Women's Rights & Issues
Related: About this forumF*** the pro-lifers
I had a horrible abortion guilt dream last night.
I had an abortion at a time when my husband and I were not prepared to raise a child in the way I always knew was right for me. When we did have a child, 13 years into our now 35 year marriage, I left my job that I had trained and gone to school for - my career really - and worked only part time for the ensuing 13 years so that I could focus on our child, put her first. I devoted so much time and energy to our daughter, helping at school and being an anchor for many extra-curricular activities. I left jobs when they tried to up my hours to full time. I struggled to keep her out of substandard daycare or babysitter situations. I stressed every summer when she was out of school and there was more time to provide coverage for. We scaled back on our budget. This was right for me and for our family. I am so glad I had that time with her.
I lost enough time from my career that now, at 60, I am back in school and getting back on track professionally.
So, screw the busybody pro-lifers who think they have a right to review and judge my decisions, or anyone's. It was right for my family, and was made with the best resources I had available at the time. Maybe if this country provided the kind of daycare or family-friendly work policies as they do in other, more socialist leaning countries, people like me won't have to make these hard choices.
I don't "blame" anyone else for my choice or how I feel about it, but they don't have to layer on their guilt to a really hard and painful life decision and event.
merrily
(45,251 posts)Ditto if they don't support feeding the hungry, providing medical care, etc. when the highly foreseeable result would be death.
Don't tell me you are pro-life, then deny a poor kid a school lunch.
They are anti-abortion, not pro life.
And no, either way, they have no right to make their religious belief a law that governs your body and your life.
Novara
(5,860 posts)....of allowing those assholes take up space in your head. You have nothing to feel guilty about. You made the best decision for you and for your family. Abortion is a choice, and only you can decide how to feel about it - they can't force their agenda on you.
F 'em.
cilla4progress
(24,788 posts)It's hard enought to deal with the personal loss, on some level. Not a decision made lightly or easily or flippantly. The guilt is unnecessary though, and only brought on or enhanced by their judginess and condemnation.
still_one
(92,475 posts)The disturbing thing is that the republicans have even gone further. They see no difference if a person is raped, incest, or the life of the mother, they believe abortion should be banned. A pretty good segment of them also want to outlaw the pill, believing it is also a form of abortion.
Abortion is a personal decision between a women and her doctor period.
marym625
(17,997 posts)Fuck The prolifers!
While I do believe that there are actually some of them that truly believe their own rhetoric, I don't believe that is the case for the majority of them.
We should call them what they really are. Pro human rights violators, or pro misogynists.
3catwoman3
(24,078 posts)...pro-fetus. Once the babies are out of the uterus, screw 'em - "You're on your own, kid," seems to be their post-birth philosophy.
marym625
(17,997 posts)It would be too easy for them to use it for their "good" and our bad. Has to be a negative we pin them with. Which is easy because that's what they are, negative. There's nothing pro about them.
n2doc
(47,953 posts)They don't actually care about the mother, or even the health of the fetus. Just the concept that the woman must be punished by carrying the Holy Fetus until birth (or death of both, they don't care). Once born the child can be punished for the sins of its parents like any other poor person.
Novara
(5,860 posts)They worship the fetus at all costs, even keeping dead women hooked to machines to incubate a fetus. Once it's born, it is on its own.