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Mon May 10, 2021, 08:17 PM

Who are you comfortable with cooking in 'your' kitchen? Putting away the washed dishes?

--Laura, my BFF for 30+year, both b/c we have similar POV on spicing and she knows exactly where the kettle & cups are.
--Mom, but I do spice my food after plating.
--My SIL, Kim, she is a good cook, solid careful food prep and clean up.
--My Sister is not allowed. Cooking gene missed her

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Reply Who are you comfortable with cooking in 'your' kitchen? Putting away the washed dishes? (Original post)
irisblue May 10 OP
elleng May 10 #1
Bev54 May 10 #5
Hortensis May 11 #19
dweller May 10 #2
zipplewrath May 10 #3
happybird May 10 #4
Hortensis May 11 #20
happybird May 11 #21
Hortensis May 11 #22
MuseRider May 10 #6
dweller May 10 #11
MuseRider May 10 #13
dweller May 10 #14
MuseRider May 10 #15
dweller May 10 #17
MuseRider May 10 #18
luvs2sing May 10 #7
Midnightwalk May 10 #8
Scrivener7 May 10 #9
LakeArenal May 10 #10
MaryMagdaline May 10 #12
enough May 10 #16
Phentex May 12 #23

Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:25 PM

1. ANYONE who wants to,

even tho my brother tends to make a mess, as a 'creative' chef, trying everything including every cooking vessel and utensil!

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Response to elleng (Reply #1)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:37 PM

5. Yep me too.

Go for it.

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Response to elleng (Reply #1)

Tue May 11, 2021, 12:44 PM

19. :) Same here. I'm pretty easygoing and my kitchen is also,

fairly intuitively organized. It also has a table and chairs by a couch in a window bay where anyone uninterested in helping, or just tired, can provide company instead. Something else missing from this last year now that I think of it.

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:27 PM

2. Wait wut

Youíre washing dishes ?
welcome !

✌🏻

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:30 PM

3. No one

In the early years, we'd often let Type A's "help". But after so many dishes got ruined, we stopped. We know what needs to be done, where it needs to "go", and how to prevent problems that we just tell people to relax. Even the kids have learned the limits of "helping" and take direction well.

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:35 PM

4. Mom

She and Dad are the only people who have even been in my house. Iím kinda weird about that. Something about people using my bathrooms freaks me out.

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Response to happybird (Reply #4)

Tue May 11, 2021, 12:59 PM

20. That sort of thing's actually a lot more common than most realize

because people mostly don't talk about it. I only found out because of two very looong, passionate and eye-opening threads on home and kitchen design forums, where people were able to anonymously explain (to help people seeking design advice) how strongly they were influenced and how they dealt with it.

Like partygoers who routinely excuse themselves from eating by claiming to be on a diet, when it's actually because they can see a bathroom from the kitchen or wherever food's set out. Those who always say goodnight to friends when they need to use a bathroom themselves and it has to be their own, or because the door to the hosts' is visible to other guests. Lots of stuff like that, including other triggers.

Maybe that's why we've never been invited into the home of some people we've known for years, not that it's not tidied up. Porch yes, inside no.

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Response to Hortensis (Reply #20)

Tue May 11, 2021, 01:09 PM

21. It is good to know that it's so common

Itís weird because I feel like my friends are welcome here, but Iíd rather they not come over, if that makes any sense. I wouldnít turn them away, but I wonít be handing out any invitations.

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Response to happybird (Reply #21)

Tue May 11, 2021, 01:52 PM

22. Perfect sense. The extremely valuable threads I saw were years

ago or I'd link them, though no doubt there have been some on various forums since. For each person who had to avoid these situations, though, there were also a bunch of others who said they remained repelled and uncomfortable with various triggers they were unable to just shrug off.

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:40 PM

6. Only one.

The man I worked with, who lived with us during the legislative sessions for 7 (?) years who I worked with on Equality Kansas both creating it and keeping it going. He was a fantastic cook from the beginning and taught me a lot. He loved to come home after the day and we would drink beer and he taught me to cook better than I was cooking. He was just here 2 nights ago, he made spanakopita and I had the wine and made a Revani cake. We work pretty well together.

