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murielm99

(30,573 posts)
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:02 AM Sep 2022

This is supposed to be an important post,

due to its number. Maybe I should not overshare, but I am terrified.

I have lung cancer. Yes, I smoked for most of my adult life. I have quit many times, unsuccessfully. I swear it is hard because there is another smoker in the house. When I decide to cheat, I just reach out for my hubby's pack of smokes.

Please send prayers, healing vibes, whatever you think will help. I have a great deal of guilt and fear.

I have a couple of other medical problems that may or may not be connected to this, I don't know.

I fell on August 8 and had a brain bleed. I got up in the night to use the bathroom. There are boxes and bags strewn around our house because the kitchen and laundry room are being remodeled. I ended up in the hospital for five days. I had already had the CT scan, where they found the lung mass. They did not schedule me to go back until 9/7. I will find out then if this is malignant, I think.

A whole month! That terrifies me. Maybe I am too far gone to be helped. I am 74. The mass is greater than 8mm and is a solitary pulmonary module.

Maybe 74 is too old to ask for help.

I am also being scanned for compression fractures to my spine. I have osteoporosis. This is the third time I have had compression fractures. I hope the cancer has not metastasized to my spine. I picked up a microwave and carried it back to the kitchen because my husband would not help. It was too much for my back. He cooperates when he feels like it.

I will not know results until 9/13. That is a long time.

I will keep you posted. I am only asking for support, not medical advice. I am sure I will have all sorts of doctors weighing in.

If I sound critical of my husband, well, I know he is in shock, too. He does not know how to react.

