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Thu Feb 28, 2019, 06:52 PM

People can change, or at least adapt...

So my wife and I have been together almost 4 years. We have been married about 2 and a half. This whole time her grandparents have basically pretended like i do not exist. When my wife first told them about me, they cried and basically told her they do not believe that is God's plan for her. That broke her. But she stayed loyal to me even though her grandma is one of her favorite people in the world. So as time has gone by they have sent her cards and gifts with no mention of me whatsoever. And that hurt a lot.
But fast forward to about a couple of weeks ago. It was her grandma's 80th birthday and my wife insisted we go. I was so resistant to this because why should I have to be around people who hate me. Plus I hate flying so there is that. But my wife convinced me. It was super awkward at first. We all went to go see fiddler on the roof and then went to dinner. By the end of the night her grandma was actually joking with me.
And today, she sent us a package addressed to both of us! First time ever. And they sent us a news article from her birthday that lists me and wife. She even included me in the note that accompanied with it. My jaw dropped to the floor. I couldn't believe it.
So lesson learned. I mean I'm sure it is still an uphill battle but we are getting there. People can change. I was so dubious about going but I think her grandparents realized that I really do make their granddaughter happy. So it is possible folks. It's hard but we can do it.

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Thu Feb 28, 2019, 07:01 PM

1. One of my good friends

recently experienced this with her "in-laws", where her partner's daughter had not been accepting and my friend desperately wanted to be considered a grandma to her child, just as her partner was. The husband discovered that his wife had been unwelcoming and intervened, and now my friend is Gramma, too!

It can happen.

I have never announced my sexuality at my jobs but let people discover it as they got to know me. That was an approach that worked very well, but I am in a profession that is generally accepting of diversity.

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Response to nocoincidences (Reply #1)

Thu Feb 28, 2019, 07:43 PM

2. I'm glad husband intervened

And I know what you mean. I'm lucky at this job though. No one cares that I have a wife and my boss actually checks in on her regularly. It can happen!

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