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LadyHawkAZ

(6,199 posts)
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 06:58 PM Aug 2012

Rape Fatigue and You: When There’s Just No Anger Left

I appreciated this article, since the wave of Akin-Assange threads have left my face aching from the facepalms.

http://jezebel.com/5936679/rape-fatigue-and-you-when-theres-just-no-anger-left

Since around 2pm on Monday, I've felt like a contestant on a sadistic Japanese game show, donning an American flag bikini and a blindfold, covered in glue and standing in a phone booth, trying to catch dollar bills with my flailing arms as an industrial strength blower propels cash around me at high speeds. But instead of cash, I'm trying to process and react to a veritable blizzard of ignorant, rape-related bullshit flowing unabated from the mouths of conservative lawmakers in America. Reading story after story of how, say, a cranky old coot of a doctor peddling medically dangerous misinformation has somehow informed half of the American public's views on women's health care, or how, say, another dude — always a fucking dude — is saying that he doesn't think that pregnancy from statutory rape or incest is really A Thing since he personally doesn't know any pregnant kids or how, say, the GOP is condemning this sort of Wingnut Real Talk while quietly inserting a mandatory ultrasound hat tip/constitutional amendment that would force all rape victims to carry their assailant's child to term into their official party platform has worn me down.

I am at full rape capacity. I am officially in the throes of rape fatigue.

The first time I had to get up and walk away from my computer, shaking my head in disbelief, was when I first found out about Akin's morning show shenanigans. Really!? "Legitimate rape" victims don't get pregnant because of some unknown mechanism in the female body that "shuts that whole thing down?" My Twitter feed exploded with jokes about how Akin envisions that the female anatomy contains an army of scrubbing bubbles, about how legitimate murder shouldn't cause death, how the doctors Akin spoke with must think that the uterus has the personality of a Schutzhund champion. A uterus dentata, if you will. But rather than sharing in the embarrassment and chastising Akin for talking yang about crap he had no business talking about, the knee jerk reaction from the conservative loudmouths I hatefollow for their entertainment value was to defend Akin, or point out how Biden saying that dumb thing about chains was SO MUCH WORSE. Yes. Let's protect our own fragile illusion of perpetual correctness above all else. BEING SHOUTY IS ALL WE HAVE! NEVER STOP SHOUTING!

~snip~

But even though I wish it would, it doesn't stop. Rep. Todd Akin still leads Claire McCaskill in the polls by a point and refuses to drop out of the race. Voters — millions and millions of them — will still cast their ballots for people like Akin and Iowa Rep. Steve King this election, even though they've made it their business to deregulate the hell out of banks and regulate the shit out of women. I hate to sound like a crotchety YouTube commenter who just watched a clip of Here Comes Honey Boo Boo for the first time, but what is wrong with this country? We have so far to go before we're even close to where we need to be for human beings to coexist in a state that is not terrifyingly precarious for one or more historically disenfranchised groups. This story and the garbage avalanche that has followed feels like stepping outside of my apartment one morning and realizing that I had traveled through time to 1955. Or 1200. I feel like a teacher who just gave a long division test only to discover that most of her students don't know how to subtract.

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niyad

(113,055 posts)
2. I can understand the fatigue, because sometimes one looks around and thinks, "this cannot possibly
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 07:06 PM
Aug 2012

be real". but it is, and is getting worse. There is still a lot of anger in me, but then, I am a cranky old crone, and the anger these fools generate keeps my blood flowing.

LadyHawkAZ

(6,199 posts)
5. Oh, I have a deep well of angry left, believe me
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 07:12 PM
Aug 2012

but I am fatigued, and it's always nice to know I'm not all alone out here.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
8. Are you from AZ? No wonder you are fatigued, LOL. I live in Tn and I feel your pain. Like
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 09:18 PM
Aug 2012

you I'll take it to the voting booth.

LadyHawkAZ

(6,199 posts)
10. I have moved from AZ
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 09:41 PM
Aug 2012

unfortunately I moved to Utah, which is trying its best to keep up with the patented Arizona crazy.

I feel your pain too, lol.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
12. My mother-in-law's brother lived in AZ. I swear I only met him once and I tell you he was a
Fri Aug 24, 2012, 08:02 AM
Aug 2012

fruit cake along with his daughter. I mean fruit cake, strange and creepy. He retired in AZ from PA but I guess AZ does something to a person. I made sure we he came to visit I wouldn't be around. Lucky he didn't come very often. Creepy. Well are you a mormon?

LadyHawkAZ

(6,199 posts)
13. Emphatically NO lol
Fri Aug 24, 2012, 09:11 PM
Aug 2012

My avatar is from the Dawkins Out Campaign. I'm a misfit among the Mormons. They're mostly nice people, mind you, but they remind me of the We All Bundle couple in the Vonage commercials. Only they won't offer me a puppy.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
14. Your funny, LOL. I lived in MT for a year and I worked with alot of Mormons. They are real nice
Fri Aug 24, 2012, 09:44 PM
Aug 2012

people. But sometimes I think some are really sheltered. God bless em.

Starry Messenger

(32,342 posts)
4. I think I'm more appalled by the depths of ignorance.
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 07:11 PM
Aug 2012

There are way more people who are operating at some pre-scientific level of knowledge about biology making laws than I'd really thought. Is there any other industrialized G20 country that has this many troglodyte dumbshits running it?

brer cat

(24,523 posts)
6. I am 65.
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 08:10 PM
Aug 2012

I think a lot of both my anger and fatigue is because I am fighting this AGAIN. Maybe it never stopped, but at least for a while after Roe, I felt the battle had been won. I grieve for my daughter and granddaughters that they still have to deal with this level of ignorance and pure hatred for women. Wish I could have toddled off into old age believing that I had left them a better place.

LadyHawkAZ

(6,199 posts)
7. that's exactly where I am
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 08:40 PM
Aug 2012

It feels like we've been chasing our own tails all this time. Birth control is an issue in 2012? Wtf?

I have a granddaughter now too and they will have her rights over my dead body, but it's so tiring sometimes.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
15. I am 65 also. I talk with my daughter-in-law and tell her to make sure she votes. Thank goodness
Fri Aug 24, 2012, 09:47 PM
Aug 2012

she is a dem. Her mom and grandparents were dems but they couldn't and wouldn't pull the lever for Obama. Racist bastards. They are working poor and really really rednecks from the sticks. I don't even try to talk with them because they can't get pass the black thing. They voted for Hillary. They are dems. Sad really sad.

LeftyMom

(49,212 posts)
9. I'm about ready to talk about any damned thing else for a while.
Thu Aug 23, 2012, 09:32 PM
Aug 2012

And I'm not really one to call TRIGGERING! on every damned thing that hits a nerve (and in fact I find that intensely annoying) but in a world where being a woman and being a victim of sexualized violence form a venn diagram barely distinguishable from a single circle, politicians and the media throwing the R word around without consideration for the fact that it's intensely hurtful to nearly half the population gets really goddamned old.

MysticLynx

(51 posts)
16. Incorporate
Wed Sep 26, 2012, 06:40 AM
Sep 2012

your uterus. My daughter and I have talked about it and as it seems that incorporations have fewer regulations and more rights she is gonna try to incorporate hers under the name of 'prenatal eco-system 1" We have even considering get t-shirts made. Sometimes you just have to find a way to laugh about it take a breather, re-group and come back at it from a different angle.

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