Gaslight? May I talk about this?

[Not Heidi]

VENT

My wife just tried to gaslight me. Is this strictly gaslighting? Or just being a major asshole? Either way, minor incident, major irritant.

Brief background: Since I got* lithium toxicity, I've been craving juice.** I've had a steady supply of orange and grapefruit on hand.

About half an hour ago, I told my wife I was going out to the garage to get some juice.

She: May I have a cup?
Me: Grapefruit or orange?
She: Grapefruit.

I go back to the kitchen to get another glass, then to the garage, then back in with the juice.

As I hand her her juice, she says, "I wanted a soda."

Me: I told you I was going for juice. You asked for a cup.
She: Isn't Squirt grapefruit?
Me: Yes. But you asked for a cup of grapefruit juice.
She: I asked for a Squirt.
Me: *STARES*
She: Since you're still up, would you get me a Squirt, please?

It's triply irritating because of my current mental state. Who pulls that kind of shit on someone who is so unstable? Christ, did I want to lay into her. I'd really, really like to have at her. REALLY.

I dropped it, but I'm still burning. My anxiety has ratcheted up about three notches.

Thoughts?


* "Got"? Did I *get* lithium toxicity? I don't know how to put it. Oh, well.

** I don't know if juice and lithium are related. The timing is curious.

[elleng]

1. Minor irritating misunderstanding/change of mind.

I know nothing about lithium toxicity.

TRY to ignore.

[Sanity Claws]

2. Maybe she has memory problems

Maybe she said it in her own mind and not aloud. Maybe she said something when you were already out of earshot.
If you have been married a while and she seems to be doing what you called gaslighting only recently, whatever happened was probably unintentional. Unintentional misunderstandings happen all the time.

[3Hotdogs]

4. My thought, too.

Memory, or other cognitive.

[Tetrachloride]

3. I use imagination training with music

some Enya

the Polynesian song Loma Loma

occasionally classical

occasionally folk classics

then i sleep. doing it now. cheers

[BigmanPigman]

5. I swear and use profanity a lot...

it helps me when fellow humans act like this. I would have had a stroke about 30 years ago if I did 't swear like a sailor. It definitely improves my driving, I must say.

[Canoe52]

6. I find marijuana to be very helpful in situations like this, helps me keep a sense of humor

and to shrug it off when normally I’d be stewing about it the rest of the day.

[OldBaldy1701E]

7. Second. (n/t)