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Response to MuseRider (Reply #6)

Mon May 10, 2021, 09:11 PM

11. Ravani !

I miss this delicacy ... have to visit Olga and see if she still makes it 😋

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Response to dweller (Reply #11)

Mon May 10, 2021, 09:16 PM

13. It was so easy and so good!

Here is the recipe I used...https://amiraspantry.com/egyptian-rawani-cake/

It took me a bit to really appreciate it and now I am fending everyone away...I want the last of it!

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Response to MuseRider (Reply #13)

Mon May 10, 2021, 09:21 PM

14. Olga used an orange simple syrup

that made it soooo good

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Response to dweller (Reply #14)

Mon May 10, 2021, 09:27 PM

15. I saw one with Blood Oranges

and I would have done that if I could have gotten my hands on some. Orange sounds really good and then it would be even better switching out the vanilla extract with almond extract. I really do like this cake.

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Response to MuseRider (Reply #15)

Mon May 10, 2021, 10:11 PM

17. Did you use semolina flour ?

The crumb of this cake is what it so chewy to the tongue ... Iíd eat it for breakfast
😋

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Response to dweller (Reply #17)

Mon May 10, 2021, 11:29 PM

18. Yes and it

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Is wonderful. It called for half all purpose and half semolina. Such a wonderful texture.

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:40 PM

7. Hubster. That's it.

And even then, Iím on edge wondering where his dyslexia and ADD will convince him to put the things he uses. Cooking is one of my passions, so I have my kitchen set up just the way I want it. Iíve found things in some strange places after he has cooked, but heís a good enough cook that I donít complain. And heís come a LONG way in the mise en place and prep department.

If Mom were still alive, Iíd let her cook in my kitchen. I miss her cooking, and she would understand my organizational logic.

Iíve spent a lot of time cooking in a friendís kitchen. We used to co-host dinner parties. He has a huge house (which I donít have), so he hosted and I cooked. During the pandemic, he has been taking his cooking skills up a few notches, and now heís not quite as keen on my doing the cooking in his kitchen.

Oh..one other friend, too. He lives in Hawaii now, but when he lived in Cincinnati, he would come up a lot. He always did the cooking when he was here. He had a key and would let himself in and get dinner started. Hubster and I would get home from work and he would be working his magic in the kitchen. We really miss him.

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:49 PM

8. That is a funny dynamic

Whoís allowed to do trivial things like boil water of eggs Or something more but casual and then whoís allowed to anything for a holiday meal.

All our immediate family can do any of that with various degrees of scrutiny from my wife. We are all watched even if not openly.

Outside the immediate family will get ďhelpĒ.

I saw this from my mom and pretty much every kitchen now that I think of it to some degree.

I never thought of it before and it shows just how personal cooking is. What an interesting post.

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:55 PM

9. Putting away the washed dishes? (Or washing the dishes)Anyone! Cooking? Only my sister. I suck at

making gravy and she's really good at it. Other than that, I cook alone!

It might have something to do with the fact that my kitchen is 8 x 10. Toss in a stove and a refrigerator and some cabinets, and there's not much room to maneuver.

Great question.

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 08:57 PM

10. Don't care who cooks. But my drunk SIL used it as an opportunity to snoop.

Rifled every drawer, checked my vegetable bins.

Sadly, Mr Lake and I are very boring people. The most exotic thing one would find here is pot.

She even rifled our medicine cabinet.
At that time all we had was aspirins and toothpaste. Boring, right?

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 09:12 PM

12. No one

I like to air dry them and put them away later so there is no streaking. If itís a big load, they go in the d/w but only the way I like to put them in and no silver or fine China go in d/w. I know where the steak knives and cutting knives go - in the blocks - and I donít like searching for them in drawers after other people put them away. I like to thoroughly rinse dishes, leaving no soap on the dishes.

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Mon May 10, 2021, 09:34 PM

16. No one on cooking. Anyone who actually stands there and does it on putting away. NT

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Response to irisblue (Original post)

Wed May 12, 2021, 06:17 PM

23. My husband and son do this but I've had to let go...

I'd love more help in the cleaning department but when it comes to cooking, they are animals. They ruin pans. They definitely ruin Tupperware. I can't figure out how they manage to ruin certain tools. Crumbs, spills, splatters are invisible to them. I've given up on keeping my stove in decent shape. Nobody can figure out what kind of container goes in the microwave. These are not stupid people. They just lack some type of kitchen-related gene.

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