You live to thank God that all your prayers have not been answered.

[NNadir]

I'm an extremely happily married guy, with a wonderful wife of more than 30 years who did most of the work in raising my two very fine sons, has been a great lover, a great friend, and adviser, a helper, an intelligent and sober voice in my life.

For some reason, nothing like nostalgia, but just, I guess, curiosity, I decided to search the name of a woman with whom, as a young and foolish man, I thought I "loved" although, truth be told, I actually didn't know what love was then, not like I know it now.

The woman I thought I loved lives apparently in the back hills of San Diego county and is apparently, a red neck, makes stupid comments on her twitter account about how climate change is OK because there's carbon dioxide in beer, carries on endlessly about the wonders of marijuana, and re-tweets stupid remarks about "crooked Hillary."

Jesus. She's a damned Trumper nut case, probably pixilated out of her brain.

I thought I wanted to marry that woman. I was so devastated when it didn't work out, absolutely devastated, and even obsessed about her for a few years.

Thank God I got over that one!!! If my prayers had been answered, I'd be a bitter divorced man, freaked out with "what was I thinking!?!" kind of stuff; in short I'd be a mess.

To be fair, I looked up my wife's former big love. He's a NASA planetary scientist working on deep space probes like Cassini and Odyssey.

Well at least I can thank God that all my prayers have not been answered; I'm not so sure for my wife, but she loves me anyway. As my life approaches its end, that makes me an incredibly fortunate man, with thankfully 30 years of unremitting (and sexy) joy behind me, real love, real sharing, happiness I never imagined possible.

I'm a lucky guy.

[femmocrat]

1. What a great tale. LOL

My high school class recently had a big reunion. I checked it out on FB, and after reading the right wing comments of so many classmates, I decided against going. I think their close-mindedness stems from still living in the same town. As my mom would say, "They never got off their block!"

Nostalgia is greatly over-rated!

[shenmue]

2. :)

[kimbutgar]

3. My ex hubby who I divorced in 1985 is a chump supporter

I looked at his page out of curiosity. I suspected then he was a rethug then was I was nonpoliticial then. Luckily I met the love of my life the next year and have been happily married for 28 years.

We both dodged bullets!

[NNadir]

5. Good on you! It's funny how little one actually knows about other people to whom they are close.

It sounds as if the bullet you dodged came closer than the one I dodged, but I'm very glad to hear you got through it.

It's funny, but I've always been political, but in those times, I basically assumed that all my friends were on a similar political perspective.

I certainly assumed it about that woman, particularly, if I recall correctly - and maybe I don't - she expressed certain feminist attitudes, which of course I admire in a woman, and for that matter, in a man.

Apparently I was wrong, unless of course, she changed.

If not, if she was always that way and I just didn't know it, maybe that's why our relationship didn't really go anywhere, certainly as far as yours went. If it had gone somewhere, I'd be in the best case, in your shoes, with an ex-wife who'd be a distant memory.

It doesn't matter. She's not a part of my life in any way and as I expressed, I'm certainly very happy about that.

Congrats on finding what I have found, a happy marriage! There's nothing in life that is better than loving someone deeply.

[ailsagirl]

4. Very lucky!!