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Lordquinton

(7,886 posts)
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 03:23 PM Mar 2015

Oklahoma House passes bill restricting marriage to people of faith



A bill that would restrict the right to marry to people of faith and would mandate all marriage licenses be approved by a member of the clergy was approved by the Oklahoma state House on Tuesday.


House Bill 1125, sponsored by Republican State Representative Todd Russ, is a radical measure that would end secular marriage licenses in the state. In addition, the bill would bar all judges and other secular officials from performing marriages in Oklahoma.

Russ claims the radical legislation is motivated by his desire to protect court clerks from having to issue licenses to same-sex couples. Russ says he doesn’t want these workers put in the position of having to condone or facilitate same-sex marriage.

Under the legislation, atheists and others not wanting to be married by a religious official could file an affidavit through the court clerk’s office claiming a common-law marriage.


http://www.patheos.com/blogs/progressivesecularhumanist/2015/03/oklahoma-house-passes-bill-restricting-marriage-to-people-of-faith/
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Oklahoma House passes bill restricting marriage to people of faith (Original Post) Lordquinton Mar 2015 OP
Wow. Oklahoma has just invented "Separate but equal". Wow! nt COLGATE4 Mar 2015 #1
even common law marriges I think riversedge Mar 2015 #3
I just did a fast look-up of common law marriage in Oklahoma, SheilaT Mar 2015 #6
so non religious have to prove they are in it together Lordquinton Mar 2015 #9
You might want to research Oklahoma marriage laws a little more deeply. SheilaT Mar 2015 #14
so tons of hoops for nothing binding Lordquinton Mar 2015 #20
I have no idea. SheilaT Mar 2015 #23
The "good people" of Oklahoma have been re-electing these idiots for quite a while. nt. Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #48
The "good" people of Oklahoma atreides1 Mar 2015 #83
I'll just say I don't live in Oklahoma SheilaT Mar 2015 #89
thanks for the look up. But wil take time and energy to pull riversedge Mar 2015 #12
Sure. Making the 'second class citizens' be classified as COLGATE4 Mar 2015 #15
This is exactly the opposite of what should be the case. olegramps Mar 2015 #63
I think this is ideal. cbayer Mar 2015 #65
my head is swirling on this STUPID riversedge Mar 2015 #2
"The bill is a naked attempt to force Christian theocracy upon the citizens of Oklahoma." riversedge Mar 2015 #4
It's called Christian reconstructionism/Christian dominionism, and it's in full effect in the GOP blkmusclmachine Mar 2015 #97
Interesting "Religion" is the highest and center LiberalLovinLug Mar 2015 #105
That'll show ya! No tax /government benefits for all you filthy nonreligious sinkingfeeling Mar 2015 #5
A Supreme Court decision okasha Mar 2015 #7
Big deal. Even if the SC decides in favor of human rights skepticscott Mar 2015 #10
Perhaps it's time for believers like okasha... trotsky Mar 2015 #13
The fuck? shenmue Mar 2015 #8
Talk about blatant discrimination. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #11
Just when I think that legislation can't get any stupider, cbayer Mar 2015 #16
If only atheists would stop questioning religion, we could fix this, right? trotsky Mar 2015 #17
Did she say that? No. Seems you feel the need to put words in her mouth. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #18
really justin? You can't recall another recent thread here that you gleefully participated in Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #24
Apparently I am not smart enough to figure these things out. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #25
no you stated that here last night and people agreed with you. Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #27
I said it jokingly. others not so much. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #28
others agreed with you jokingly and you had an upset. Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #29
No actually I did not alert. i went to bed early last night because my father had surgery today hrmjustin Mar 2015 #33
If you can recall any such post-- okasha Mar 2015 #35
sure. Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #36
Look I am sorry I posted that post in there. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #37
Nope. okasha Mar 2015 #38
right. what ever you say. Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #41
She is not a bro and I am rather suprised you did that. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #42
it is an expression that means a person has just uttered something that is obvious bullshit Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #43
I have to say I am shocked you said that. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #44
look Justin we are all adults here, so you can drop the act now. Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #45
Yes i understand that but I thought you would understand sensitivity about the issue. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #46
look Justin, we are all adults here and you know there is no issue Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #47
Okasha is a lesbian. have you thought that she might take offense at being called a bro? hrmjustin Mar 2015 #49
Look we are all adults here Justin, so I think you can figure out that Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #50
Way to go on trying to change the story. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #51
Look Justin, we are all adults here, and you know the story is Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #52
And my response to this post. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #53
