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[steve2470]

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[still_one]

1. Do you not see that when you word something like: "How do you African-Americans"

You are at a very minimum being patronizing

[steve2470]

2. I'm not African-American, tell me again how I'm being patronizing...

I have no fucking clue how a black person determines this. I don't ASSUME to know shit. Give me a fucking break. I know the OBVIOUS stuff but the subtle stuff, I have no clue. You obviously have no clue about me. I'll let the group hosts tell you all about me.

on edit: I see that JAG, an AA host, recommended my thread. She's an African-American. Tell me again how fucking patronizing I am. Your opinion disgusts me. Welcome to Ignore for a long long time.

[still_one]

3. I'll say it right out then, your question assumes African Americans have a group think mentality

and that suggests something.

I don't put anyone on ignore

[zappaman]

4. "How do you African-Americans judge"

I think they have a secret meeting where all of them get together and decide.
As you can imagine, it's a VERY large hall.
Either that or they have stockholm syndrome.

[steve2470]

5. eh I'm sure there's differences of opinions

I'll grant my precise wording may not be perfect, but the sincere question remains the same.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/patronize


Patronize (the root word of patronizing)

patronize play

verb pa·tron·ize ˈpā-trə-ˌnīz, ˈpa-

Simple Definition of patronize

Popularity: Top 1% of lookups

: to give money or support to (someone or something)

: to talk to (someone) in a way that shows that you believe you are more intelligent or better than other people

: to be a frequent or regular customer or user of (a place)

Full Definition of patronize

pa·tron·ized pa·tron·iz·ing

transitive verb
1
: to act as patron of : provide aid or support for
2
: to adopt an air of condescension toward : treat haughtily or coolly
3
: to be a frequent or regular customer or client of

pa·tron·i·za·tion play ˌpā-trə-nə-ˈzā-shən, ˌpa- noun
pa·tron·iz·ing·ly play ˈpā-trə-ˌnī-ziŋ-lē, ˈpa- adverb

Absolutely none of that applies to me. I readily confess my ignorance in this area, precisely because I am European-American. I think it's better to ask a sincere question, than ASSUME one knows the answer.

YMMV

[Quayblue]

6. I think you missed the word "of" but i understood what you meant nt

[steve2470]

7. where did I miss it ?

Sincere question, no snark here.

[Quayblue]

8. actually I should have said "as"

my apologies. "as African-Americans"... lol

and I know you meant no snark

[steve2470]

9. I try to stay away from snark, and thanks! nt

[Quayblue]

10. of course and you're welcome!