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This is supposed to be an important post, (Original Post) murielm99 Sep 2022 OP
You have friends here snowybirdie Sep 2022 #1
Take care PJMcK Sep 2022 #2
I'm wishing you the best. IjustDontlikeRepugs Sep 2022 #3
Sending you 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗 MLAA Sep 2022 #4
My God surround you with love MacKasey Sep 2022 #5
You will be in my prayers LetMyPeopleVote Sep 2022 #6
((muriel)) blm Sep 2022 #7
You are in my thoughts now and into the future. I can only hope you know you have hlthe2b Sep 2022 #8
29,000 posts! Congratulations! Croney Sep 2022 #9
I am confused about the dates, too. murielm99 Sep 2022 #10
So maybe you don't have lung cancer. If you do, a nodule that size can be removed Croney Sep 2022 #12
My doc has told me already that it is cancer, murielm99 Sep 2022 #13
Good luck and keep us posted. 🙂 Croney Sep 2022 #17
I suppose the size of it is not size alone, but how much space there is for it. soldierant Sep 2022 #75
Sending you light and love... dixiechiken1 Sep 2022 #11
Best of luck. I went through it a couple of years ago. multigraincracker Sep 2022 #14
All the best vibes and care for you. LakeArenal Sep 2022 #15
Sending light and love your way cate94 Sep 2022 #16
Healing vibes on the way! 💗💗💗 SheltieLover Sep 2022 #18
Forgive yourself and your husband. Past is passed & you've probably learned from it Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2022 #19
74 is not too old to ask for help Maine Abu El Banat Sep 2022 #20
(hug) Wicked Blue Sep 2022 #21
Muriel, You are in my thoughts and prayers irisblue Sep 2022 #22
Much healing vibes! paleotn Sep 2022 #23
Hang in there, muriel. We're all supporting you. ancianita Sep 2022 #24
Hang in there, Muriel! colorado_ufo Sep 2022 #25
Waiting is the hardest part. I had a nodule on my lung discovered two years ago Walleye Sep 2022 #26
Hang in there, Muriel99. You have friends here. Ocelot II Sep 2022 #27
This is a courageous post jmbar2 Sep 2022 #28
Sending healing thoughts your way. I pray that all medical issues get resolved as best as LoisB Sep 2022 #29
Sending you the best thoughts for a fast recovery JohnSJ Sep 2022 #30
Muriel, I am so sorry that you are going through this! But do not worry about oversharing. There is LaMouffette Sep 2022 #31
My husband had non-small cell lung cancer. appleannie1 Sep 2022 #32
Sending good thoughts and vibes. Stay positive and continue to eat well and exercixe. c-rational Sep 2022 #33
Sending healing and positive thoughts. onecaliberal Sep 2022 #34
Try Hank you so much for this update, murielm99. calimary Sep 2022 #35
I'm wishing you... FeelingBlue Sep 2022 #36
Sending you good vibes and wishing you well. StarryNite Sep 2022 #37
Sending hugs and vibes for best possible outcome. Your DU family is here niyad Sep 2022 #38
Sending you healing hugs and love. gademocrat7 Sep 2022 #39
I am in a similar situation. Delmette2.0 Sep 2022 #40
It is nice to hear from someone in a similar situation. murielm99 Sep 2022 #82
One thing I did was post in the DU Cancer Support group. Delmette2.0 Sep 2022 #85
I am having a PET scan today. murielm99 Sep 2022 #105
Take a friend or relative with you of you can. Delmette2.0 Sep 2022 #106
YOU are PRECIOUS and beautiful. 74 is a PERFECTLY FINE TIME TO ASK FOR HELP. lostnfound Sep 2022 #41
This is my experience with lung cancer Farmer-Rick Sep 2022 #42
Oh my ... Delphinus Sep 2022 #43
I am so sorry to hear. I would be totally terrified too. Please keep us posted Evolve Dammit Sep 2022 #44
Holding you in the light and hoping you ask for the support you need and deserve n/t KatK Sep 2022 #45
74 is the new 49, woman! You have a long way to go before your dirt nap. Native Sep 2022 #46
I'm sorry for what you're going through. aocommunalpunch Sep 2022 #47
Sending up prayers for you and for healing vibes. Make your healthcare your #1 priority. iluvtennis Sep 2022 #48
Wishing you all the best!!! CaptainTruth Sep 2022 #49
Sending healing vibes! PortTack Sep 2022 #50
I am so sorry to read this. Do you have other friends or family members question everything Sep 2022 #51
My husband is feeling guilty, murielm99 Sep 2022 #83
DU is with you! bucolic_frolic Sep 2022 #52
Sending healing wishes and hoping for the best possible results. JudyM Sep 2022 #53
(((HUGS)))) Duppers Sep 2022 #54
First of all, it is never too late to ask for help - ever! pazzyanne Sep 2022 #55
Life is messing with you vlyons Sep 2022 #56
You're in my thoughts. Solly Mack Sep 2022 #57
OMG! I am so hopeful for you. SoFloDenny Sep 2022 #58
DU sometimes frowns on prayer and spirituality. tavernier Sep 2022 #59
{{{{Muriel}}}} Sending healing vibes/energy and prayers along with the hug. I'm highplainsdem Sep 2022 #60
Osteoporosis is worsened by smoking Warpy Sep 2022 #61
Does this mean the cancer has spread to my spine? murielm99 Sep 2022 #67
Not necessarily Warpy Sep 2022 #77
I did quit. murielm99 Sep 2022 #84
No. Two different mechanisms. lostnfound Sep 2022 #78
Thank you everyone, for murielm99 Sep 2022 #62
Hugs and healing vibes Wild blueberry Sep 2022 #63
Sending you light and love. Maraya1969 Sep 2022 #64
we are here for you murielm99 Skittles Sep 2022 #65
Wishing you some good news and hope. pandr32 Sep 2022 #66
Good luck. Depending on the cell type in the lesion, there may be excellent treatments. NNadir Sep 2022 #68
Wishing you the very best. BigDemVoter Sep 2022 #69
Sending strength, hope, and many hugs. ❤️❤️❤️ crickets Sep 2022 #70
I too am 74 stage left Sep 2022 #71
74 also and still smoking. MOMFUDSKI Sep 2022 #104
Love and light to you. ❤️ herding cats Sep 2022 #72
I'm sorry your are facing this challenge and I hope you know that You are the only one Cozmo Sep 2022 #73
HEALING ❤️‍🩹 VIBES to You, Muriel!!💚🍀🌈💜💕🕯🕊 Cha Sep 2022 #74
My oldest friend BigmanPigman Sep 2022 #76
(((((((((HUGE HUGS)))))))) UpInArms Sep 2022 #79
💕💕💕💕💕(((Oh, Muriel))) 💕💕💕💕💕 Hekate Sep 2022 #80
I love you muriel! brer cat Sep 2022 #81
I prayed for you. I also prayed for your husband (he needs it). About smoking, do not feel guilty Joinfortmill Sep 2022 #86
(((((.....))))) markie Sep 2022 #87
sending you support and good wishes mountain grammy Sep 2022 #88
Dear Orleans, I am praying for healing of body and spirit, for peace and clarity Tanuki Sep 2022 #89
Wishing you recovery sellitman Sep 2022 #90
Loving vibes wendyb-NC Sep 2022 #91
Wishing the very best for you. Stuart G Sep 2022 #92
Love and optimism from me. babylonsister Sep 2022 #93
You and I are the same age.. PittBlue Sep 2022 #94
Sending prayers for the best prognosis and outcome! summer_in_TX Sep 2022 #95
Best wishes for you! Scalded Nun Sep 2022 #96
... sprinkleeninow Sep 2022 #97
)))))*healing vibes*((((( ... electric_blue68 Sep 2022 #98
Like an old bedtime story, I'll briefly tell you this one again DFW Sep 2022 #99
This message was self-deleted by its author DFW Sep 2022 #100
Avoid the Urge Roy Rolling Sep 2022 #101
Wishing only the best for you. Healing vibes on the way. Stay encouraged, muriel. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Sep 2022 #102
Sending you Love and Hope! Kath2 Sep 2022 #103
74 is not too old to seek medical help. trof Sep 2022 #107
3. I'm wishing you the best.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:14 AM
Sep 2022

