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40% of Black Atheists hide their beliefs. . . (Original Post) Collimator Apr 2022 OP
It's the "I'm not religious" closet that allows the prying godly to think whatever they want Warpy Apr 2022 #1
Good for you! I learned a long time ago when ppl ask me prying questions that total silence PortTack Apr 2022 #2
I told family long ago....they live with it. Farmer-Rick Apr 2022 #3
I'd like to touch on the replies. . . Collimator Apr 2022 #4

Warpy

(111,255 posts)
1. It's the "I'm not religious" closet that allows the prying godly to think whatever they want
Tue Apr 19, 2022, 10:02 PM
Apr 2022

and I certainly use it on people who don't have any business prying into my beliefs or lack of them.

Friends know I don't believe q word of it, I'm very forthcoming with people I know and trust.

Acquaintances, coworkers, and just the occasional prying asshole are told to drop it by my presenting the atheist closet response.

PortTack

(32,762 posts)
2. Good for you! I learned a long time ago when ppl ask me prying questions that total silence
Tue Apr 19, 2022, 10:33 PM
Apr 2022

really puts them on their heels. I don’t gesture or anything. If they really want to know me, they won’t be deterred, otherwise they weren’t a friend to begin with.

Farmer-Rick

(10,163 posts)
3. I told family long ago....they live with it.
Wed Apr 20, 2022, 11:37 AM
Apr 2022

But being in the Bible belt, I very rarely tell strangers.

Me and the UPS guy were really getting friendly and I liked the guy. But then I made the mistake of telling him I was an atheist. He's gotten very distant. Even the Jehovah Witnesses stop coming round when I told them there was no evidence for a god. That's one way of of getting rid of them.

Collimator

(1,639 posts)
4. I'd like to touch on the replies. . .
Wed Apr 20, 2022, 03:50 PM
Apr 2022

. . . But I am not Black so I kind of feel that I am meandering off topic on my own post. Still, this little story does happen to involve a Black woman, so, who knows? Whatevs.

Back last autumn, I was waiting on a ride in front of a little town center when I woman came up to me. She was standing practically at my knee and some other behaviors that I had noticed before gave me reason to believe that she had some low-level mental health issues that caused her to ignore certain social conventions. (Such as how close one should stand next to a total stranger.)

What she said to me certainly raised my eyebrows. "Black people are terrible!", or words to that effect. As noted above, she herself was Black, so I couldn't even draw forth the mighty sword of ally-ship and tolerance. Instead, I sat there and looked confused.

Turns out, the behavior that I had noted before was this woman trying to solicit a ride home from people in the little shopping center. At least one of the people who had refused her was Black, thus eliciting her comment.

When I learned why she was unhappy, I commented that trying to get a ride with a stranger was dangerous. I cut off her serene, confident response of, "I believe in God--" with a cheery, confident response of my own. "I don't!", I said with a perky smile.

Needless to say, she wasn't expecting that. With my gray hair pulled up under my hat, sitting there all plump in my Holly Hobbie dress, I look like Aunt Bea taking a break from grocery shopping on Main Street in Mayberry. Aunt Bea isn't supposed to be an unbeliever!

We exchanged a few other words but I can't describe her facial expression because she was hurrying away from me. Yep, this woman who was willing to risk catching a ride in a car with a complete stranger in an area of Baltimore County that is not as safe as Mayberry RFD, was afraid of a sweet old lady because she didn't believe in God.

It may not be very kindly and Aunt Bea of me, but I sort of enjoyed that little interaction. That poor woman certainly did not want to hear what I have to say about the Bible, even though I made a polite offer to explain everything that was wrong about it to her retreating back.

Good times.

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