quick tribute to my father

[steve2470]

THIS IS THE MENTAL HEALTH SUPPORT GROUP. Abrasive and unkind comments not welcome here.

I must still be doing a massive biochemical readjustment, because I'm STILL more emotional than usual.

At any rate, after 50+ years, it popped back into my brain that my father was an unflagging supporter of my competence. For whatever reason, I would say "I cannot do it" and he would instantly say no, you can, keep trying, let's keep working on this, etc.

He had the right attitude for a father and a parent. Yes, of course, there are some things in life we just cannot do for whatever idiosyncratic reason, but at least give it a decent try. If you give something a decent try and you just cannot do it without going insane, then, ok, you did your best and time to move on. Sometimes we need tutoring. Sometimes we need time. Sometimes we don't have the right equipment or training or materials, etc etc.

If you did not have a father figure or father, my sympathies. I hope, if you did have a father, that he was a decent one. My father had his flaws, as we all do, but allowing me to give up too early was NOT one of them.

All the best to you this February 2018.

[MLAA]

1. Thanks for posting. Made me think about my dad too.

[Siwsan]

2. I had a wonderful father

He was my rock. They say your strongest, most significant role model is the same sex parent. Not for me. It was my Dad. He died in 1999 and I still think about and miss him every single day.

[elleng]

3. Thank you, dear Steve. I'm glad you had such a father,

as did I.

[steve2470]

9. we were both extremely lucky nt

[samnsara]

4. that was beautiful! Thank you for sharing him with us...

(((hugs)))

[Skittles]

5. he was right

always keep trying, Steve; yes INDEED

[steve2470]

10. yes he was!

All the best to you.

[auntAgonist]

6. My Father died in June of 2017. We didn't share the best relationship...

sometimes it was downright awful breaking the same oxygen as he did BUT he was a great provider. Doing the best he could to get for his family all the necessary things we needed to grow up.
Sometimes we got what we wanted. I give my Dad the recognition he deserves when it comes to raising his family. Sadly we didn't get along 99% of the time.
There are things I cannot forgive him for.

Steve I'm so glad that had an encouraging spirit to raise you to at least TRY

Thank you for sharing your thoughts however brief in writing.

aA
kesha

[angstlessk]

7. You are doing my father all over!

My mother and older sister were my nemesis, but my father was on MY side.

But he died when I was 16...

[steve2470]

8. sorry to hear he died when you were so young