Best medical attention and best of luck. Stay positive if possible. Does not help to worry about things you can’t control.

I was a husband a couple of times. I know how we be.

MLAA

(17,009 posts)
4. Sending you 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:15 AM
Sep 2022


Sending you all the best! You are never too old to need and ask for help from your friends. DUers are your friends.💖💖💖

hlthe2b

(101,319 posts)
8. You are in my thoughts now and into the future. I can only hope you know you have
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:24 AM
Sep 2022

support and caring friends-- however anonymous-- here.

I will continually hope that you get the best possible news and outcome, even if that may require some difficult treatment and patience.

Croney

(4,612 posts)
9. 29,000 posts! Congratulations!
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:25 AM
Sep 2022

I'm confused about the dates. If you don't know results until 9/13, maybe it's not malignant? Wishing you the best outcome possible.

murielm99

(30,573 posts)
10. I am confused about the dates, too.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:28 AM
Sep 2022

But it is staring me in the face. I am having a PET scan on 9/7. They will tell me the results on 9/13.

Croney

(4,612 posts)
12. So maybe you don't have lung cancer. If you do, a nodule that size can be removed
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:37 AM
Sep 2022

with curative intent. I'm not a doctor but my doctor is watching something similar with me (a never-smoker). I go once a year for a scan, and it hasn't changed. I hope yours is similar.

murielm99

(30,573 posts)
13. My doc has told me already that it is cancer,
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:39 AM
Sep 2022

due to its size. I hope it can be removed.

You are kind to be so supportive. Thank you.

soldierant

(6,489 posts)
75. I suppose the size of it is not size alone, but how much space there is for it.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 03:59 PM
Sep 2022

I had a ten-pound endometrioma which was benign. But there's a lot more potential room in a uterus than there is in a lung sac.

Quitting smoking is hard. It was certainly the hardest thing I ever did. And I once met a lovely lady who was a recovering alcoholoc and a recovering heroin addict but could not quit smoking - that was harder than either of the other two.

multigraincracker

(32,335 posts)
14. Best of luck. I went through it a couple of years ago.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:44 AM
Sep 2022

Turned out not to be cancer and shrunk up and went away. They can go either way.

LakeArenal

(28,610 posts)
15. All the best vibes and care for you.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:44 AM
Sep 2022

Please to keep deep breathing to help your anxiety.

Science is still creating miracles. Hope the next is for you.

Bernardo de La Paz

(48,409 posts)
19. Forgive yourself and your husband. Past is passed & you've probably learned from it
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:54 AM
Sep 2022

Forgiving yourself and your husband will help you heal deeper and better.

Maine Abu El Banat

(3,479 posts)
20. 74 is not too old to ask for help
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:02 AM
Sep 2022

But it is unfortunately when you really have to start fighting for it. For profit healthcare sucks. Good luck! You got this.

Wicked Blue

(5,702 posts)
21. (hug)
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:09 AM
Sep 2022

Sending hugs and hopes...

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

ancianita

(35,582 posts)
24. Hang in there, muriel. We're all supporting you.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:14 AM
Sep 2022

Your anxiety will lessen in a week. Your treatment will be clearer, and you'll likely come out of this better than you fear right now.

Stay open. Breathe. Take care. Don't beat yourself up.

