bemildred
bemildred's JournalIn chess, if you have no good options, and still must move, it's called Zugzwang.
And it means you lose. And losing always "looks weak".
Sometimes doing "nothing" is the best thing you can do, it's like "waiting" a bit. In fact, in my experience, most of the time, it's not time yet, there are no useful things you can do yet, so you wait.
Not everything can be fixed, and of those things which can be fixed, often it's still the case that YOU can't fix them.
People who try to threaten you or anger you or disgust you to get you to do something when you don't want to are salesmen, merchants, and they are not your friends. The very fact they are so vehement to get you to do something, this person who does not know you from Adam, and willing to jerk your chain emotionally to get at you, tells you to ignore what they say, they have an agenda, and it's not your well-being and autonomy.
Edit: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zugzwang
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