I am shocked something like this would be allowed to stand obamanut2012 Dec 2011 #41
Honestly, how is it any different??? really? it is about women seabeyond Dec 2011 #42
It's very disheartening, Seabeyond obamanut2012 Dec 2011 #44
mmm, ya. why so many men feel it is cute or acceptable to be so ugly to a whole gender seabeyond Dec 2011 #45
I read the whole thing obamanut2012 Dec 2011 #48
The entire site like is like that -- it's a glorified "slam book." rocktivity Dec 2011 #43
smart women dont like stupid lists. or people who feel compelled to make stupid lists La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #47
FYI formercia Dec 2011 #55
of all the responses here, yours lacks the most humor La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #56
11th turn off: women with ESP Bucky Dec 2011 #57
lol La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #58
ah ha. see, now, that is funny. nt seabeyond Dec 2011 #59
wrong place. du3 is hard for me, hitting the right post to reply to. nt seabeyond Dec 2011 #60
you are right. the new and improved du allows the sexist shit to stand. seabeyond Dec 2011 #61
Unrec made threads disappear? redqueen Dec 2011 #65
Well, I seriously doubt that you will ever be able to eat out in public again. Major Hogwash Dec 2011 #71
I've heard people say a lot worse. formercia Dec 2011 #77
I disagree with most of the list NewJeffCT Dec 2011 #63
WTF??? saras Dec 2011 #69
Would you like your Smelling Salts now, or later? formercia Dec 2011 #72
you post something really stupid and both genders agree. now, you insult women for the hell of it, seabeyond Dec 2011 #74
Why should I feel foolish? formercia Dec 2011 #75
Maybe we should refine this list to more practical things. RedCloud Dec 2011 #76

RFKHumphreyObama

(15,164 posts)
29. Well you couldn't really have un-recced in the old forum either because un-rec didn't work in
Sat Dec 17, 2011, 09:05 PM
Dec 2011

the Lounge

But I agree -this is a lot of sexist claptrap and the guy writing it sounds like a real chauvinist

 

UnrepentantLiberal

(11,700 posts)
4. Men don't like women at the bar desperately
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 12:35 PM
Dec 2011

looking for a man? This guy must really think he's a stud.

MiddleFingerMom

(25,163 posts)
9. Without even looking at that "list", MiddleFingerMom has posted...
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 01:19 PM
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Major Nikon

(36,925 posts)
17. Don't knock it
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 04:53 PM
Dec 2011

My first time I was 'experienced' was when I ran away and joined the circus one summer. I can still remember the feel of her beard next to my young skin.

gratuitous

(82,849 posts)
14. "Curses like a sailor" So fucking true dat!
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 03:55 PM
Dec 2011

I prefer my woman to curse like a well-oiled hobo.

dimbear

(6,271 posts)
32. In the classical literature, ill spoken women curse like fishwives.
Sat Dec 17, 2011, 10:27 PM
Dec 2011

Whatever that meant is lost in the mists of time.

gratuitous

(82,849 posts)
46. I'm hoping to introduce a new classic
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 06:33 PM
Dec 2011

Not many people use the term "hobo" anymore, though. That could, though, give it an appearance of antiquity. I still remember my surprise at seeing the word "polluted" to describe someone who'd gotten drunk the night before used in a Bertie Wooster story by P.G. Wodehouse back in the early part of the last century. We thought we'd come up with that all by ourselves in the eco-conscious days of the 1970s.

Bucky

(55,334 posts)
64. The kids today (at least the ones I teach) all use "hobo"
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 02:03 PM
Dec 2011

It doesn't mean "guy who rides the rails" so much as "bum".

siligut

(12,272 posts)
16. Just more fucking propaganda
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 04:07 PM
Dec 2011

Disguised as a survey and designed to influence impressionable young minds.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
19. Why is looking for a man desperately unattractive?
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 04:55 PM
Dec 2011

Never understood that one. There's a double standard, as men come off as desperately looking to get laid and admit it. If they are so desperate to get laid, wouldn't women who appear uninterested be less attractive than women who are also desperate to get laid?

It's like praying for rain but getting upset that it's all wet.