Walleye

(30,215 posts)
26. Waiting is the hardest part. I had a nodule on my lung discovered two years ago
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:27 AM
Sep 2022

Not a tobacco smoker but I smoked weed All my life so I was scared. The nodule was discovered in a CAT scan in preparation for radiation treatment for breast cancer. They postponed the radiation treatment and wedged nodule out between my ribs. Fortunately it was benign. They tested all the lymph nodes and everything. I sure hope yours turns out good and if it’s cancer that is treatable and curable. Please know we are with you

jmbar2

(4,775 posts)
28. This is a courageous post
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:34 AM
Sep 2022

Hoping for a positive outcome, but it is a long wait for you. Hang in there.

All of us at some time will be facing serious health issues. We can learn from each other. Thanks for sharing.

LoisB

(6,885 posts)
29. Sending healing thoughts your way. I pray that all medical issues get resolved as best as
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:46 AM
Sep 2022

possible. Try to stay positive. We are here.

LaMouffette

(1,986 posts)
31. Muriel, I am so sorry that you are going through this! But do not worry about oversharing. There is
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:56 AM
Sep 2022

nothing worse than feeling alone in a time of crisis, so please know that you are not alone.

I am sending you my prayers and healing vibes and wishing you the very best outcome!

appleannie1

(5,013 posts)
32. My husband had non-small cell lung cancer.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:02 AM
Sep 2022

It filled one lung completely and had spread to his liver. Doctors gave him 3 months at most. He went through the chemo and radiation. Pet scan showed no living cancer cells in his body. He lived for 5 more years and died of something else. There is always hope and you can continue living your life. Just don't give up....

onecaliberal

(32,184 posts)
34. Sending healing and positive thoughts.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:05 AM
Sep 2022

You can always come here for support. Try to rest and take good care of yourself.

calimary

(80,218 posts)
35. Try Hank you so much for this update, murielm99.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:05 AM
Sep 2022

It took courage to take some time to share this with us. I can only guess how awash in conflicting feelings you must be.

We’re all here to keep a vigil and lift you up. You’re not alone.

FeelingBlue

(657 posts)
36. I'm wishing you...
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:07 AM
Sep 2022

Peace in uncertainty and the comfort of knowing you have friends who care about you. Look at this list!!! All the very best to you.

niyad

(111,135 posts)
38. Sending hugs and vibes for best possible outcome. Your DU family is here
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:09 AM
Sep 2022

for you. Lean as much as you need.

Delmette2.0

(4,114 posts)
40. I am in a similar situation.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:11 AM
Sep 2022

I will be 70 next month. And have smoked for 50 years. I lost count of the number of time I have tried to quit. My medical problem is COPD and scoliosis and osteoporosis.
It all started from being born without a right pulmonary artery. That caused the scoliosis. The rest is a long story of dominoes.
I have had colon cancer, stage 2. No chemo needed. 2 1/2 years later I am still doing fine .


The only thing I know is that you need stories about positive outcomes. Don't let anyone tell you anything negative.

murielm99

(30,573 posts)
82. It is nice to hear from someone in a similar situation.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 06:08 PM
Sep 2022

I am sending you prayers and support, too. We can help each other.

Delmette2.0

(4,114 posts)
85. One thing I did was post in the DU Cancer Support group.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 06:18 PM
Sep 2022

Lots of supportive folks there. I didn't know what to expect or what to ask questions about.

PM me any time. I can always "listen".

murielm99

(30,573 posts)
105. I am having a PET scan today.
Wed Sep 7, 2022, 08:27 AM
Sep 2022

It will take about two hours. They will check my compression fractures to the spine and the solitary pulmonary (lung) nodule greater than 8mm.

Wish or pray for a good outcome for me! Thanks for your support.

Delmette2.0

(4,114 posts)
106. Take a friend or relative with you of you can.
Wed Sep 7, 2022, 08:52 AM
Sep 2022

Just to have someone close by to talk with. The scan won't give you any immediate information. You just need to have a calming distraction.

My son always seems to have a story to tell me as a distraction to my own worries. Something involving his job, a friend, or a feel good story on the news. (DU Lounge comes to mind if you are going in alone.)

I will have you on my mind all day.

lostnfound

(16,114 posts)
41. YOU are PRECIOUS and beautiful. 74 is a PERFECTLY FINE TIME TO ASK FOR HELP.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:13 AM
Sep 2022

Please do not give up. Don’t feel guilt. And don’t let any doctor do anything less than they would for a 60-year old. YOU ARE WORTH IT.

