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Bereavement

kairos12

(13,707 posts) Mon Apr 20, 2026, 10:19 AM Apr 20

20

36 years ago today

my brother killed himself. Unfortunately, he followed in our father's footsteps.

Remembering them both today.

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36 years ago today (Original Post) kairos12 Apr 20 OP

You honor their pain, my dear kairos12. Blessings on this sad anniversary. CaliforniaPeggy Apr 20 #1

Thank you CP. kairos12 Apr 20 #2

I hope you and your family have peace today. riversedge Apr 20 #3

Thank you kindly riversedge. kairos12 Apr 20 #8

I'm so sorry for your loss MIButterfly Apr 20 #4

Thank you very much MiButterfy. kairos12 Apr 20 #9

🫂 mwmisses4289 Apr 20 #5

Thank you memisses4289. kairos12 Apr 20 #10

Sending you strength and comfort kairos12. For your brother and dad... Clouds Passing Apr 20 #6

Thank you Clouds Passing for kairos12 Apr 20 #11

ya know, mopinko Apr 20 #7

Thank you Mopinko. kairos12 Apr 20 #12

i dont think enough ppl get it. mopinko Apr 20 #13

Peace. cachukis Apr 20 #14

Thank you cachukis. kairos12 Apr 20 #15

🫶🏽 blm Apr 20 #16

Thank you blm. kairos12 Apr 20 #17

CaliforniaPeggy

(156,990 posts)

1. You honor their pain, my dear kairos12. Blessings on this sad anniversary.

Reply to kairos12 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 10:23 AM

Apr 20

kairos12

(13,707 posts)

2. Thank you CP.

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #1)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 10:25 AM

Apr 20

I hope and pray your recovery is going well and supports your splendid spirit.

riversedge

(81,548 posts)

3. I hope you and your family have peace today.

Reply to kairos12 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 10:25 AM

Apr 20

kairos12

(13,707 posts)

8. Thank you kindly riversedge.

Reply to riversedge (Reply #3)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 11:04 AM

Apr 20

MIButterfly

(3,144 posts)

4. I'm so sorry for your loss

Reply to kairos12 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 10:28 AM

Apr 20

Dear kairos12, I extend to you my deepest sympathy. I wish I had better words.

Sometimes there are no words.

Thinking of you today,
MIButterfly

kairos12

(13,707 posts)

9. Thank you very much MiButterfy.

Reply to MIButterfly (Reply #4)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 11:05 AM

Apr 20

mwmisses4289

(4,735 posts)

5. 🫂

Reply to kairos12 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 10:28 AM

Apr 20

kairos12

(13,707 posts)

10. Thank you memisses4289.

Reply to mwmisses4289 (Reply #5)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 11:06 AM

Apr 20

Clouds Passing

(8,195 posts)

6. Sending you strength and comfort kairos12. For your brother and dad...

Reply to kairos12 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 10:33 AM

Apr 20

For you

kairos12

(13,707 posts)

11. Thank you Clouds Passing for

Reply to Clouds Passing (Reply #6)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 11:06 AM

Apr 20

your comforting words.

mopinko

(73,943 posts)

7. ya know,

Reply to kairos12 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 10:36 AM

Apr 20

i’ve had my moments. but i remember kurt vonnegut talking about his mother’s suicide, and the lasting impact of that, and it stayed my hand.

kairos12

(13,707 posts)

12. Thank you Mopinko.

Reply to mopinko (Reply #7)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 11:08 AM

Apr 20

I’m very glad Kurt was there when you needed him.

Stay in the fight. We need you.

mopinko

(73,943 posts)

13. i dont think enough ppl get it.

Reply to kairos12 (Reply #12)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 11:18 AM

Apr 20

they think their loved ones will b better off w/o them.

cachukis

(4,083 posts)

14. Peace.

Reply to kairos12 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 11:21 AM

Apr 20

kairos12

(13,707 posts)

15. Thank you cachukis.

Reply to cachukis (Reply #14)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 12:41 PM

Apr 20

blm

(114,763 posts)

16. 🫶🏽

Reply to kairos12 (Original post)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 01:04 PM

Apr 20

🌼🫶🏽🌼

kairos12

(13,707 posts)

17. Thank you blm.

Reply to blm (Reply #16)

Mon Apr 20, 2026, 01:45 PM

Apr 20

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