The rest of them sound like beauty is the biggest concern and keeping the beauty industry in $$ is the most pressing thing around which men form relationships, with a few from a 19th century aunt thrown in.

dawg

(10,777 posts)
20. I doubt that men who are desperate to get laid are all that appealing to women either.
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 04:58 PM
Dec 2011

I mean, if they are, then where are all the women beating down my door?

Just kidding!

But seriously, I think either sex is probably less appealing if they appear too desperate.

 

Chan790

(20,176 posts)
21. Because they looking for different things.
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 05:07 PM
Dec 2011

If I'm desperately looking to get laid (and I'm not saying I am), then the woman desperately looking for a commitment is less not more appealing.

Even if you're stand-up fellow, the woman just looking for the commitment and no longer caring with whom, is not appealing.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
22. OK so a lady desperate to get laid who wants no commitments is OK and beautiful?
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 05:37 PM
Dec 2011

It's just a misogynist assumption that all women want to grab them a husband - thought that one went out with the 50s and Sally what's her name on the Dick Van Dyke show.

 

Chan790

(20,176 posts)
24. No, I'm telling you that often as a matter of fact...
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 05:47 PM
Dec 2011

these women that the author is referring to are looking for that. I've been in conversations with women like this and the first three things I get asked are:

1.) What do you do? (Nothing, it's wonderful until the rent is due.)
2.) What kind of car do you drive? (I don't. I take the bus.)
3.) Is that real? (My Tiffany Mark watch. Yes, it is. A gift to myself when I graduated college. Saddled with $30K in debt, why not buy a $6K watch?)

At that point, I don't want to know you...I know why you're interested. I'm not the fool you're looking for.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
28. That does sound bad
Sat Dec 17, 2011, 08:43 PM
Dec 2011

Though she could have been recently burned by someone who wanted money, too. But those questions if stated as quoted would seem to indicate a gold digger.


JI7

(93,617 posts)
31. yup, those are signs of golddigger
Sat Dec 17, 2011, 10:26 PM
Dec 2011

which is totally different from someone who just really really wants to be in a serious relationship.

hyphenate

(12,496 posts)
49. My sister
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 07:28 PM
Dec 2011

has never asked those questions. I swear!

That's why every guy she seems to fall for is a loser. A REAL loser.

She says she doesn't like "nice" guys. I think some women have major self-esteem problems. Anyone who has had incest, abuse, alcoholism, drug addictions, or worse thrown at them growing up is likely to repeat that same behavior in their own lives.

Some women are told during their growing up that they're no good, and that they are going to end up to be either trollops or "just like their mothers." I don't know about guys, but women as children have a great deal more fragility when it comes to these things. Being told you're worthless makes you want to die, or marry some abuser that is just like the one who is belittling you.

I have never seen my sister stand up to any man in her life. She has had enough trouble with them, but never once was she secure enough to tell them to fuck off.

I'm no nun, but I prefer being alone to being with some loser who gets his rocks off by putting down women.

redqueen

(115,186 posts)
50. Another factor is being told 'all men only want one thing'...
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 07:34 PM
Dec 2011

as my dad was fond of telling me.

Once I was convinced he was right (I refused to believe it at first, then I entered the house of fun), and that all men were dogs after only one thing, why would I bother looking for a decent guy?

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
53. and i had two stable, responsible, loving parents and had only the same with men i dated
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 07:39 PM
Dec 2011

hmmmm. i think i see a pattern.

to this day i tell my getting old father how thankful i am i had a man like him in my life that gave me the self worth and respect i learned i deserved from others.


it makes him feel good. no better gift a father can give a daughter.

AND

boys are just as dependent and emotional and vulnerable as girls. dont anyone fool themselves.

yankeepants

(1,979 posts)
37. Sally Rogers played by Rose Marie
Sun Dec 18, 2011, 07:52 AM
Dec 2011

She was always jealous that her ca,t Mr. Henderson, was always going out to get lucky and she was staying home alone.

Must have been either her hair or her posture.

