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ismnotwasm

(41,916 posts)
Mon Apr 8, 2013, 03:14 PM Apr 2013

TOM MATLACK: VICTIM OF FEMINISM

Tom Matlack, who I’d pretty much forgotten about because, well, because he’s irrelevant, is at it again. And by “at it” I mean, of course, whining about the mean, mean feminists. It’s his thing.

Some history on me and Tom: Back in January, Matlack, who is the co-founder of MRA-lite site, The Good Men Project, wrote a blog post for The Times as part of an incredibly inane “debate” about whether or not makeup “helps or hinders a woman’s self-esteem.” I responded to his post, entitled “Women Should Do What They Want” (oh gee, thanks for the green light on that, Tom!), by saying, basically, that nobody cares about what Tom thinks about what women should or should not do with their faces. Tom got super choked that I would DARE criticize his nice-guy stance but claimed that “personal attacks bounce right off [him]” and that what he’s really upset about are “the attacks on The Good Men Project as a whole,” which are, according to Tom, “unfair and unjustified.” But the thing is that they’re not “unfair and unjustified.” Not in the least.

Tom Matlack is white dude with tons of cash. The Good Men Project is profitable. That he continues to obsess about being victimized by the evil feminists doesn’t make much sense as feminism, and what feminists think about him, very clearly have had little impact on his life (aside from maybe the amount of time he spends instigating and engaging in Twitter wars with feminists). Unless, of course, you place his whines within a Men’s Rights context. Because what Matlack is doing is what all MRAs do — Pretending that white men, who are the single most powerful group of people on the planet (which is different than saying that individual men can’t experience oppression or be victimized — they can — but AS A GROUP white men are not discriminated against on a systemic level) are actually victims of feminism — a movement to end the oppression of women, as a group.

He goes about this in a super-sneaky way; reminding us over and over again that he’s on OUR SIDE you guys! He’s a “good man,” after all. If we would just stop “attacking” poor Tom, the feminist movement would actually be able to get somewhere. He says things like: “I am all for equality. I am all for women’s rights. What I am not for is making this one giant zero sum fight in which men get bashed.” He pulls the classic “we’re just being honest,” card, as though “being honest” is an excuse for being a sexist mansplainy moron. He thinks feminists are getting in the way of feminism, which is something he is an expert on.



http://feministcurrent.com/7476/tom-matlack-victim-of-feminism/

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TOM MATLACK: VICTIM OF FEMINISM (Original Post) ismnotwasm Apr 2013 OP
If only feminists had listened to men who knew geek tragedy Apr 2013 #1
That place is vile. redqueen Apr 2013 #2
eww... if you don't want to get raped... don't drink. boston bean Apr 2013 #3
It's worse. They warn young men that they run the geek tragedy Apr 2013 #4
They coach some of their articles ismnotwasm Apr 2013 #5
 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
1. If only feminists had listened to men who knew
Mon Apr 8, 2013, 03:34 PM
Apr 2013

better, they wouldn't be burdened with careers and the right to vote.

boston bean

(36,186 posts)
3. eww... if you don't want to get raped... don't drink.
Mon Apr 8, 2013, 04:02 PM
Apr 2013

If you want to drink the trade off is you might get raped???

blech...

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
4. It's worse. They warn young men that they run the
Mon Apr 8, 2013, 05:13 PM
Apr 2013

risk of raping someone if they continue to party and abuse substances.

It's abhorrent.

ismnotwasm

(41,916 posts)
5. They coach some of their articles
Mon Apr 8, 2013, 05:24 PM
Apr 2013

In superficially feminist positive terms. Until you really read what they say. I read them fairly regularly---the author is absolutely right. Sneaky and disingenuous.

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