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fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
Fri Nov 22, 2013, 06:13 PM Nov 2013

husband lost his job but i'm not freaking out about it

there's no way we can live on my pay but there have been no tears, no panic attacks, no stress, just a plan to get through it. the unmedicated me would be an absolute mess right now. the medicated me is just looking at this as a challenge that we can overcome.

he had a phone interview with ups today and although it is just an on-call position, it's something.

it's only been a few days, but it hasn't strained our relationship. he's been in cave mode for a few days, but i understand that, i've been in his position before.

things will be tight for a bit, but it isn't anything we haven't dealt with before.

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husband lost his job but i'm not freaking out about it (Original Post) fizzgig Nov 2013 OP
Ah, my dear fizzgig... CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2013 #1
thanks peggy fizzgig Nov 2013 #2
*Hugs* glad to hear that you are holding up... Locut0s Nov 2013 #3
i have to give credit to my dad for that phrase fizzgig Nov 2013 #4

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,516 posts)
1. Ah, my dear fizzgig...
Fri Nov 22, 2013, 07:57 PM
Nov 2013

Good for you, staying calm and collected. I'm pleased that you have the means to really stay in the moment.

And yes, cave mode is totally understandable!

All the best of luck for his job hunt and for you both...

fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
2. thanks peggy
Fri Nov 22, 2013, 08:29 PM
Nov 2013

we've been here before. i lost my job a week after we got together and he was right there with me from the start. we got through it once and we'll get through it again.

Locut0s

(6,154 posts)
3. *Hugs* glad to hear that you are holding up...
Sat Nov 23, 2013, 03:35 AM
Nov 2013

You are strong and will get through this together. I have confidence in you. Remember we are all here to support you!

Lol I've never heard it called cave mode but I know immediately what you mean by that. Since I quit school I've been in cave more for 3 months or so now need to stop but the depression won't lift.

The fact that he has gone and did the interview is a positive sign, means he's not totally locked up like me and others I've seen. Once he gets something, almost anything really, even if it's a significant downgrade the two of you will feel better I'm sure.

fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
4. i have to give credit to my dad for that phrase
Sat Nov 23, 2013, 02:21 PM
Nov 2013

it's a great descriptor for it.

but it also can be very hard to break if you've gotten deep enough in. it's difficult to remember that the sun is still shining outside the cave, but it is.

he wasn't exactly in love with the job, but it sucks to get fired. i'm thankful he hasn't shut completely down and actually seems to be in relatively good spirits.

take care of yourself, friend.

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