BIG,FRICKING HUGE HURDLE

[kozar]

hit me this morning,, my niece texted me and let me know that they were holding a bday party for my brother on Jan 4 because he will be 60yo. She implied how our parents need to see the 3 sons all together because they are old. I talked to Mrs K, said Im too new into not drinking to be in that position. So this went down, years ago I would have went and done it..hands down. Today I emailed my Mother,because when I called her ,she was out shopping. And I said " I can't ,too many traps" she emailed and pushed about the 3 of us and our families all being together again. I just said " I cant" Then a light went in my head,,and I called both my brothers,and niece and said " I cant,this is why" and then I told both my brothers about Mom's concerns and said " I agree with her,,we need to do this,,but in a more controlled situation" Miracles of miracles! they both agreed! and we will start working on that after the new year for Mom. I stood up today,,where I wouldn't have before. I called,,not texted, and explained. Even Mom tonight when I finally got her on phone agrees. I think my psyche will be proud when I see her Friday,, I know Mrs K is right now! Whether you all know it or not, you all are part of my support group too, simply because I can type these thoughts out.
thanks for listening.
Koz

[dewsgirl]

1. ...

[kozar]

7. return of group hugz nt

[irisblue]

11. Yeah this👆👆👆👆👆

[elleng]

2. GREAT GREAT news, Koz!!!

'Miracles of miracles! they both agreed! and we will start working on that after the new year for Mom. I stood up today.'

[samnsara]

3. wow thats great!!!!! Congrats and you have a great supportive family!

[kozar]

4. they weren't always supportive,

which makes today big for me,,I stood up,,now they support, it was a step for me.. ty for the gratz

[JDC]

5. Honesty with yourself and others is what it's all about

[Karadeniz]

6. Proud of you! Easy to give in to temptation...you took the more courageous route!❤

[SWBTATTReg]

8. Good for you. This is a group effort by all to help you in your time of need. I remember...

when my alcoholic brother and sister got together at family gatherings, it wasn't a good thing. Exposing them to the drinking was the last thing they needed and yet, my Mom still demanded that all show up. Ridiculous and despite what she cajoled and demanded, I wouldn't support the gatherings because of this potential to damage their efforts to control their drinking. Sad and selfish on Mom's part...

[kozar]

9. funny how they

all say whatever you need,or what do you need from us? until you are honest and stand up... IO am sorry for what you wen tthrough with your brother and sister, I am thankful that when I stood up,,my family and Mother,,understood and agreed.

[marble falls]

10. Told ya, we're all here sharing your victory. Life is good on DU!

[littlemissmartypants]

12. Well done, kozar! ❤

The holidays are hard enough. I am so proud of you for forging you own path!

[JDC]

13. How is this working out?

Still Feeling ok about the idea of a "controlled" get together? Everyone else still on board?

[kozar]

14. ty JDC

It is actually working out pretty well. I had phone calls from all on Christmas Day,,no pressure,they all understood. and ,brothers and I are talking regularly again. Younger Bro even tossed a couple "L" words my way, which is amazing in itself. Im not sure it would be at this point if I had not taken "control" of it.

Thank you so much for checking in,,

Koz