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littlemissmartypants

(22,548 posts)
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 07:03 PM Apr 2020

10 questions you should ask someone before marrying them

10 questions you should ask someone before marrying them
Sophia Mitrokostas Feb 6, 2020

https://www.insider.com/questions-you-should-ask-your-someone-before-marrying-them-2018-11
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Before marrying someone, there are some topics you might want to discuss.

Some important questions to ask your partner are in regards to how much debt they have and whether or not they want to have children.

It can also be wise to ask about your partner's previous encounters with the law and their sex drive.
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Whether you're dreaming of getting engaged or have already picked out the floral arrangements for your wedding, the prospect of marriage can leave many people in a happy daze.

But regardless of how long you've been with your partner, there could be a few things worth discussing before you exchange vows.

Here are a few questions you may want to ask your partner before marrying them.

What kind of debt do you have?
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SledDriver

(2,057 posts)
1. All questions you should already know the answers to
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 07:25 PM
Apr 2020

and be comfortable with long before marriage is even considered.

Karadeniz

(22,461 posts)
3. I would add some general metaphysical questions. Do you believe we all have a purpose in life,
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 07:36 PM
Apr 2020

A reason for being born? Try to explain this.

BigmanPigman

(51,564 posts)
5. What about just dating someone?
Sat Apr 18, 2020, 09:57 PM
Apr 2020

While discussing the wearing of masks during Covid I told a friend this week that if I were looking to date someone and saw she/he was NOT wearing a mask in public she/he would automatically be off any dating list of mine.

In the past I have refused to date people who do not vote. I have certain standards. If you are not a voting Dem than you are not worth my time.

bucolic_frolic

(43,027 posts)
6. If you don't know them well enough to fill out a personality test for them
Sun Dec 13, 2020, 05:20 PM
Dec 2020

you are in for some adverse surprises.

Some personality types don't mix. I wonder if there are pre-nup counselors that assess personality mixtures.

littlemissmartypants

(22,548 posts)
7. My ex and I went through that very thing. We had pre-marriage
Mon Dec 14, 2020, 01:21 AM
Dec 2020

counseling with a psychologist and we had pre-marriage counseling with the priest and he still cheated, repeatedly. I never remarried and still miss him sometimes after more than twenty years.

The MBTI test has combatability suggestions based on type but I don't think many people use it.

Here’s the link to a short form of the test here: https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1237&pid=526

❤lmsp

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littlemissmartypants

(22,548 posts)
9. I never tested anyone in the family except my niece and it
Mon Dec 14, 2020, 11:01 AM
Dec 2020

was no surprise she tested as an introvert. INFJ's are supposed to be rare but I have read other opinions that dispute that. Nice to have another in the group. As you can see most of us are introverts which makes sense if you are a loner.

I hope you have a lovely day.

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