I don't like people who find my specific sexuality "sexy."

[Gravitycollapse]

I'm nursing a hangover right now of biblical proportions. But I remember a very specific conversation between myself and another member of the house party last night. That is, she found the fact that I am bisexual sexually attractive.

I want my sexuality to be a sort of unspoken given. It simply is. It does not exist to satisfy the random whimsy of someone who sees bisexuality as some sort of novelty. And I think this is a legitimate issue for anyone who has a non-normative sexuality. To many, it becomes a fetish. And that's not okay.

[fitman]

1. You are going to be fighting windmills over this...

What is so wrong about finding bisexuality attractive anyway? Better this than hating or fearing it. Being a blonde haired guy myself I find brunettes and dark haired women very attractive (married one btw)...should that be wrong?

Very difficult for most people to fight their inner sexuality..what we find sensuous...I am a red blooded male..I find bisexuality attractive in a person...get very aroused over the thought of two attractive females getting it on...I know I'm not the only one..


I think finding bisexuality attractive is a good thing....

[Gormy Cuss]

4. You just fetishized bisexuality with that comment.

That's a really bad tack to make in this group. Either find a way to discuss the OP without doing so or delete this post.

Please understand this is a safe haven group where GravityCollapse does not need to defend the basic premise that non-normative sexualities are treated like novelties or fetishes.


Gormy Cuss,
a host of FG.

[Sheldon Cooper]

5. Do you find the thought of two males getting it on to also be arousing?

I mean, given your basic premise, I assume you do. And also, what exactly is a 'red blooded male'?

[BainsBane]

2. So what if you just don't mention it?

And let them get to know you and find you sexy for other reasons?

[Gormy Cuss]

3. Either a fetish or a scorecard.

She probably thought it was a compliment, just like the people who think they can "turn" someone's sexuality by their awesomeness.

I hope that the more knowledgeable people become with the range of human sexuality, the less this will happen.

[libodem]

6. Interesting

This is an interesting topic. Thought provoking. You have every right to feel like you feel. But it is still reassuring to have one's feeling validated.
I'll bet the person in question meant well. She may have been trying to say she was cool with everything and not judging you. It can be ackward if one is exposed to a type of sexuality that is new to them. You have a chance to be an ambassador to the uninitiated. Be kind.

[nomorenomore08]

7. Not really sure what to say. But nobody wants to be seen as a novelty or curiosity, I know that much

Which is why I tend to look askance at someone who gets over-excited about, for instance, having a "gay friend" - as if said friend were merely one more fashion accessory.

[LauraNb]

8. I find it really odd..

Ok, they might find YOU attractive because you are an attractive person, but not because of your sexuality.
Also, why do people make a fuss about having a gay friend, aren't they just friends. YOu wouldn't refer to someone as your straight friend.