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niyad

(112,967 posts)
Thu May 14, 2015, 10:04 PM May 2015

Dress Codes for Girls: Are Teachers the New Objectifiers?

Dress Codes for Girls: Are Teachers the New Objectifiers?


SHAME SUIT



tWhen I was in seventh grade, a teacher at my very small Quaker school once sent the boys out of the room and started talking to us girls about how we dressed. It wasn’t too far from “The Talk,” but it focused on our clothing. This teacher told us that we had to be more mindful with the way we would sit and that we had to be careful not to move our legs the wrong way because, well, you know, the boys. “They’re at that age when they’re just waiting for you to move your legs the wrong way,” she said, laughing a little, but clearly warning us.

Most of us giggled at that idea, although I thought the image she had painted was disturbing: The boys were predatory, and because of that we were the ones tasked with the responsibility to self-consciously keep ourselves covered and folded up from their prying eyes while they allegedly scanned under the desks for the girl in the skirt with her legs apart.
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While the dress code policing at my high school was present, it was never over the top. It was leagues away from the middle-school girls now getting punished for wearing leggings, girls forced to wear “shame suits” and the superintendent in Oklahoma who is currently taking heat for allegedly having a “bend over” dress code check for girls wearing skirts, and refers to some of the girls as “skanks.” The policing of women’s bodies, especially the policing and punishing of middle-school and high-school age girls, has always been absurd. But now the policing has become downright obscene.

School officials have become so fixated on girls’ clothing at school and whether or not they are “distractions” to boys (which is insulting and dehumanizing on its own), that they have created an environment of exacerbated self-consciousness, humiliation, sexualization and dehumanization for those students. Instead of focusing on school, they are being forced and conditioned to obsess over their appearances and objectify themselves by constantly worrying about how other people are looking at their bodies.

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http://msmagazine.com/blog/2014/09/29/dress-codes-for-girls-are-teachers-the-new-objectifiers/

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Dress Codes for Girls: Are Teachers the New Objectifiers? (Original Post) niyad May 2015 OP
If I've said it once, I've said it a million times: Novara May 2015 #1
exactly! niyad May 2015 #2
Bingo!! n/t SylviaD May 2015 #3

Novara

(5,812 posts)
1. If I've said it once, I've said it a million times:
Thu May 14, 2015, 10:40 PM
May 2015

It's not up to women to make sure men don't leer at them. Men and boys need to have some goddamn self control and grow the fuck up. Women are not objects for leering and they are not responsible for others' behavior. Men are responsible for themselves. It's past time we expect that of them. And respect starts when they're boys.

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