I suppose that her character being probably one of the first women comedy writers for a successful program was not something that would be attractive according to this list of shallow tripe.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
30. and if a man asks a woman what do you drive, or do for a living it is
Sat Dec 17, 2011, 09:07 PM
Dec 2011

making conversation.

i cannot imagine getting to know a person and not ask what they do for a living since it takes up most their day.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
35. True, who would not volunteer that information early on?
Sun Dec 18, 2011, 05:33 AM
Dec 2011

Just to have something to talk about.

And whichever men have a problem with that need, to be consistent, to not be looking at their date's cleavage or whatever. That'd be the equivalent.

redqueen

(115,186 posts)
51. Very much agreed.
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 07:35 PM
Dec 2011

Asking someone what they do is not a 'gold digger' question on its own.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
52. i started hearing this when dating and i couldnt believe i was not allowed to ask the person
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 07:36 PM
Dec 2011

what they did all fuckin day. was about stupid. ask and talk about what he does = golddigger. well fuck.....

 

Chan790

(20,176 posts)
66. Yeah, but one shouldn't lead with it.
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 02:53 PM
Dec 2011

You know, 10, 15 minutes into a conversation after you've already gotten to know something about them, some level of comfort and interest has been established...it's conversational. You've already made it clear that your interested in them absent that information.

I'd never lead with it in the first 2 minutes for the same reason I don't ask people I just met for the balance of their checking account, how many sexual partners they've had or if they're actively engaged in sedition against the government. It's a little too personal and assessment-like.

redqueen

(115,186 posts)
67. It's often one of the first questions I ask. It will continue to be.
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 03:11 PM
Dec 2011

The answers, the way the question is answered, and the reaction to the question say a lot about the person.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
68. meh... the only reason why i may put it off is cause i know men preceive it as a gold diggin
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 03:15 PM
Dec 2011

Last edited Wed Dec 21, 2011, 08:53 AM - Edit history (1)

question. seeing how i never wanted shit from a man and paid my own way, i never had those concerns. i could see me ploppin down and saying, so.... what do you do all day.

yes. there are women that are after using men. and yes, i think a man can clearly see it if he chooses. i dont think women are good at hiding it. (like with issue of men). i think the signs are there to be picked up, if a man chooses to pick them up.

but i dont think there should be such a dogma to asking a man what he does for a living.

the only time i dont bring it up, is if i know he is doing something he.... HE may not feel secure or confident or "successful" in and will hurt his feeling or cause a preceived insult if i do bring it up. personally, i would not care.

Iggo

(49,928 posts)
39. Yep. I clicked outa there as soon as I saw that.
Sun Dec 18, 2011, 01:39 PM
Dec 2011

Bull-fucking-shit.

In fact it's like praying for rain and being upset that someone else is ALSO praying for rain!!!!

kayakjohnny

(5,235 posts)
25. The minute someone makes me click through 10 pages of crap that they could have put on one page,
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 07:48 PM
Dec 2011

I dual bird them and move on.

So, consequently, I didn't see the 10 things.

These 'page hit' bastards are wrecking the net.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
36. I agree. Yet that is always the case.
Sun Dec 18, 2011, 05:35 AM
Dec 2011

In any internet articles labeled with a number like 10 things men don't like, or 11 things women like, or 33 things you ought to eat.

Skittles

(171,717 posts)
27. sexist drivel
Fri Dec 16, 2011, 08:10 PM
Dec 2011

I love the advice about lady gardening, given by men who sport thick thatches of both armpit and pubic hair (HINT for you guys - do at least a LITTLE BIT of manscaping)

BlueIris

(29,135 posts)
40. This promotes both misogynist and racist stereotypes.
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 05:41 PM
Dec 2011

It's appalling to me that it was allowed to stand.

obamanut2012

(29,369 posts)
41. I am shocked something like this would be allowed to stand
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 06:25 PM
Dec 2011

Wow.

How about, "10 Things White People Find Unattractive About Blacks"? Or "10 Things Straights Find Gross About Gays"?

Honestly, how is it any different???

