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Miguelito Loveless

(4,417 posts)
Mon Sep 7, 2020, 10:18 PM Sep 2020

Some advice, please, from Wiccans on honoring a departed friend

First off, I am an atheist by way of Catholicism (Irish, so it left a mark). I say this not to provoke anything, but simply to be honest about own lack of expertise. My friend, who I have known since 1979, died suddenly last month, and I wish to honor her memory.

She was a Wiccan, but came from a fundamentalist family who are insisting on Christian rites for her memorial service (delayed until October due to circumstances). I know she would have wanted Wiccan rights, so I wish to honor her desire and have made a place for her in a memorial garden I made for lost friends. She will be the first person whose picture will be placed in the garden (printed on aluminum), but others will follow, of different faiths.

I have a small statue of the the three aspects of The Goddess for her section, and I am trying get a brazier she used in her annual Bridging ceremony to place with her picture. Is there something else I need to do?


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Some advice, please, from Wiccans on honoring a departed friend (Original Post) Miguelito Loveless Sep 2020 OP
I know little about Wicca. I can offer no advice about what be appropriate to honor her beliefs. TomSlick Sep 2020 #1
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. MontanaMama Sep 2020 #2
The only ceremony I was present at Miguelito Loveless Sep 2020 #4
Burning incense with intention is lovely ritual. MontanaMama Sep 2020 #6
What you have done is beautiful... Guilded Lilly Sep 2020 #3
Thank you. Miguelito Loveless Sep 2020 #5

TomSlick

(10,977 posts)
1. I know little about Wicca. I can offer no advice about what be appropriate to honor her beliefs.
Tue Sep 8, 2020, 09:35 PM
Sep 2020

My best advice is to remember your friend fondly. May her memory be a blessing.

MontanaMama

(23,156 posts)
2. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.
Wed Sep 9, 2020, 09:32 AM
Sep 2020

I think your statue of the three aspects of the Goddess (Maiden, Mother and Crone) is a lovely and appropriate tribute. Did your friend have an affinity for plant magic? Maybe a thyme plant? Or, did she use natural stones in her practice? Keeping her alive in your memory is a powerful remembrance. Your garden is beautiful.

Miguelito Loveless

(4,417 posts)
4. The only ceremony I was present at
Wed Sep 9, 2020, 09:48 PM
Sep 2020

was her annual bridging ceremony. I hope to get the brazier she used, as I will keep a box of incense to burn in it.

Thank you for your gracious attention.

MontanaMama

(23,156 posts)
6. Burning incense with intention is lovely ritual.
Wed Sep 9, 2020, 09:55 PM
Sep 2020

❤️ I hope her brazier finds its way to you. Blessed be.

Miguelito Loveless

(4,417 posts)
5. Thank you.
Wed Sep 9, 2020, 09:51 PM
Sep 2020

I don’t know much about gardening, or landscaping, so this has been a reason to learn. I had a small area for my mom and for our four-footed family members over the years, now I hope to work on them in a similar vein.

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