Because of the brain bleed, they found it earlier than they otherwise would have. That is a lucky thing. Treatments are getting better. “Greater than 8 mm” is not such a high risk, hopefully not greater than 20 mm?

But Sep 7 is only 2 days away, right?

Farmer-Rick

(9,948 posts)
42. This is my experience with lung cancer
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:18 AM
Sep 2022

This may NOT happen to you but I thought you should know other people have been where you are and have come out the other end OK. This happened about 10 years ago when my spouse was 60.

My spouse smoked all their life. Maybe quit once or twice but not seriously. They were smoking when I took them to the doctors because they had a slight fever and constant coughing.... before COVID.

The doctor diagnosed lung cancer and pneumonia caused by lung cancer. There were a couple of masses in the lungs. We went home with antibiotics for the pneumonia and a week later, we went to a specialist who set up to do a biopsy. The specialist said it wasn't a guarantee that it was lung cancer. The pneumonia had cleared up by then.

We went to the hospital for the biopsy. I waited in the hospital waiting room and the doctor came out immediately to tell me the results. They didn't wait days and I was told in the waiting room about the results. The results were also mailed to us a week later.

It was negative. There was no Cancer. The masses were benign possibly caused by the pneumonia, they didn't know for sure what caused them, aside from smoking.

I quit smoking the day they said the word cancer to my spouse. My spouse never quit but I did. Now is your chance to quit for good. Quitting will only help you even now.

I hope things will turn out well for you. Hang in there.

Native

(5,923 posts)
46. 74 is the new 49, woman! You have a long way to go before your dirt nap.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:29 AM
Sep 2022

Stay positive and advocate like hell for yourself. Please keep us updated. You're gonna be fine. And you've learned a valuable lesson. Don't wait for your husband to help, ask for it and if necessary, demand it. I go thru the same thing with my spouse, and more often than not he's just in his own head and hasn't a fucking clue. If I ask politely, he's happy to help.

And if you have a friend or another relative who can go with you to your appointments, that could be very helpful. It's hard to remember what the doc has said when you are emotionally distraught, and even harder to ask necessary questions. Having someone advocate for you when you can't helps immensely.

aocommunalpunch

(4,215 posts)
47. I'm sorry for what you're going through.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:30 AM
Sep 2022

The fear alone is more than enough for anyone to deal with. If virtual thoughts and hugs mean anything, I’m sending them your way.

question everything

(47,078 posts)
51. I am so sorry to read this. Do you have other friends or family members
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:41 AM
Sep 2022

who can move in to help while the remodeling and boxes are around?

Hoping for better news

murielm99

(30,573 posts)
83. My husband is feeling guilty,
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 06:10 PM
Sep 2022

and he did a bit more. Our son is in Vermont right now, on a planned vacation. When he gets back, I am going to hog tie him to my kitchen.

Duppers

(28,076 posts)
54. (((HUGS))))
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:45 AM
Sep 2022

One of my best friends, also 74, is dying of lung cancer. She was diagnosed last yr and given only a year to live. However, with her physicians' aggressive treatment, her time has been extended another year!!!

One of her treatments caused temporary blindness which, for her, was most difficult for her because she lives by herself. (Was divorced a number of times.)

She never smoked tobacco but used a bong and vaped weed nightly for many decades. She was a manager for the IRS, so her m.j. use never interfered with her work.

She's also a Dem and has a heart of gold!!


pazzyanne

(6,476 posts)
55. First of all, it is never too late to ask for help - ever!
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:48 AM
Sep 2022

Now, you came to the right place to get support, encouragement, advise from personal experiences, suggestions, etc. Prayers, good thoughts, and blessings being sent to you. Take care of you while you wait, because waiting is the hardest thing you will be doing.

vlyons

(10,252 posts)
56. Life is messing with you
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 10:54 AM
Sep 2022

Ask your health insurance if you are covered to have an LVN do a weekly visit. You might consider having a house cleaner come once a week also.

Of course, no more smoking, and only you can do that. Can you spend 15 minutes everyday in contemplative thought (meditation) affirming your aspiration to be free of the smoking habit? Something like: "I aspire to be free of the urge to smoke. When that urge arises, I aspire to tell myself that if I sit quietly and relax, the urge will go away."

There are other things you can do to quell the urge to smoke. Drink a glass of water. Suck on a hard candy. Sit and listen to some relaxing music.

