On Books

[Texasgal]

Okay, am I the only one that has no interest in "50 shades of grey"?

Before anyone may ask I enjoy sex.

Anyhoo, I find the book kinda of sexist. I say this as someone who has only read reviews. The young lady wants a "vanilla" sexual relationship and the man is all about more than that. She is concerned and disagrees with the "different sex" lifestyle he wants, but goes ahead because she loves him.

Am I correct or just talking out the side of my mouth?

I am just not sure why i would want to read that. ???

[seabeyond]

1. having a kindle and getting lots of free books

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have found all kinds of different genres. i have read a couple three, four of these books. they are really poorly written. not much to them. no character development and the sex is old and tired after a bit. that is really all it is. how this one became popular, i dont know. i hear it is poorly written. but, it sure has become a fad. did you watch ellen degeneres' reading on it? i posted in the forum a month ago. so funny. tried to get the video up and didnt come up. try ellen degeneres reading 50 shades. it is a hoot. showed it to hubby the other night and he giggled.

[BlueIris]

2. Haven't read it. The excerpts I've read are f-ing awful, though.

So to speak.

[Little Star]

9. Ditto!

[Violet_Crumble]

3. I've never heard of it before now...

Okay, wiki has now told me all I need to know. I got as far as 'The Fifty Shades trilogy was developed from a Twilight fanfiction...' and stopped dead. Twilight? Urgh....

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fifty_Shades_of_Grey

[redqueen]

4. I have no interest, and it is unsurprising that this particular brand of...

erotica, I guess... is a spinoff from Twilight. That series includes some disturbing content, as far as misogyny is concerned.

[seabeyond]

5. really? and we fed it to all our girls? none of us were interested in the series. we are all big

readers. y two boys had such disdain for it. not sure why.

[redqueen]

6. Oh hell yes...

just Google 'misogyny in twilight'... Plenty has been written about it.

Full disclosure, I still like the movies. (blush)
What can I say... guilty pleasure, and at least they don't treat women's bodies like props.

[seabeyond]

8. lol lol. oh redqueen.... nt

[redqueen]

12. LOL... whaaaaaaat?

I'm entitled to enjoy a little patriarchy-pleasing crap as long as nobody is abused and I'm not in denial about or otherwise remaining ignorant of the issues and problems involved. (This applies to so many things... fashion, lifestyle, etc... we can't change overnight, we've all grown up internalizing the same programming)

I mean shit, imagine if ethnic minorities denied themselves the ability to enjoy entertainment which involved racist issues... Hell, half the audience for most stuff would disappear!

(And feminists would have VERY little non-classical / non-instrumental music left to enjoy)

[seabeyond]

14. if i had that criteria

there would not be a lot of the books to read, that i enjoy.

[boston bean]

7. from reviews, I do not think I would be interested.

[MadrasT]

10. I have no interest in it.

I already burned through my fascination with kinky sex. Been there, done that. It just seems very boring to me now.

The longer I was around "sex positive" communities, the uglier they seemed from the inside.

The reason I am not on the sex positive bandwagon is because I have been there, and it ain't all it's cracked up to be.

[seabeyond]

11. see, here again, i agree. it is not a matter of not knowing

understanding or experiencing. it is a matter of been there, done that, no thank you. lol

yup

[redqueen]

13. Have you seen the awareness campaign going on in the BDSM community?

Not sure, but I think Kitty Stryker has been the most outspoken. It's good to see people aren't obeying those who have continually demanded that people in the community keep silent about these issues.

Google 'rape in bdsm community' if you're curious.

[MadrasT]

15. Their are some factions in the BDSM community

That are definitely working on this, and on speaking out against abuse and raising awareness about it. There are actually topics like this showing up at seminars and conventions now.

Not surprisingly, there is also a lot of pushback within the community about that.

Abusers of any sort really don't like it much when people start to notice that what they are doing actually constitutes abuse, and they are the ones who either minimize the problem, or actively speak out against people's efforts to rein them in.

In that community, questioning anyone's preferred type of kink is frowned on. It is not well received to make any kind of criticism that sounds anything like "I think maybe you are going a little too far with that." There is actually a very strong social taboo against questioning what anyone else does in the context of BDSM. Which makes it an abuser's dream situation.

Unfortunately, some folks really do leave the "sane" part out of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual".

[Texasgal]

16. Interesting.

I can see how this would happen in that lifestyle.