Time for a little linguistic history here. okasha Mar 2015 #55
Not really. Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #56
You do understand how a woman might be offended when called a bro? hrmjustin Mar 2015 #58
Very not really. okasha Mar 2015 #60
Actually, the correct parry is "I hope they make a movie out of it". AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #77
I find it amusing you use the dictionary definition here, but when convenient, you go to urbandictio AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #84
"cool story bro" is a common internet meme. AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #64
And okasha didn't appreciate being called bro. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #67
It's not *actually* calling someone 'brother'. AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #69
But he still called her bro. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #70
Ugh.. AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #71
You are missing the point. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #72
Is there a gender neutral alternative? AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #73
And it was carelessly used. Not all woman would be offended but many would. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #74
I'm at a loss for a substitute meme in this case. AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #75
Just say I don't believe you. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #76
But then it's not funny. AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #79
Well you take a risk. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #80
How about "Cool story"? okasha Mar 2015 #109
I suppose it works. AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #110
People, or most liberal English speakers, at any rate, okasha Mar 2015 #111
Honestly, and without any bs or meta, just a question; AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #112
"Cool story" by itself is absolutely innofensive. okasha Mar 2015 #113
Hard for me to estimate. AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #114
I have noticed your gender-neutral usage, okasha Mar 2015 #115
Wow give it up already. phil89 Mar 2015 #82
Too bad. If you can't stand hearing what I say put me on ignore. hrmjustin Mar 2015 #85
Well, thank you for acknowledging that I'm right, whatever I say. You're making progress. okasha Mar 2015 #54
So cbayer disavows that article? Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #57
Not even slightly. okasha Mar 2015 #59
So that would make your original assertion Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #61
Uhm , no. okasha Mar 2015 #66
Poster made no such assumption. AtheistCrusader Mar 2015 #68
Why is it the people who are constantly defending religion skepticscott Mar 2015 #22
They are stupid. They think gays are atheists by definition n/t Beartracks Mar 2015 #88
Exactly. Of all the stupidity here, that has to be the stupidest assumption ever. cbayer Mar 2015 #90
It is not separate but equal. Common law is not equal. djean111 Mar 2015 #19
When did Oklahoma secede? I missed that. Must have happened or they'd pay att'n to US Constitution Panich52 Mar 2015 #21
weve been told here repeatedly that the religious right is an insignificant minority Warren Stupidity Mar 2015 #26
and the fundamentalists may not be a minority guillaumeb Mar 2015 #34
It is all just a bunch of chest beating and posturing until they ban divorce. Jamastiene Mar 2015 #30
No good marriage ends in divorce demwing Mar 2015 #81
If Bartcop were still alive, this would kill him. arcane1 Mar 2015 #31
Did not have to see it was sponsored by a Republican. Where in the hell are they Thinkingabout Mar 2015 #32
I'm Presbyterian, and my wife is pagan. riqster Mar 2015 #39
Unitarian universalists and Reform Jewish Synagogues will officiate over same sex marriages. Agnosticsherbet Mar 2015 #40
Jon Stewart got it right--OKLAHOMOPHOBIA should be it's name. nt valerief Mar 2015 #62
Unconstitutional, waste of time and money for Oaklahoma. Are the still_one Mar 2015 #78
My thoughts exactly. vkkv Mar 2015 #92
"Marriage is one of the basic civil rights of man". stone space Mar 2015 #86
This is not going to end well for OK taxpayers JimDandy Mar 2015 #87
It sux that ignorant people exhibit such high confidence. n/t Beartracks Mar 2015 #91
A new low ... wow. Fantastic Anarchist Mar 2015 #93
And these assholes complain about Sharia law? lark Mar 2015 #94
will these christian nuts stop at nothing to cram their..... blackspade Mar 2015 #95
This would put the state in the position of recognizing a faith/religion as 'legitimate' douggg Mar 2015 #96
In other words, there's a $600 marriage surcharge for nonbelievers jmowreader Mar 2015 #98
There's another problem Fortinbras Armstrong Mar 2015 #99
Wow. I had no idea they had gone into this kind of detail. cbayer Mar 2015 #102
Should I tell him that there's plenty of clergy, even in Oklahoma, catrose Mar 2015 #100
Clear violation of the establishment clause. longship Mar 2015 #101
I'm sure they understand that this is unconstitutional FiveGoodMen Mar 2015 #103
Hmm…. that sounds rather like treason, doesn't it? cbayer Mar 2015 #104
They had to do it.... penndragon69 Mar 2015 #106
Not just atheists, but a whole slew of others, including Muslims and Hindi. cbayer Mar 2015 #107
Okla. House OKs bill shifting issuance of marriage licenses from state to clergy (LGBTQ Nation) pinto Mar 2015 #108
The Metropolitan Community Church okasha Mar 2015 #116

riversedge

(70,182 posts)
3. even common law marriges I think
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 03:38 PM
Mar 2015

7 years?? not equal to an official marriage certificate in the eyes of the law--takes too long. Unless something has changed with time required by states. ???

