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littlemissmartypants

(22,417 posts)
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 01:38 AM Dec 2020

I just found out my Daddy passed away at 2300.



I was asked to write his obituary. I hope I can do him justice. Thankfully, he didn’t suffer many days and if anyone deserves to be in heaven, he does. Of, course I have been fighting tears every day since he became so sick as I am now. Thankfully he was only in Hospice Care for nine days. But now he's gone. As inevitable as death is there will never be anything that prepares you for that day.

Thank you everyone for the loving support you offered me on my End of Life Issues (Group) post. You comforted me and I will never forget it.

❤ lmsp

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I just found out my Daddy passed away at 2300. (Original Post) littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 OP
cyber hug for you nt msongs Dec 2020 #1
Thanks msongs. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #7
So sorry to hear this, I missed your other post... cayugafalls Dec 2020 #2
Thanks, cayugafalls. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #8
My condolences on your loss. CentralMass Dec 2020 #3
Thanks, CentralMass. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #9
I am so sorry I missed your thread. sheshe2 Dec 2020 #4
Thanks, she... ❤ n littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #11
You know it's coming, then, bam! The loss hits you up side the head like you didn't know... You're Karadeniz Dec 2020 #5
Thanks, Karadeniz. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #12
I missed your original post as well, but pnwest Dec 2020 #6
Thanks, pnwest. He was a wonderful human. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #13
Mine died out of the blue last year, in his sleep and he was healthy. BigmanPigman Dec 2020 #10
Thanks, BigmanPigman. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #14
I'm sorry for your loss. He sounds like a very fine man, yonder Dec 2020 #15
Thanks, yonder. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #16
I'm so sorry. LittleGirl Dec 2020 #17
Thanks, LittleGirl. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #24
I am profoundly sorry for your loss. Dem2theMax Dec 2020 #18
Thanks, Dem2theMax. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #19
I am very sorry. murielm99 Dec 2020 #20
Thanks murielm99. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #22
My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family, Lmsp. BComplex Dec 2020 #21
Thanks BComplex. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #23
So sorry for your loss LMSP ... mr_lebowski Dec 2020 #25
Thanks, mr_lebowski. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #27
Deepest sympathy, my dear littlemisssmartypants. Granny M Dec 2020 #26
Thanks, Granny M. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #28
Sorry for your loss. Take care. RestoreAmerica2020 Dec 2020 #29
Thanks, RestoreAmerica2020. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #32
I am so sorry UpInArms Dec 2020 #30
Thanks, UpInArms. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #34
I'm so very sorry for your loss. 😭 LiberalLoner Dec 2020 #31
Thanks, LiberalLoner. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #35
Peace and Love to you. IADEMO2004 Dec 2020 #33
Thanks, IADEMO2004. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #36
Deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Dec 2020 #37
Thanks, sinkingfeeling. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #39
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat Dec 2020 #38
Thanks brer cat. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #40
Deepest Condolences SheltieLover Dec 2020 #41
Thanks SheltieLover. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #43
You are most welcome SheltieLover Dec 2020 #45
❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #46
💓💓💓 SheltieLover Dec 2020 #47
Lost my dad 2 years ago, I feel for you, LMSP. JudyM Dec 2020 #42
Thanks JudyM. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #44
Sorry for your loss Marthe48 Dec 2020 #48
Thanks, Marthe48. ❤ nt littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #49

sheshe2

(83,319 posts)
4. I am so sorry I missed your thread.
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 01:57 AM
Dec 2020

My heart goes out to your and the daddy you lost. Trust me, your love will do him justice. You will be writing from your heart.

Love and respect to you and yours, lmsp.

Karadeniz

(22,267 posts)
5. You know it's coming, then, bam! The loss hits you up side the head like you didn't know... You're
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 02:01 AM
Dec 2020

Right, nothing prepares you. Deepest sympathy to you and the family.

pnwest

(3,265 posts)
6. I missed your original post as well, but
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 02:13 AM
Dec 2020

I went back and read it. He sounds like a wonderful, loving man. I’m so very sorry for your loss. There aren’t words to ease your sorrow, but I hope you find solace in your memories.

BigmanPigman

(51,430 posts)
10. Mine died out of the blue last year, in his sleep and he was healthy.
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 02:48 AM
Dec 2020

I am still in shock since we often saw each other in the same city and are a close family.

I hope you handle it better than I did.

yonder

(9,631 posts)
15. I'm sorry for your loss. He sounds like a very fine man,
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 03:01 AM
Dec 2020

who loved ALL his girls and someone we would all be proud to know. May his memory give you comfort in the times ahead.

Dem2theMax

(9,594 posts)
18. I am profoundly sorry for your loss.
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 03:14 AM
Dec 2020

My dad passed away eight years ago this month, and a day doesn't go by that I don't think about him and miss him like crazy.

I truly feel for you. Hold on to the love you shared. It will get you through this. The one wonderful thing I learned through death is that the love never dies. It is always with us.

BComplex

(7,977 posts)
21. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family, Lmsp.
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 03:18 AM
Dec 2020
I know your obituary for him will be everything he would want for you to say.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I wish you a soft landing in the days to come. I've lost both of my parents, and I will tell you, it eventually gets easier, but it will take some time.

SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
41. Deepest Condolences
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 02:18 PM
Dec 2020

So sorry for your loss.

Please talk to his hospice about bereavement counseling. Most offer 13 months of free coumseling tp support you through that year of "firsts."

Healimg enerfgy on the way to you. 💓💓💓

SheltieLover

(57,073 posts)
45. You are most welcome
Fri Dec 11, 2020, 03:06 PM
Dec 2020

Please be gentle with yourself. There is no timeline for grief resolution & the stages of grief is not a linear process.

It is hard work, physically as well as emotionally & psychologically.

Please feel free to pm if you wish to chat.

JudyM

(29,122 posts)
42. Lost my dad 2 years ago, I feel for you, LMSP.
Thu Dec 10, 2020, 10:03 PM
Dec 2020

After the most intense grieving passed, it feels like he accompanies me now, since he’s always present in my heart. I hope you find comfort soon ... but for now, the depth of grief honors your love for him.
Wishing that you somehow find moments of peace in the process.

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