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Sun May 26, 2013, 10:26 AM


The father who called to dispute the C grade his adult son got on a college exam had good intentions, Chris Segrin knows. He only wanted what was best for his kid, and if that involved lobbying the University of Arizona professor for a change, so be it.
“Somehow, his dad just seemed to know that the exam was worth a grade of a B,” says Segrin, a behavioral scientist who studies interpersonal relationships and mental health.

But what the dad didn’t know is that the phone call actually undermined his son, leaving the young man feeling insecure and incapable, not empowered and supported, a casualty of what researchers like Segrin describe as an epidemic of “overparenting.”
“When it was all done, the son came in. He was actually a nice kid who apologized profusely,” Segrin recalls. “Sometimes this type of parenting is imposed on children against their will.”


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Response to tinymontgomery (Original post)

Sun May 26, 2013, 11:13 AM

1. I have not heard of 'online' high schools.

The daughter of the helicopter mom & dad goes to an online high school. ???

Segrin’s latest papers relied on interviews with more than 1,000 college-age students and their parents from across the nation. They found that many of the young adult kids are in touch with their parents constantly, with nearly a quarter communicating by text, phone or other means several times every day and another 22 percent reaching out once a day.

I called home once a week my first semester, on Saturday mornings. After that, even less. That was when telephones had cords & were plugged into the wall.

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Response to CrispyQ (Reply #1)

Sun May 26, 2013, 11:24 AM

2. On line high schools

Below is a link to just one of the types out there. In my school system if you are kicked out of school and sent to the alternative school you then take all your courses on line. May work for some, not for others.


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Response to tinymontgomery (Reply #2)

Sun May 26, 2013, 12:40 PM

3. Thank you.

How Online Public Schooling is Different

This schooling differs from traditional schools in that classes do not take place in a building, but rather at home, on the road, or wherever an Internet connection can be found. Students take courses online with support from their teacher via phone, online Web meetings, and sometimes even face to face.

The parent (or "Learning Coach" keeps the student on track in line with the provided lessons plans. While courses are delivered online, the schools provide plenty of opportunities to connect online and offline with a vibrant school community for both parents and students.


Who Is This Intended For?

For a variety of reasons, many children simply do not thrive in a traditional classroom. These students include those who:

Are accelerated learners or are bored with the pace of their classroom lessons

Need more time than the standard classroom allows to master concepts

Feel they don't fit in, or are being bullied in their school environment

Are easily distracted in a classroom setting or have a learning challenge

Seek extra attention that's not easily found in many classrooms

Are homebound or undergoing medical treatments

Travel frequently or are uprooted throughout the year due to family situations

Are pursuing their dreams and careers in music, the arts, or in sports

There are three public ones in Colorado.

It certainly would not have been for me. I was not very disciplined.

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Response to CrispyQ (Reply #1)

Thu May 30, 2013, 08:35 PM

4. A good friend of mine enrolled her son in an online high school

It was a pretty impressive program, IMO.

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Response to CrispyQ (Reply #1)

Sun Jun 2, 2013, 04:56 AM

5. there are lots of them. and not just for kids who've 'failed' in the regular system either (as


in the area where the other poster who responded lives).

online is the model of choice of many education 'deformers' as it's cheap and puts money into their area (tech).

college too. that's what all the hype about those 'free' online college classes is about.

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