 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
6. I just did a fast look-up of common law marriage in Oklahoma,
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 03:47 PM
Mar 2015

and there's not time span requirement. Here's a cut and paste of what I found:

The general conduct of both parties during their relationship will provide most of the evidence necessary to establish a common-law marriage. Relevant evidence may include:

the fact that the couple has lived together for a period of time (cohabitation)
joint income tax returns
joint financial accounts or credit cards
jointly-held assets or debts (a home, car, mortgage, or other loans)
life insurance policies and retirement or pension plans that list the common-law spouse as a beneficiary
using the other common-law spouse’s last name
medical records which list the common-law spouse as next of kin
testimony from third parties regarding how the couple introduced each other in the community and at social gatherings
cards, presents or other evidence of celebrations marking the anniversary of the common-law marriage
notes or other writings that include language such as “husband” or “wife,” and
family photos showing the couple wearing wedding banks.


Most states don't recognize "common-law marriage" and the requirements vary a lot from state to state.

More to the point, it's not going to be very long before a couple who wants to get married without sanction of clergy challenges this law.

Lordquinton

(7,886 posts)
9. so non religious have to prove they are in it together
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 04:03 PM
Mar 2015

Doyou have to pass any test for a marriage license? Or can anyone over... 15? Get married to whoever they want, (of the oppisite gender and Christian)?

 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
14. You might want to research Oklahoma marriage laws a little more deeply.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 04:21 PM
Mar 2015

What I posted was some of the things Oklahomans could use to prove a common-law marriage, at a time when they wanted to divorce. Most people don't understand that it's not just some automatic legalization of the relationship after some specific period of time. Usually they think seven years.

I keep on knowing couples who lived together for a long time, often decades, never married, and then were shocked, totally shocked when one died and the surviving partner had no legal right to anything, especially if the deceased had children who simply wanted to take over whatever property, money, and valuables there were. People will airily say, "Oh, we don't need a piece of paper." Guess what? You really do.

The LGBT community has long understood that denying them the legal right to marry was denying them a lot of basic rights, and fortunately most states are now allowing them to marry.

Lordquinton

(7,886 posts)
20. so tons of hoops for nothing binding
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 06:44 PM
Mar 2015

Gotcha. Although with this law won't all marriages be considered non legally binding?

 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
23. I have no idea.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 08:07 PM
Mar 2015

I'm not in Oklahoma and I'm honestly not following this very closely.

I hope the good people of Oklahoma unelect all these idiots.

 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
89. I'll just say I don't live in Oklahoma
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 01:07 PM
Mar 2015

and there are any number of states, most of which are south of the Mason-Dixon line, I will never move to. I honestly don't understand why people stay in a place or in a religion that denies various categories of people basic human rights, or proclaims one group to be inferior to another. But that's just me.

riversedge

(70,182 posts)
12. thanks for the look up. But wil take time and energy to pull
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 04:10 PM
Mar 2015



together those docs.

and yes--the courts will be involved if this stupid passes.

COLGATE4

(14,732 posts)
15. Sure. Making the 'second class citizens' be classified as
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 04:49 PM
Mar 2015

"common law marriages" opens up a nightmarish legal can of worms for anyone who gets that designation. Aside from the fact that, at least in this century "common-law marriage" is viewed as a far inferior relationship to legal "marriage". It's a mean-spirited, discriminatory tactic that IMO will not withstand any constitutional challenge.

olegramps

(8,200 posts)
63. This is exactly the opposite of what should be the case.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 10:50 AM
Mar 2015

In other countries, such as the Netherlands, legally binding marriages are performed by the state. The couple obtains the necessary license and by affirming with their signature that they enter a legally binding marriage. If they wish to have a religious ceremony that is up to them and the various church requirements and has no legal standing. A marriage is a legal binding agreement that is solely subject to the laws of the state it has no place being officiated by religious ministers.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
65. I think this is ideal.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 10:56 AM
Mar 2015

Make it soley a legal matter and make any religious aspect a choice that a couple can make.

Everyone should have exactly the same rights under the law. Whatever they think or believe about god's involvement should be individually chosen.

riversedge

(70,182 posts)
4. "The bill is a naked attempt to force Christian theocracy upon the citizens of Oklahoma."
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 03:41 PM
Mar 2015

I fear this is what is happening in OK!

