My big male cat is less of a bully to the little female. Captain Hughey

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and Twilight are their names. He allows her to sleep on my bed with him. He still sniffs around.. but doesn't come close to nipping her in the butt to get her off the bed. Do your male cats mellow with age? He is six and my shadow. I'm happy they are getting along. She's 16 and doesn't need the drama. I'm happier too.

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1. My orange boy

was known for his sweet behavior by two neighbors. He would visit the people and sit with them, inside and out. The assistants at the vet would stop in to hug him as a counter to the other screaming cats when he was in there. That was then. A male cat moved into the neighborhood and wants to take over the two neighbors. Since then he has cat fights. Now he also hits my little female cat.

He is about 6 too. I am using Feliway with hopes he will mellow out. He is such an athlete even the vet said indoor only might not work. Anyway - it is the current project.

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2. Mine just bit her ass in a dominant move to get her off the bed. Rarely he would chace

after her and jump on her. I leave her claws long and his cut short. She has a crinkly tunnel she can escape ibto. It is jealousy. When i am gone from the apartment the two of them are often at the door waiting. Seems they get along fine when I'm not there. They do lick each other. But don't play very often. My little female I sent to keep my dad company when my mom went in for a hip operation and recooperation. She was about 6 months old. He had a older female and is a cat lover. But i guess nobody played with her. When i got her home she was the most polite passive cat I've ever known. Took her a while to find her place as I had a cat named Monster (he was sweet with her). She used to like to cuddle at the top of my bed at night. When climbing on shelves she always let Monster get the top one.

Yes males are territorial. And ins't it awful that they take it out on the passive ones. I grab her whenever he chases her in an unfun way. Makes it not a fun thing to do if she always ends up in my arms. Once he came to me with the most bewieldered look on his face and a scratch mark right down the length of his nose.