General Discussion

davsand

(13,443 posts)

156. I have a neurological issue that screws up my balance. You wanna tell me I'm not "worthy"?

Mon Jan 15, 2018, 04:08 PM

Jan 2018

It has totally fucked up my life--to the point I've had to give up my career because falling is such a big risk for me. It's always present and every freaking thing I do is a battle some days. I don't need a wheelchair--yet. If I'm having a "good" day, I usually don't even use that handicapped tag, but on a bad day I do, because it can make all the difference between taking a bad fall and staying safe. I have to go to a gym to walk a treadmill because uneven surfaces are incredibly dangerous for me as are curbs. If I don't walk I lose strength, and what little mobility I have left goes with it.

You want to try and tell me I need to just stop living on the bad days?

Newsflash for you, get up in my face in a parking lot at your own risk. I will make you look like a pendejo without even working up a sweat, and I'll do it loud enough your long dead relatives gonna hear it.

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

170 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

Some asshole with no handicap sticker parked in the last available disabled parking spot!!! [View all] CTyankee Jan 2018 OP

Park right behind them and hang your placard Roland99 Jan 2018 #1

I couldn't. I would be blocking traffic in the parking lot. CTyankee Jan 2018 #2

Good idea Victor_c3 Jan 2018 #54

When i would drive my mother to store jO456 Jan 2018 #61

That's the biggest abuse aside from diamond lanes demosincebirth Jan 2018 #3

What are diamond lanes? marybourg Jan 2018 #106

California they are diamond lanes. Other states might call them HOV lane...or expres lanes. demosincebirth Jan 2018 #117

OK, thanx. marybourg Jan 2018 #118

The term "diamond lanes" MurrayDelph Jan 2018 #120

On the flip side, you have no idea if they have one FreeState Jan 2018 #4

It's a state law. You have to have the sticker or you can't park there. CTyankee Jan 2018 #6

CA allows you three non-paid fines a year (if you prove you have a card)n/t FreeState Jan 2018 #92

We keep ours in the car. In my state, if it is not displayed, the ticket is valid. appleannie1943 Jan 2018 #13

I slide my sticker in the side pocket of the driver's door. There's no reason to take it out of the CTyankee Jan 2018 #14

Being driven somewhere in someone elses car Mr.Bill Jan 2018 #18

I mentioned that to my daughter when we were in her supermarket parking lot. She did not CTyankee Jan 2018 #20

Nothing wrong with that, I suppose. Mr.Bill Jan 2018 #32

And, you are standing there waiting for her and I can't stand for too long.... CTyankee Jan 2018 #37

My wife is dangerous in one of those motorized carts. Mr.Bill Jan 2018 #40

they scare me too. Also, they're awkward... CTyankee Jan 2018 #43

Most stores aren't exactly laid out well for them. Mr.Bill Jan 2018 #47

We have some grossly obese people using those carts. I don't think they are physically able to CTyankee Jan 2018 #49

Or work, rental cars etc n/t FreeState Jan 2018 #93

Not everyone has good healthcare access in this country. Just saying. Doodley Jan 2018 #5

I agree with you but this is not the issue. It's the law in the state. CTyankee Jan 2018 #7

It's not complicated. Don't park in a handicap space Drahthaardogs Jan 2018 #11

So, tough luck if you don't have access to doctors? Doodley Jan 2018 #16

Yeah, tough luck. Drahthaardogs Jan 2018 #55

Meaning? Doodley Jan 2018 #60

Meaning I don't buy you story that you are too remote Drahthaardogs Jan 2018 #64

I am not talking about myself. Why would you think I am? I was making the point that those who have Doodley Jan 2018 #74

I don't agree. This can be done with a simple office visit Drahthaardogs Jan 2018 #80

You could always call on them, they would get huge fine. Nt marlakay Jan 2018 #8

I would have reported it to the store and let them handle it. CTyankee Jan 2018 #9

You would have, but you didn't? nt. Mariana Jan 2018 #36

It would have been extra time on my feet and not feeling well with my bronchitis and my CTyankee Jan 2018 #41

I had a cop one time tell me he did not believe in that handicapped s**t appleannie1943 Jan 2018 #10

Los Angeles has a history of hassling people who use Handicapped placards. MurrayDelph Jan 2018 #27

I used to know someone with a very bad heart that got questioned all the time. appleannie1943 Jan 2018 #46

I was in a wheelchair when I was 27 and got crap because I was 'too young' to be parking there. nini Jan 2018 #56

Get well soon malaise Jan 2018 #12

I try really hard not to judge Rorey Jan 2018 #15

People who suffer from an activity-limiting condition marybourg Jan 2018 #107

I sure didn't say they weren't. Rorey Jan 2018 #122

I once talked a female cop out of ticketing an out of state vehicle in the French Quarter of rzemanfl Jan 2018 #17

Maybe she was forced to do so by state law, but then saw the disabled vet plates after you CTyankee Jan 2018 #19

I think she didn't understand that some states just had DV on the plates. It was the hand rzemanfl Jan 2018 #24

Just park in front of them, blocking them in, with your sticker displayed. Take your keys. Bernardo de La Paz Jan 2018 #21