LiberalLovinLug

(14,169 posts)
105. Interesting "Religion" is the highest and center
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 05:22 PM
Mar 2015

They have to reclaim their religion? I guess they do if they want to actually follow Jesus who stood up for the poor, who said "Give unto Ceasar..." implying the separation of church and state. Entertainment? Uh....you can't just "take over" entertaining people. Either they are or are not entertained.

Anyways this looks like a poster for Margaret Atwood's "A Handmaid's Tale".

sinkingfeeling

(51,444 posts)
5. That'll show ya! No tax /government benefits for all you filthy nonreligious
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 03:41 PM
Mar 2015

people........or you could wise up and get the hell out of Oklahoma!

okasha

(11,573 posts)
7. A Supreme Court decision
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 03:57 PM
Mar 2015

in favor of equal marriage will put paid to this. Meanwhile, a suit should be filed the instant this prima fascie violation of the First Amendment comes into effect.

 

skepticscott

(13,029 posts)
10. Big deal. Even if the SC decides in favor of human rights
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 04:03 PM
Mar 2015

and against religion, in the meantime, same-sex marriages will be subject to restrictions they should not have to tolerate, as will marriages between atheists. All because of religious bigotry.

trotsky

(49,533 posts)
13. Perhaps it's time for believers like okasha...
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 04:10 PM
Mar 2015

"to move past theoretical questions about the existence of God and onto more practical pursuits – like how to fight for justice."

Apparently she's content to just sit still and hope for the best. (Pray?)

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
16. Just when I think that legislation can't get any stupider,
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 05:07 PM
Mar 2015

a legislative body goes and does something as stupid as this.

Did they not receive a single civics lesson in their schools?

And how in the world did they come to the massively erroneous conclusion that gay people don't have a religious affiliation?

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
24. really justin? You can't recall another recent thread here that you gleefully participated in
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:32 PM
Mar 2015

posted by the same person advocating just that?

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
28. I said it jokingly. others not so much.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:37 PM
Mar 2015

Thats ok Warren. I don't take things as personally as I used to here. I understand it is a form of entertainment and to just accept that.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
29. others agreed with you jokingly and you had an upset.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:43 PM
Mar 2015

always looking for that alert worthy post, aren't you?

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
33. No actually I did not alert. i went to bed early last night because my father had surgery today
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:51 PM
Mar 2015

and I had to bring him this morning to the hospital.

I didn't see the huge thing that your friend posted until I got home from the hospital this afternoon. there was a pm from a friend commenting in his post and I took him off ignore to see it. He said wjat he said and that is fine with me.

I didn't want his post hidden and i was glad the jury saw he got a bit angry and was letting off steam.

Your other friend I said in the thread I hope a jury does not alert on my account.

No sir I don't look to catch you or your friends in a post that could get hidden.

If you constantly get hidden posts that is your fault. One can debate a hidden post or two but if you constantly get them you should ask yourself why and what should I do to correct it.

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
37. Look I am sorry I posted that post in there.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 10:14 PM
Mar 2015

I meant it as a good natured tug at you guys but in context of the thread it was taken to mean something I had no desire to say about atheists.

okasha

(11,573 posts)
38. Nope.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 10:18 PM
Mar 2015

You seem to have a reading comprehension problem, though. Or you could just be making shit up, given that cbayer said nothing remotely close to what you've attributed to her.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
41. right. what ever you say.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 10:56 PM
Mar 2015

"It's time for atheists to stop debating God's existence and decide what to do about it ".

cool story bro.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
43. it is an expression that means a person has just uttered something that is obvious bullshit
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 11:01 PM
Mar 2015

but please do have yet another upset.

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
44. I have to say I am shocked you said that.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 11:04 PM
Mar 2015

i would never call someone a gender that they don't identify as.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
45. look Justin we are all adults here, so you can drop the act now.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 11:07 PM
Mar 2015

Let me guess, you've never heard the expression "cool story bro" before, amirite?

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
47. look Justin, we are all adults here and you know there is no issue
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 11:16 PM
Mar 2015

but you are desperately trying to create one. Anything except discuss the op or its stark contrast with yesterday's celebrated "why don't atheists stop talking about religion" thread, right? It is fucking embarrassing to have reality interject itself this way. Best to create a diversion.

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
49. Okasha is a lesbian. have you thought that she might take offense at being called a bro?
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 11:21 PM
Mar 2015

I have no idea either but I would never call a woman bro, especially a woman who identifies as a lesbian.

And if you haven't noticed I apologized for my part in that thread.

