Who are you comfortable with cooking in 'your' kitchen? Putting away the washed dishes?

[irisblue]

--Laura, my BFF for 30+year, both b/c we have similar POV on spicing and she knows exactly where the kettle & cups are.
--Mom, but I do spice my food after plating.
--My SIL, Kim, she is a good cook, solid careful food prep and clean up.
--My Sister is not allowed. Cooking gene missed her

[elleng]

1. ANYONE who wants to,

even tho my brother tends to make a mess, as a 'creative' chef, trying everything including every cooking vessel and utensil!

[Bev54]

5. Yep me too.

Go for it.

[Hortensis]

19. :) Same here. I'm pretty easygoing and my kitchen is also,

fairly intuitively organized. It also has a table and chairs by a couch in a window bay where anyone uninterested in helping, or just tired, can provide company instead. Something else missing from this last year now that I think of it.

[dweller]

2. Wait wut

You’re washing dishes ?
welcome !

✌🏻

[zipplewrath]

3. No one

In the early years, we'd often let Type A's "help". But after so many dishes got ruined, we stopped. We know what needs to be done, where it needs to "go", and how to prevent problems that we just tell people to relax. Even the kids have learned the limits of "helping" and take direction well.

[happybird]

4. Mom

She and Dad are the only people who have even been in my house. I’m kinda weird about that. Something about people using my bathrooms freaks me out.

[Hortensis]

20. That sort of thing's actually a lot more common than most realize

because people mostly don't talk about it. I only found out because of two very looong, passionate and eye-opening threads on home and kitchen design forums, where people were able to anonymously explain (to help people seeking design advice) how strongly they were influenced and how they dealt with it.

Like partygoers who routinely excuse themselves from eating by claiming to be on a diet, when it's actually because they can see a bathroom from the kitchen or wherever food's set out. Those who always say goodnight to friends when they need to use a bathroom themselves and it has to be their own, or because the door to the hosts' is visible to other guests. Lots of stuff like that, including other triggers.

Maybe that's why we've never been invited into the home of some people we've known for years, not that it's not tidied up. Porch yes, inside no.

[happybird]

21. It is good to know that it's so common

It’s weird because I feel like my friends are welcome here, but I’d rather they not come over, if that makes any sense. I wouldn’t turn them away, but I won’t be handing out any invitations.

[Hortensis]

22. Perfect sense. The extremely valuable threads I saw were years

ago or I'd link them, though no doubt there have been some on various forums since. For each person who had to avoid these situations, though, there were also a bunch of others who said they remained repelled and uncomfortable with various triggers they were unable to just shrug off.

[MuseRider]

6. Only one.

The man I worked with, who lived with us during the legislative sessions for 7 (?) years who I worked with on Equality Kansas both creating it and keeping it going. He was a fantastic cook from the beginning and taught me a lot. He loved to come home after the day and we would drink beer and he taught me to cook better than I was cooking. He was just here 2 nights ago, he made spanakopita and I had the wine and made a Revani cake. We work pretty well together.

[dweller]

11. Ravani !

I miss this delicacy ... have to visit Olga and see if she still makes it 😋

✌🏻

[MuseRider]

13. It was so easy and so good!

Here is the recipe I used...https://amiraspantry.com/egyptian-rawani-cake/

It took me a bit to really appreciate it and now I am fending everyone away...I want the last of it!

[dweller]

14. Olga used an orange simple syrup

that made it soooo good

✌🏻

[MuseRider]

15. I saw one with Blood Oranges

and I would have done that if I could have gotten my hands on some. Orange sounds really good and then it would be even better switching out the vanilla extract with almond extract. I really do like this cake.

[dweller]

17. Did you use semolina flour ?

The crumb of this cake is what it so chewy to the tongue ... I’d eat it for breakfast
😋

✌🏻

[MuseRider]

18. Yes and it

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Is wonderful. It called for half all purpose and half semolina. Such a wonderful texture.

[luvs2sing]

7. Hubster. That's it.

And even then, I’m on edge wondering where his dyslexia and ADD will convince him to put the things he uses. Cooking is one of my passions, so I have my kitchen set up just the way I want it. I’ve found things in some strange places after he has cooked, but he’s a good enough cook that I don’t complain. And he’s come a LONG way in the mise en place and prep department.

If Mom were still alive, I’d let her cook in my kitchen. I miss her cooking, and she would understand my organizational logic.

I’ve spent a lot of time cooking in a friend’s kitchen. We used to co-host dinner parties. He has a huge house (which I don’t have), so he hosted and I cooked. During the pandemic, he has been taking his cooking skills up a few notches, and now he’s not quite as keen on my doing the cooking in his kitchen.

Oh..one other friend, too. He lives in Hawaii now, but when he lived in Cincinnati, he would come up a lot. He always did the cooking when he was here. He had a key and would let himself in and get dinner started. Hubster and I would get home from work and he would be working his magic in the kitchen. We really miss him.

[Midnightwalk]

8. That is a funny dynamic

Who’s allowed to do trivial things like boil water of eggs Or something more but casual and then who’s allowed to anything for a holiday meal.

All our immediate family can do any of that with various degrees of scrutiny from my wife. We are all watched even if not openly.

Outside the immediate family will get “help”.

I saw this from my mom and pretty much every kitchen now that I think of it to some degree.

I never thought of it before and it shows just how personal cooking is. What an interesting post.

[Scrivener7]

9. Putting away the washed dishes? (Or washing the dishes)Anyone! Cooking? Only my sister. I suck at

making gravy and she's really good at it. Other than that, I cook alone!

It might have something to do with the fact that my kitchen is 8 x 10. Toss in a stove and a refrigerator and some cabinets, and there's not much room to maneuver.

Great question.

[LakeArenal]

10. Don't care who cooks. But my drunk SIL used it as an opportunity to snoop.

Rifled every drawer, checked my vegetable bins.

Sadly, Mr Lake and I are very boring people. The most exotic thing one would find here is pot.

She even rifled our medicine cabinet.
At that time all we had was aspirins and toothpaste. Boring, right?

[MaryMagdaline]

12. No one

I like to air dry them and put them away later so there is no streaking. If it’s a big load, they go in the d/w but only the way I like to put them in and no silver or fine China go in d/w. I know where the steak knives and cutting knives go - in the blocks - and I don’t like searching for them in drawers after other people put them away. I like to thoroughly rinse dishes, leaving no soap on the dishes.

[enough]

16. No one on cooking. Anyone who actually stands there and does it on putting away. NT

[Phentex]

23. My husband and son do this but I've had to let go...

I'd love more help in the cleaning department but when it comes to cooking, they are animals. They ruin pans. They definitely ruin Tupperware. I can't figure out how they manage to ruin certain tools. Crumbs, spills, splatters are invisible to them. I've given up on keeping my stove in decent shape. Nobody can figure out what kind of container goes in the microwave. These are not stupid people. They just lack some type of kitchen-related gene.