IrishAyes
IrishAyes's JournalWith friends like me....
Has anyone ever surfed over to thriftyfun.com?
I stumbled across it recently and have found a lot of good ideas there. Just sayin'.
HA! Gotcha all beat!
There haven't been any solicitors for any cause at my front door since shortly after I moved here almost 8 years ago!
First it was because of the chows, and even now with a couple of much smaller and friendlier dogs, I still tie my front gate shut so they can't nose up the butterfly latch. It's too much trouble for anyone except the meter reader to come in the yard, and he just jumps the back gate. Of course most people aren't afraid of Molly Maguire and Brigid, but I've got most of the town already trained not to barge in. I enjoy lovely, brief chats with passersby when I'm already outdoors, and I wave at everybody and offer free flowers and garden produce to those I like - but I like keeping that fence between us too.
Matter of fact, I used to plan on replacing the gate's butterfly latch with something impossible for the dogs to open - but now I'm reconsidering because I want to keep my handy excuse for tying it shut. I seem to be growing eccentric in my old age. Oh well, so long as the dogs are happy....
Even on my trip, I've had to at least occasionally scan the BOG threads w/o replying
But can't do so with this one. My heart breaks for you, my friend; you've probably read my rants about a similar situation w/my "sister". I use quotes because she's always called me the changeling. It's hard and it hurts like hell, but there are times when you have to turn mother's picture to the wall and get out. Family are the people who care about you, no shared DNA required. If someone proves over a period of time that they take pleasure in hurting you, it's okay to say a prayer for that person and walk out for good. Would you continue to tolerate a man who abused you in any way? Of course not. You don't owe your sister a handy target for her abusiveness either. An accident of birth made you kin; she's broken that deepest of ties too many times for it to hold any sway over you.
Do what I did the day my divorce was final - I sent my ex a greeting card 'congratulations - to me! Free at last, free at last! Thank God Almighty, I'm free at last!"
And don't look back. Declare your freedom and make it stick. This is easier done when you have forgiven someone. It's not to hurt them back necessarily. But it does them no favor to serve as their enabler, either. For years it can be agape love, but even that doesn't require painting a target on your forehead and handing the abuser a pistol. At this point she's not going to change. So you must. Not only for her sake, but for yours and the sake of all who do love you.
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Current location: retired to MidWest
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