I really thought you of all people understood the sensitivity.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
50. Look we are all adults here Justin, so I think you can figure out that
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 11:31 PM
Mar 2015

sexuality and gender are separate things and the internet meme "cool story bro" has nothing to do with either, it simply means that somebody has just uttered something that is total bullshit. But what do you think is more important, Oklahoma passing a law that requires a recognized religious official to perform a marriage, or your current upset over the use of the meme "cool story bro" to some ridiculous bullshit somebody said on the internet?

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
52. Look Justin, we are all adults here, and you know the story is
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 11:43 PM
Mar 2015

Oklahoma House passes bill restricting marriage to people of faith.

okasha

(11,573 posts)
55. Time for a little linguistic history here.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 12:03 AM
Mar 2015

"Bro" is short for "brother.". It originated in the African American community as an address from one black male to another. It doesn't matter whether it's an "internet meme" or not. Your use of it is offensive on both gender and racial levels.

Kind of like my saying to you, " Not even, bitch.". Capiche?

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
56. Not really.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 12:27 AM
Mar 2015

It's usage is neither racial not sexual nor gender specific. "Cool story bro" is an Internet meme for "that is total bullshit", and has nothing to do with race gender sexual orientation ethnicity religion or hair color.

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
58. You do understand how a woman might be offended when called a bro?
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 12:31 AM
Mar 2015

How about a lesbian? Do you not understand how that can be very insukting?

okasha

(11,573 posts)
60. Very not really.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 12:43 AM
Mar 2015

According to the Urban Dictionary, you don't even have the meaning of the "meme" right.

Put down the shovel, Warren. You're making yourself look....amusing.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
84. I find it amusing you use the dictionary definition here, but when convenient, you go to urbandictio
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:59 AM
Mar 2015

nary, to grab a social context that a regular English dictionary doesn't contain.

Very convenient.


7. Bro 

The teller of cool stories; the coolest storyteller.
"Cool story, bro."
by Counter Sanity August 07, 2012
 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
72. You are missing the point.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:30 AM
Mar 2015

Just because something is used often doesn't mean someone can not be offended.

as a gay man if someone called me a sister I would be offended. He as a lrsbian woman is not pleased to be cslled bro.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
73. Is there a gender neutral alternative?
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:33 AM
Mar 2015

In this case, no.

It means a variety of things from 'I don't believe you' to 'your story is boring, stupid, or irrelevant', etc, but at no point have I ever seen anyone use it as 'you are male' or 'you are my brother, literally'. Never.

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
74. And it was carelessly used. Not all woman would be offended but many would.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:36 AM
Mar 2015

He should be more careful who he calls bro.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
75. I'm at a loss for a substitute meme in this case.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:39 AM
Mar 2015

I'll fully grant that no one can tell another person how to feel about something that was said to them, but one can certainly clarify how it was obviously meant when it was said.

In this case, I'm at a loss to suggest a suitably sarcastic alternative.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
79. But then it's not funny.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:43 AM
Mar 2015

If the funny was packaged as simply calling a female, male, then I would agree with you. "bro", in this case, is like punctuation. It's not the payload.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
110. I suppose it works.
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 08:36 PM
Mar 2015

Not really recognizable as the established meme though, but if it bothers you, I will be sure to adapt any future comments to suit.

okasha

(11,573 posts)
111. People, or most liberal English speakers, at any rate,
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 08:45 PM
Mar 2015

have managed to abandon "established names" when they were recognized as offensive:

"N*****" in the woodpile."
"Indian giver"
"Jew him down"
"Frito bandito"

Et cetera.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
112. Honestly, and without any bs or meta, just a question;
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 09:09 PM
Mar 2015

Do you really think that meme carries the same level of attack connotation, the same baggage, in the post that applied it to you?

All four of your examples are undeniably bigoted in ANY context. Does the 'cool story' meme share that same space?
If it had been leveled at you specifically for the intent of attacking your gender/identity, I would fully agree, because while many comments are acceptable generally, they can undeniably be put in a context that is a direct, personal, intentionally hurtful attack.

I honestly don't believe Warren would do something like that to you. I don't know anyone here that would stoop to that, no matter how acerbic the disagreement at hand might be. No matter how much past disagreement baggage there might be between any two posters.

If I thought for one second that he had, that would have an immediate impact on my contact with him.

okasha

(11,573 posts)
113. "Cool story" by itself is absolutely innofensive.
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 09:40 PM
Mar 2015

We have emoticons to convey sarcasm online where tone of voice would carry it in conversation. .No problem.

Add "bro," and unless you know the addressee is a man, you've assumed that male is the default gender. That's why "mankind" has pretty much been replaced by "humankind" in all but very conservative usage. In that sense, "bro" is disrespectful of any woman.