It ain't easy being a senior. I'm 75 and there are days when getting old really sucks. We all of us are going to die. We cannot escape death. Just like we cannot escape getting and having ill health. I tell myself: When all appearances of this life dissolve, may I with happiness and great ease let go of all attachments. Like a child returning home.

 

SoFloDenny

(58 posts)
58. OMG! I am so hopeful for you.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 11:03 AM
Sep 2022

I smoked for 40 years; close to two packs a day. Fortunately I don't have these issues you are experiencing. Although I do have to spend $45,000 to replace my teeth. So, not life threatening. And thankful for that.
To all who still smoke, lots to look forward to...

tavernier

(12,271 posts)
59. DU sometimes frowns on prayer and spirituality.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 11:14 AM
Sep 2022

Too bad. I frown on people who haven’t had 75 years of life experience and know that there is a wonderful spiritual world all around us. Prayers and positive thoughts are exceedingly healthy. And laughter. Get rid of all that bad air and energy with as much laughter as you can pack into your day. Surround yourself with positive people and memories. No stewing over what you may have done wrong in previous years. Not helpful.

And keep listening to Elton singing our song: I’m Still Standing!

highplainsdem

(48,507 posts)
60. {{{{Muriel}}}} Sending healing vibes/energy and prayers along with the hug. I'm
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 11:16 AM
Sep 2022

so very sorry to hear about this. But treatments for cancer are very good now. A friend of mine, a smoker -- well, former smoker since he quit after the diagnosis --lost a lung to lung cancer more than 30 years ago, but is still doing well.

So sorry to hear about the fall, too. Please try to have at least some light on at night, if there's any risk of falling/tripping.

No, 74 is NOT too old to ask for help. Nor is it too old to think in terms of improving your health, once you get past this crisis, as I'm praying you will, very soon.

As for your husband -- he should know better and do better. You deserve him to be more responsible.

Please keep us posted.

Warpy

(110,578 posts)
61. Osteoporosis is worsened by smoking
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 11:26 AM
Sep 2022

and the mass in your lung could definitely be related to it. Hubby needs to quit, too, if he wants to keep you around for a while. Even if he switches to vaping, it can help your effort to quit.

Good luck. I've watched a lot of people struggle to quit.

Warpy

(110,578 posts)
77. Not necessarily
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 04:39 PM
Sep 2022

The person to ask about this is your oncologist once your biopsy is done and the results are in. I'm sorry, but I can't answer your question, I don't know enough about what's going on.

I do know you're going to have to quit, and your husband is most likely going to have to hide his butts outside the house so you can't bum one, which is why getting him a vaping kit for inside the house might be a good idea.

My favorite quitting method was my mother's. She was diagnosed with early COPD and came home in a panic. My dad fixed her with a cold stare and said "You won't quit, you don't have the guts." She never smoked again.

If only I'd known it was that easy when I was growing up, gagging on smoke.

murielm99

(30,573 posts)
84. I did quit.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 06:14 PM
Sep 2022

I guess I was scared out of smoking. I have had one cigarette since the 26th of July.

My doc knows I have quit.

I am supposed to start Warfarin again after being off it for three weeks because of the brain bleed. I am having trouble getting confirmation on that. It is because of the holiday. I have a-fib, and it is dangerous for me to be off Warfarin for too long.

lostnfound

(16,114 posts)
78. No. Two different mechanisms.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 04:41 PM
Sep 2022

It decreases the absorption of calcium and slows the production of cells that produce bone.

That’s different than causing cancer.

murielm99

(30,573 posts)
62. Thank you everyone, for
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 11:33 AM
Sep 2022

all your kind support and encouraging stories. Some of you are people I have never interacted with, and yet you are here for me.

Skittles

(152,877 posts)
65. we are here for you murielm99
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 01:17 PM
Sep 2022


NEVER think you are "too old" for help......74 is a pup compared to someone who is 100!

we are HERE for you, someone is always here on DU......please do keep us posted, we care

NNadir

(33,316 posts)
68. Good luck. Depending on the cell type in the lesion, there may be excellent treatments.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 01:43 PM
Sep 2022

These were not available when my father - also a smoker - got lung cancer.

I visited my sister-in-law this weekend, a cancer survivor, she's in her 7th year of remission.

All the best of luck.

BigDemVoter

(4,147 posts)
69. Wishing you the very best.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 01:51 PM
Sep 2022

Don't blame yourself. Cigarette companies purposefully made highly addictive cigarettes.

Just focus on yourself and on doing what you need to do.