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
42. Honestly, how is it any different??? really? it is about women
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 06:27 PM
Dec 2011

all fair dissing women.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
45. mmm, ya. why so many men feel it is cute or acceptable to be so ugly to a whole gender
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 06:31 PM
Dec 2011

has me baffled, mostly.

on edit... i think i read the first one and part of the second and clicked out. i dont even need to go further to know the shit they spew

rocktivity

(45,006 posts)
43. The entire site like is like that -- it's a glorified "slam book."
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 06:29 PM
Dec 2011

Last edited Mon Dec 19, 2011, 08:04 PM - Edit history (2)

Madame Noir isn't striving to be Dr. Phil.

Don't waste your energy.


rocktivity

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
47. smart women dont like stupid lists. or people who feel compelled to make stupid lists
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 06:34 PM
Dec 2011

or post stupid lists.

this list seems to be made by someone who is unloved and unwanted by women and wants to strike back

formercia

(18,479 posts)
55. FYI
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 12:36 PM
Dec 2011

The reason I posted this was because it is so bad, it's almost Satire, and I wanted to see what the reaction would be.

Some people have no sense of humor, while others are downright anti-Free Speech.

I'm glad we don't have the unrec button any more, otherwise, this thread would have disappeared long ago.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
56. of all the responses here, yours lacks the most humor
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 01:05 PM
Dec 2011

you told someone upthread "dont read it"

your current post is humorless

it seems like you can dish out the criticism but can't take it


if you really wanted people to know that you were posting this as satire, maybe you should have indicated it somewhere along the post. we dont have ESP you know.


 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
61. you are right. the new and improved du allows the sexist shit to stand.
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 01:27 PM
Dec 2011

you post the shit and dont get the responses you want, now you step away.

Major Hogwash

(17,656 posts)
71. Well, I seriously doubt that you will ever be able to eat out in public again.
Wed Dec 21, 2011, 07:36 AM
Dec 2011

Without someone standing up and pointing at you and saying, "That's the guy! That's the guy that started that list at DU!"

NewJeffCT

(56,848 posts)
63. I disagree with most of the list
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 01:37 PM
Dec 2011

and, I hated that I had to scroll through 10 pages, and it seemed like I had to hit the page forward link twice each time.

 

saras

(6,670 posts)
69. WTF???
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 06:50 PM
Dec 2011

First - they start out with women seeking life partners IN SINGLES BARS. Fail.

Yes, women. Your appearance - and uncontrollable aspects of it like what kind of hair you have - are more important than your values or personality. We all know men are ALL like that, right?

Gaah. If you wonder how right-wingers grow up into the judgmental haters they are, this article is an excellent beginners lesson. Someone looks some way that YOU disapprove of or dislike? Dump on them, ad hominem shit all over them, no problem.

"If you need a weedwacker down there, that’s a problem." The AUTHOR needs a weedwacker down there, with a circular saw blade in it.

Ah, yes, the "angry woman" meme again. Yep, Hilary Clinton, P.J Harvey, Lady Gaga, Patti Smith, and Michelle Bachmann agree on something - NO ONE is attracted to or interested in "angry women".

Given the fact that the vast majority of pictures in the magazine are of black women, I'd probably get dumped from DU if I said all of what I think - but it does seem a good approach for Condi Rice or Sarah Palin. I don't think even this advice would have helped Margaret Thatcher, though.



formercia

(18,479 posts)
72. Would you like your Smelling Salts now, or later?
Wed Dec 21, 2011, 11:00 AM
Dec 2011


And you expect an Intellectual Discourse in the Lounge?
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
74. you post something really stupid and both genders agree. now, you insult women for the hell of it,
Wed Dec 21, 2011, 12:02 PM
Dec 2011

a little bet more, so you dont feel so foolish?

formercia

(18,479 posts)
75. Why should I feel foolish?
Wed Dec 21, 2011, 02:28 PM
Dec 2011

I'm just the Messenger.

Nobody is forcing you to read it.

As for insults, that hardly qualifies.. I'm sorry if you're thin skinned. Perhaps Martha Stewart would be more to your liking.

RedCloud

(9,230 posts)
76. Maybe we should refine this list to more practical things.
Wed Dec 21, 2011, 03:34 PM
Dec 2011

1. No oatmeal raisin cookies in cookie jar!

Okay I am stumped after that. I guess I am too open minded about such things.

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