As for "bro" as a form of address to a lesbian, let me offer you a parallel. You would instantly recognize "sissy" as an insult to a gay man because it says in effect, "You are not really a man,". "Bro" addressed to a lesbian says, "You're not really a woman.". Both expressions come trailing baggage from patently bigoted expressions such as "Which one of you is the woman/man in your relationship?"

On your third paragraph--let's just say we differ.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
114. Hard for me to estimate.
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 09:47 PM
Mar 2015

I've had those terms applied to me, directly, however.. I do come from a position of immense privilege so I can't really form a credible objection to how offensive or inoffensive it is. So.

I go to great lengths, especially in this venue, but in life in general, never to assume any gender-related categorization. You may have noticed that I use "his/her" or no gender at all when referring to posters I do not know. I would never for one second have thought of it in the context of that meme, in that post. It never occurred to me that it could be meant in the context it was objected to.

 

phil89

(1,043 posts)
82. Wow give it up already.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:52 AM
Mar 2015

You've been proven wrong, multiple times, quit while you're behind. I'd hate to hear your diatribe if someone said "hey guys!" to a group which included a female.

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
85. Too bad. If you can't stand hearing what I say put me on ignore.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 12:02 PM
Mar 2015

Btw nothing has been proven ecept okasha was offended by being called a bro.

okasha

(11,573 posts)
54. Well, thank you for acknowledging that I'm right, whatever I say. You're making progress.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 11:53 PM
Mar 2015

Beyond that, you're not doing so well. Cbayer posted the article; she didn't write it. There's a difference. Nor did the article suggest that atheists shut up. It did suggest that the God exists/doesn't exist argument has been run into the ground (it has) and that a better use of everyone's time is to address social justice issues together (it would.)

As Justin has pointed out, I'm not a "bro.". Your assumption that male is the default gender is sexist and offensive.

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
61. So that would make your original assertion
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 12:56 AM
Mar 2015

That my evidence was not even close, total bullshit, a condition frequently described on the internets with the expression " cool story bro".

okasha

(11,573 posts)
66. Uhm , no.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:04 AM
Mar 2015

Please have someone explain to you that the writer of the article and the poster of the article are two different people.

 

skepticscott

(13,029 posts)
22. Why is it the people who are constantly defending religion
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 07:47 PM
Mar 2015

and arguing for its necessity and legitimacy are the ones who act most surprised every time it pushes for new levels of immoral control over people's lives?

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
90. Exactly. Of all the stupidity here, that has to be the stupidest assumption ever.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 01:09 PM
Mar 2015

As a matter of fact, there is a significant degree of atheism among libertarians.

Unintended consequences…. sometimes you have to love them.

 

djean111

(14,255 posts)
19. It is not separate but equal. Common law is not equal.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 05:33 PM
Mar 2015

Maybe it is time to have all marriage license issued by the federal government. It is ridiculous for a state to be able to deny people federal benefits, using religion as an excuse. They are just going to keep going after gay and atheist people.

Panich52

(5,829 posts)
21. When did Oklahoma secede? I missed that. Must have happened or they'd pay att'n to US Constitution
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 06:55 PM
Mar 2015

Or their own state constitution: Article II "Bill of Rights"

Text of Section 1:
Political Power - Purpose of Government - Alteration or Reformation

All political power is inherent in the people; and government is instituted for their protection, security, and benefit, and to promote their general welfare; and they have the right to alter or reform the same whenever the public good may require it: Provided, such change be not repugnant to the Constitution of the United States.


Text of Section 15:
Bills of Attainder - Ex post Facto Laws - Obligation of Contracts - Forfeitures

No bill of attainder, ex post facto law, nor any law impairing the obligation of contracts, shall ever be passed. No conviction shall work a corruption of blood or forfeiture of estate: Provided, that this provision shall not prohibit the imposition of pecuniary penalties.


Text of Section 33:
Effect of Enumeration of Rights

The enumeration in this Constitution of certain rights shall not be construed to deny, impair, or disparage others retained by the people.


oops (ironic inclusion in "bill of rights&quot
Text of Section 35:
"Marriage" Defined - Marriage Between Persons of Same Gender Not Valid or Recognized

A. Marriage in this state shall consist only of the union of one man and one woman. Neither this Constitution nor any other provision of law shall be construed to require that marital status or the legal incidents thereof be conferred upon unmarried couples or groups.

B. A marriage between persons of the same gender performed in another state shall not be recognized as valid and binding in this state as of the date of the marriage.

C. Any person knowingly issuing a marriage license in violation of this section shall be guilty of a misdemeanor.


Except Art II, Sec 35 was struck down as unconstitutional, repugnant to the Constitution of the United States.