Meanwhile, I will hope that this is just a scare and nothing more. Please take care of yourself!

stage left

(2,918 posts)
71. I too am 74
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 02:06 PM
Sep 2022

and tried for years to quit smoking. I know how hard this addiction is to battle. Don't beat yourself up about it. As others have said, even if it turns out to be cancer, treatment is so much better these days. You can beat this. Hugs and best wishes.

MOMFUDSKI

(4,790 posts)
104. 74 also and still smoking.
Tue Sep 6, 2022, 10:23 AM
Sep 2022

My sister-in-law, who never even tried a cig, came up with lung cancer 5 years ago. Talk about there being no justice in this world. Anyway, she had chemo and is now cancer free. There is always hope and good docs. I rationalize my smoking by saying I will live the life I choose. So when it hits the fan there is no feeling guilty allowed. Go with the flow and do your best. You are not alone. Especially here on DU. Keep us posted.

Cozmo

(1,402 posts)
73. I'm sorry your are facing this challenge and I hope you know that You are the only one
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 02:46 PM
Sep 2022

who can look out for you. Your health and comfort are in your hands. Don't carry things that are too heavy, watch your step. You are the one in charge and since you can't escape yourself, you always have a friend, ally and helper. Take care

BigmanPigman

(51,295 posts)
76. My oldest friend
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 04:28 PM
Sep 2022

has had the exact same condition and problems with her smoking, lung cancer, falling, etc. It is bad. However my friend's husband was 100% supportive and it made all the difference in the world. I hope your guy gets it together soon, for both your sakes

Hekate

(89,709 posts)
80. 💕💕💕💕💕(((Oh, Muriel))) 💕💕💕💕💕
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 05:57 PM
Sep 2022

I had an Aunt Muriel, nicknamed Mickey, and we loved her dearly.

74 isn’t too old to ask for help — I am 74, too. No advice, just sending you love in a scary time.

Be Peaceful
Be Happy
Be Safe
Awaken to the Light of your True Nature
Be Free

Joinfortmill

(13,948 posts)
86. I prayed for you. I also prayed for your husband (he needs it). About smoking, do not feel guilty
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 06:32 PM
Sep 2022

Quiting smoking is very, very difficult for some of us. I quit in 2006. I remember it well because I was brought to the hospital by my manager, incoherent. I had contracted Legionnaire's Disease. I was able to finally quite after 40+ years, because I spent a week in the hosptial filled with drugs.

Just take care of yourself. Take one day at a time. It's also ok to be afraid. Actually, it's ok to feel whatever it is you feel. Please keep us updated. God bless.

markie

(22,753 posts)
87. (((((.....)))))
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 06:42 PM
Sep 2022

let go of the guilt... love yourself...

Bob Marley said "you never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice"

mountain grammy

(26,475 posts)
88. sending you support and good wishes
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 06:44 PM
Sep 2022

from this 74 year old. I hope this all turns out well and you're not too old to ask for help.

Tanuki

(14,871 posts)
89. Dear Orleans, I am praying for healing of body and spirit, for peace and clarity
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 06:52 PM
Sep 2022

for you and your husband. You were right to ask for help! Just look at all the love and support you have right here on DU.

wendyb-NC

(3,214 posts)
91. Loving vibes
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 07:33 PM
Sep 2022

I will pray and hold you in the healing light, may you find peace and serenity away from the fear and especially any and all guilt. Please take care of yourself, love yourself and ask for healing. Get well and thrive.

babylonsister

(170,865 posts)
93. Love and optimism from me.
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 08:10 PM
Sep 2022

Please 'don't borrow trouble'. I find you just have to deal with it as it comes as you have done your whole life. Please try to stay positive.

PittBlue

(4,216 posts)
94. You and I are the same age..
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:32 PM
Sep 2022

I had a heart event last year and dealing with it everyday. You and I have a lot of living to do. Sending you love, peace and good vibes. May the Force be with you.💕

summer_in_TX

(2,637 posts)
95. Sending prayers for the best prognosis and outcome!
Mon Sep 5, 2022, 09:50 PM
Sep 2022

With so many advances now in cancer treatment, cures and long-lasting healing are becoming more and more routine.

electric_blue68

(14,390 posts)
98. )))))*healing vibes*((((( ...
Tue Sep 6, 2022, 12:39 AM
Sep 2022

never too late to ask for help

Hopefully a successful removal, NO Reoccurrence!



