It's an interesting discussion, why a certain letter (although we're not letters) are included in the catch-all acronym we use (LGBT...QQA, etc.). And there's no real easy answer, that I've come across or thought of, that might satisfy it. Like that small, inch-long equation physicist keep searching for to explain all the workings and complexities of the universe. But, in short, it's because they're not straight. Sure, they have sex with the opposite sex at times, but they're attracted to the same-sex at the same time. They're not heterosexual. They're not straight. It's a false dichotomy, because they're not both gay and straight at different times. They're what we call bisexual. And they're discriminated against just as much as gays and lesbians. Sometimes even by other gays. They'll ask what you ask, why do they even belong with us? They even deny their existence. But bisexuals do exist. And, I'm speaking as host here, to suggest otherwise WILL NOT BE TOLERATED (I use caps not for you, but for others). And the way you tell is that sometimes they'll talk about their girlfriend. Later, they'll talk about their boyfriend. That's, generally, how you tell someone is a bisexual. It's the same way employers will figure out people are gays and lesbians and then fire them or make their job a living hell. Or, being nice, you could ask a bisexual and they'll respond, "I'm bisexual," (if they're nice). That works, too. Sure, to question exactly how many exist is an interest, I guess. But not when you're claiming they're not who they are. That, too, will not be tolerated.
Also, I'm afraid that "gaydar" thing is a bit of a problem. See, it's a stereotype. I know you're using it to say gay men and women are easier to spot than someone who puts their penis inside a woman or whatever. But it's offensive to suggest such a thing. Gays and lesbians don't look a certain way. It's like saying, "I can spot a heterosexual." You can't, you just assume you can. That's how those of us in the closet pass. That's how we protect ourselves from bigoted employers. We look just as much like heterosexuals as heterosexuals do. One could argue that it only comes up either because one wants to have sex with that gaydared person; or they find something wrong with a gay person and want to attract attention to it. Whatever, I'm not saying you're doing that. I'm just letting you know that using gaydar to argue your point is a bit insensitive. Because gaydar doesn't exist, so there's no reason to use it to prove that bisexuals can hide themselves.
As to your first paragraph, an argument doesn't have to be saucy to be relevant or made. However, when you use terms, phrases and even ideas that are insensitive, it will be pointed out to you. And despite how some like to portray us, we here in the LGBT forum like to give the benefit of the doubt. We'll point out that something you said is offensive and ask you not to, say, keep repeating it and tell us to go to hell. Which is why this post exist. You have expressed some sentiments that are insensitive. That's great, that's fine. We all make mistakes or stumble or do something clumsy or just plain don't know. No big deal. But I do have to point them out. As a host it's my job. Please don't suggest a member of the LGBT community isn't really who they are or that they even belong here. Please don't use stereotypes. Please do not suggest that it's okay to use a member of the LGBT community, even in abstract, is a fine way to poke fun at a hated individual. We request that you be sensitive to others, even if you disagree with them. If you can't, please don't say anything at all. Now, I don't mean get the hell out of our forum. No, I just mean, if you're having a certain discussion with someone and can't express yourself in a sensitive way, then just stop entertaining that discussion. Move on to another topic. Talk about the weather. Or Republicans trying to screw us over. Saying, "I don't mean to be offensive," isn't a license to keep being insensitive.
Please respect our members, all of them. If you don't, you will be blocked from participating here any further.
Thanks!
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