The Oklahoma Definition of Marriage Amendment, also known as State Question 711, was on the November 2, 2004 ballot in Oklahoma as a legislatively-referred constitutional amendment, where it was approved, but was later overturned by the U.S. District Court for the Northern District of Oklahoma.[1][2][3]

Aftermath
Federal appeals court ruling
On June 25, 2014, a three member panel of the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals struck down bans on gay marriage in the states of Colorado, Kansas, New Mexico, Oklahoma, Utah and Wyoming. This was the first ruling made by a federal appeals court on this issue, which sets a historic precedent that voter-approved bans on same-sex marriage violate the Fourteenth Amendment rights of same-sex couples to equal protection and due process.[4]

While the decision was based off of a case originating in Utah, Oklahoma submitted its own case for review by the Court of Appeals.[5] On July 18, 2014, the court directly struck down the Oklahoma ban in that case.[6]

Stay of decision
Implementation of both decisions affecting Oklahoma were immediately stayed pending anticipated appeals to either the full appeals panel or the United States Supreme Court.[7][6]

United States Supreme Court
On October 6, 2014, the Supreme Court of the United States declined to hear the case, thus allowing the ruling of the Tenth Circuit Court to stand and legalizing same-sex marriage in Oklahoma.[8]


Repubs do find interesting ways to try and skirt constitutionality and civil rights...

all info from ballotpedia
http://ballotpedia.org/Article_II,_Oklahoma_Constitution

http://ballotpedia.org/Oklahoma_Definition_of_Marriage,_State_Question_711_(2004)

 

Warren Stupidity

(48,181 posts)
26. weve been told here repeatedly that the religious right is an insignificant minority
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:34 PM
Mar 2015

except of course that theocracy is a real possibility.

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
34. and the fundamentalists may not be a minority
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:54 PM
Mar 2015

Results from MANOS and the General Social Surveys reveal that the general American population holds nearly identical levels of fundamentalist beliefs as Muslims, if not slightly more. Just over 57 percent of the general American population believes that “right and wrong in U.S. law should be based on God’s laws,” compared to 49.3 percent of U.S.-born Muslims and 45.6 of foreign-born Muslims. About a third of each group believes that society should not be the one to determine right and wrong in U.S. law. Such numbers reveal that the general American population is more fundamentalist than the average European, and that Muslim Americans are less fundamentalist than European Muslims, according to the Koopmans study.


If the US becomes a theocracy, a possibility that I hope is remote, I hope that will convince my wife to move back with me to my home town. Assuming of course that Stephen Harper does not succeed in creating his own little theocracy.

Quite bizarre that a country founder by agnostics, free thinkers, atheists and assorted Enlightenment influenced people could be seen by the uneducated as a Christian nation.

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
30. It is all just a bunch of chest beating and posturing until they ban divorce.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:44 PM
Mar 2015

When they ban divorce, THEN they might seem serious. Otherwise, they are just chest beating and trying to out-Christian each other as is typical of those fundy types. They do that crap where I live. Push comes to shove, they do it to get more business for whatever business they are running and to play the old "mine is better than yours" game. They literally rub elbows with the extremists who run my home county to get more business. I am sick of them. If they really want to appear the least bit serious about the "sanctity of marriage," they'll ban divorce. Divorce is the number one cause of marriage breakups.

Try telling them that, though. They'll start beating their chests about homo-secks-shu-ality again. They are full of shit and just posturing.

 

arcane1

(38,613 posts)
31. If Bartcop were still alive, this would kill him.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:44 PM
Mar 2015

I can't wait for the first Muslim or Hindu couple to try getting married there, and we'll see how broadly Oklahoma defines "religious official"

Thinkingabout

(30,058 posts)
32. Did not have to see it was sponsored by a Republican. Where in the hell are they
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 09:50 PM
Mar 2015

Finding these people to run?

Agnosticsherbet

(11,619 posts)
40. Unitarian universalists and Reform Jewish Synagogues will officiate over same sex marriages.
Mon Mar 16, 2015, 10:46 PM
Mar 2015

Oklahoma can not stop it completely.

still_one

(92,116 posts)
78. Unconstitutional, waste of time and money for Oaklahoma. Are the
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 11:42 AM
Mar 2015

People in Oaklahoma really happy with this?

JimDandy

(7,318 posts)
87. This is not going to end well for OK taxpayers
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 12:57 PM
Mar 2015

who will be on the hook for a huge number of lawsuits against this, if it comes to be law.

Fantastic Anarchist

(7,309 posts)
93. A new low ... wow.
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 04:18 PM
Mar 2015

Wish I could say I'm surprised.