(and your poor spine, too )

DFW

(53,781 posts)
99. Like an old bedtime story, I'll briefly tell you this one again
Tue Sep 6, 2022, 02:58 AM
Sep 2022

Six years ago, during a routine checkup, which my wife gets because she already had cancer in 2001, she was found to have a rare form of cancer that only strikes elderly or very slender women. It is always fatal—statistically, anyway—and has the nickname “the murderer” since that’s what it usually is. She was fast-tracked into a cancer clinic here that specializes in women’s ailments. The surgeon told us up front that this was about the worst diagnosis she could have, BUT: he had never seen the “murderer” in such an early stage before.

A long operation was scheduled. It took nearly six hours. Eighty-four lymph nodes were removed and taken for biopsy. For the first couple of days, she was hooked up to a spinal morphine drip for pain, and she only had to push a button to get increased flow, which she never hesitated to use. To avoid addiction, they begged her to stop using it as soon as she thought she could handle the pain, which she did after three days. Then came the waiting on the 84 biopsies. That took days. Finally, we got the call. I drove to the clinic, as spouses were expected to be present for support. The surgeon came in and said, “well, I have never seen this before, EVER.” ALL 84 biopsies came back negative. Our next question, obviously, was: ok, what does that mean for us? He said it was her choice to do a round of chemo or not, but for the first time ever, he recommended against it. My wife remembered her first round of chemo, and how she suffered, so she said she’d take her chances foregoing it. I said that whatever she decided was what I decided. That was six years ago, and there has been no hint of a recurrence. Just about all the women in her family have had cancer twice, including her mom, who will turn 95 this month. They all lived well past 90.

I haven’t yet had the “honor,” but both my parents had cancer, and so did ALL of their siblings. With me, it’s not “if,” but “when.” I only hope I can face it as bravely when the time comes.

But modern medicine is always making progress, and a diagnosis that used to be terminal thirty years ago is not necessarily that now. These days, the chance of a worst case scenario is far lower than it was a generation ago. The cigarettes have got to go. Yours and your husband’s. I realize that sawing off your own leg might be an easier task.

There are always the stories about that uncle who smoked 14000 cigarettes a year (2 packs a day) and lived to be 101. My wife lost a girlfriend who smoked like that to lung cancer at age 36. I had a great friend decades ago. He was 22 years older than I. He was from Paris, but had Dutch ancestors, and bright blond hair, which saved his life as a teenager. At age 14, he was considered a model “Aryan” schoolboy by the Nazi occupiers of France. They never suspected that he snuck out at night and fired machine guns at them after dark. Even decades later, when he had a travel agency in Paris, knew and adored my wife, still would never visit us in Germany. He said there was no way either of us could understand, but he could never set foot in “that” country. His travel agency was a small office, and everyone in there smoked. He was the only non-smoker in there. I lost him to lung cancer in 2002, when he was 72. Despite the age difference, he was one of the best friends I ever had. Don’t saw off your leg, but don’t hesitate to ask your husband to quit, either. Maybe that post about meditation had some good advice. I know a woman in Paris who kicked it at age 72 with acupuncture. Anything! Just be thinking about the advice you’ll be giving people on DU five years from now!! The longest journey, as they say……

Response to murielm99 (Original post)

Roy Rolling

(6,788 posts)
101. Avoid the Urge
Tue Sep 6, 2022, 05:03 AM
Sep 2022

I’m also challenged with a progressive condition that never has a good outcome. People want to speculate on their own version of life and death in times like these. Hearing from others how I’m at some step in their made-up version of life after death is seldom helpful.

Avoid that urge.

Comfort others, it’s a journey we—our soul, us, the spiritual essence, whatever you call it—all eventually make. As inevitable as taxes, it isn’t a burden if you look at taxes as a sacrifice, something paid as the price for a good material life.

You’ve served a lot of people and benefiting others both materially and spiritually. For that, I celebrate the muriel99 I know. It isn’t much, but celebrate your life along with me, won’t you? 😘😻

Kath2

(3,050 posts)
103. Sending you Love and Hope!
Tue Sep 6, 2022, 06:33 AM
Sep 2022

As another smoker having health issues I can relate, somewhat, with your feelings. Wishing you all the best for healing and recovery.

trof

(54,254 posts)
107. 74 is not too old to seek medical help.
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 06:44 PM
Sep 2022

Far from it.
I'm 81 and I get medical help almost daily.
See my post about quitting smoking.
Maybe you husband can use it.

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