But I'm thinking they worded the bill incorrectly. Don't they only want Christians to marry? I mean, this bill leaves the possibility that Muslims, Jews, Hindus, Buddhists, etc. can get married.

Can't have that. We're a Christian Nation, for cryin' out loud!

lark

(23,083 posts)
94. And these assholes complain about Sharia law?
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 05:24 PM
Mar 2015

Really, they are totally in favor of most of the provisions. Stoning a young woman who has unmarried sex yet not touching the man, the tealiban would love that and really do it now in words if not using the actual rocks.

Do these assholes even know we have a costitution? This is unconstitutional on the face of it, establishing the christians as the only people allowed to actually be married?

OMG, how can so many have totally lost their minds? I'd love to see Scalia try to defend this one, the pompous ass.

blackspade

(10,056 posts)
95. will these christian nuts stop at nothing to cram their.....
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 09:08 PM
Mar 2015

religious bullshit down the throats of everyone else?

douggg

(239 posts)
96. This would put the state in the position of recognizing a faith/religion as 'legitimate'
Tue Mar 17, 2015, 10:06 PM
Mar 2015

and conversely, the power to deny a faith/religion as legitimate.

Many Catholics/Protestants consider the other to be false Christians. (Or Mormons as a cult)

Just think of the mischief that could be done every decade or so if the legislative makeup changed to a different religious majority.

jmowreader

(50,552 posts)
98. In other words, there's a $600 marriage surcharge for nonbelievers
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 05:17 AM
Mar 2015

Which is what it costs for two people to fly to Vegas and back.

Fortinbras Armstrong

(4,473 posts)
99. There's another problem
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 05:25 AM
Mar 2015

The Oklahoma bill defines which religious officials can preside at a marriage ceremony to include:

an ordained or authorized preacher or minister of the Gospel, priest or other ecclesiastical dignitary of any denomination who has been duly ordained or authorized by the church to which he or she belongs to preach the Gospel, or a rabbi and who is at least eighteen (18) years of age.


and

Marriages between persons belonging to the society called Friends, or Quakers, the spiritual assembly of the Baha'is, or the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, or other assemblies which have no ordained minister, may be solemnized by the persons and in the manner prescribed by and practiced in any such society, church, or assembly.


It seems that Oklahoma Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, and those of other faiths cannot marry in their faiths.

catrose

(5,065 posts)
100. Should I tell him that there's plenty of clergy, even in Oklahoma,
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 08:39 AM
Mar 2015

who will bless a same-sex marriage?

He'd be so disappointed.

longship

(40,416 posts)
101. Clear violation of the establishment clause.
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 10:19 AM
Mar 2015

Don't these people have even a basic understanding of the US Constitution?

Apparently not.

FiveGoodMen

(20,018 posts)
103. I'm sure they understand that this is unconstitutional
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 04:14 PM
Mar 2015

They just don't think that fancy-book-learnin'-commie-librul document should apply to them.

Another way to put it: They're attempting to overthrow the federal government and establish theocracy.

 

penndragon69

(788 posts)
106. They had to do it....
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 05:23 PM
Mar 2015

Since same sex marriage is becoming the law of the land,
they needed a new group to discriminate against.

Their new target.....ATHEISTS !

But they are still OK with you marrying your COW !

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
107. Not just atheists, but a whole slew of others, including Muslims and Hindi.
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 05:34 PM
Mar 2015

This is going to so backfire on them.

pinto

(106,886 posts)
108. Okla. House OKs bill shifting issuance of marriage licenses from state to clergy (LGBTQ Nation)
Wed Mar 18, 2015, 07:52 PM
Mar 2015

Blatant, desperate, unconstitutional. ~ pinto

Okla. House OKs bill shifting issuance of marriage licenses from state to clergy

OKLAHOMA CITY — The Oklahoma state House has approved legislation that shifts the issuance of marriage licenses from the state to members of the clergy.

House members voted 67-24 for the measure Tuesday and sent it to the Senate for consideration.

The measure (HB 1125) by Republican Rep. Todd Russ of Cordell would replace a state-issued marriage license with a clergy-issued marriage certificate.

Russ says it gets government out of the business of licensing marriage. Opponents say it is a reaction by lawmakers who disagree with a federal judge’s decision to overturn the state’s ban on same-sex marriage.

Russ says the state neither allows nor disallows same-sex marriage under the bill. But opponents, including Democratic Rep. Emily Virgin of Norman, say state government needs to be involved in the process.

http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2015/03/okla-house-oks-bill-shifting-issuance-of-marriage-licenses-from-state-to-clergy/

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