Handicapped parking ?? bleedinglib Jan 2018 #22

I guess you can't regulate that kind of insensitivity. CTyankee Jan 2018 #25

Yes. It's illegal to obstruct someone's windshield. marybourg Jan 2018 #71

To be fair, some disabilities are not visible. LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #86

Flag down a cop. Townships in NJ get $296 for ticket and court costs-It's an easy cash cow for them! TheBlackAdder Jan 2018 #23

Oddly, cops are never in that particular parking lot. Don't know why. CTyankee Jan 2018 #28

Call the township, as a citizen, report the chronic abuses. After a few calls, they'll stake it out. TheBlackAdder Jan 2018 #34

Cops in my town will respond Mr.Bill Jan 2018 #35

It's safe easy money, and there is no option other than pleading guilty when you get to court. TheBlackAdder Jan 2018 #39

Poor you, CTYankee, just by the way. Hortensis Jan 2018 #26

I had my tea earlier. Now it's a glass of white wine. Everything soothes... CTyankee Jan 2018 #30

I saw a guy at my gym murielm99 Jan 2018 #29

Oh, jeez. If your trainer knows, the guy prolly bragged about it. CTyankee Jan 2018 #33

My wife has a handicap placard/plates and she goes to the gym. Mr.Bill Jan 2018 #38

These people are as big of assholes as Trump. I've taken down lic # and placard #'s and gone online vkkv Jan 2018 #58

Wait a minute... LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #87

Not "legally", I'm saying if you can walk, why not save the spots for people who are FAR worse off? vkkv Jan 2018 #94

Being able to walk does not mean that you are not entitled to a handicapped space. LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #97

A) By watching people get out of cars parked at a Carmel Beach DP space and take along walk along vkkv Jan 2018 #98

No you need to get this... LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #99

So, anyone with a placard can park in a DP space and then take a long walk along the ocean for a vkkv Jan 2018 #100

Nevermind. LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #101

what does cancer look like? TenHouseCats Jan 2018 #104

That's just friggin' evil. vkkv Jan 2018 #111

If I have a plate or placard and you don't TenHouseCats Jan 2018 #139

'over the head.. vkkv Jan 2018 #141

You didn't answer my question: vkkv Jan 2018 #102

Good luck. See ya. LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #103

What does weakness look like? vkkv Jan 2018 #109

fear and blindness are also disabilities... vkkv Jan 2018 #112

Fear and blindness are also disabilities... vkkv Jan 2018 #140

If you did that to me, I'd gladly sue you. Kaleva Jan 2018 #127

Every cross-section of society has a-holes. DP placards are being used and abused by vkkv Jan 2018 #138

This is much different then what you said in your previous post Kaleva Jan 2018 #165

""For sure there are people who abuse the system and they ought to be confronted"" vkkv Jan 2018 #166

You are bouncing all over the place Kaleva Jan 2018 #167

Probably, I'm a bit of a law & order liberal. Too many laws and too many are not enforced. vkkv Jan 2018 #168

I have a neurological issue that screws up my balance. You wanna tell me I'm not "worthy"? davsand Jan 2018 #156

That is extremely unfortunate. I am NOT complaining about valid placards! I'm referring to people in vkkv Jan 2018 #160

Except for the cost to do so, I wish they'd put a picture of the owner on the placard. WillowTree Jan 2018 #119

You should be president roscoeroscoe Jan 2018 #121

That might be going a little far..........LOL! But really, my pet peeve in this area is....... WillowTree Jan 2018 #163

YES !!! vkkv Jan 2018 #143

What ticks me off MurrayDelph Jan 2018 #31

I wish there was a fine Mr.Bill Jan 2018 #42

Our handicap spaces have extra space to accommodate the carts and that's great. CTyankee Jan 2018 #45

Another pet peeve. They should have cart returns next to the handicap spots. appleannie1943 Jan 2018 #50

Donut shops.. cops.. vkkv Jan 2018 #113

How do you know that person wasn't there to pick up a disabled relative? pnwmom Jan 2018 #44

No, as I said I was sick and shouldn't have been out there in the first place. CTyankee Jan 2018 #48

I used to go pick up my mother in law from appointments, when someone else might have dropped pnwmom Jan 2018 #51

that's different. You were a caregiver for the handicapped person. Anyone questioning why you CTyankee Jan 2018 #53

I bet there was a MAGA sticker on the bumper. n/t humbled_opinion Jan 2018 #52

I will preface this by saying I never parked in a handicapped spot before I got a OldHippieChick Jan 2018 #57

My state, Ohio, has a printable form online, saving time & energy. No Vested Interest Jan 2018 #73

I live in a backwards State The online printing option is not available and OldHippieChick Jan 2018 #79

NC is a beautiful and not always backwards state. Now, if only NC could No Vested Interest Jan 2018 #81

NC does not make it difficult to get a placard. cwydro Jan 2018 #116

I could not mail in the form w/out the doctor's signature, so not OldHippieChick Jan 2018 #125

Took the signed form to the DMV. cwydro Jan 2018 #132

How nice this was not a problem for an able-bodied OldHippieChick Jan 2018 #147

Simply pointing out that NC being cwydro Jan 2018 #148

Your anecdotal experience demonstrating OldHippieChick Jan 2018 #149

You have a good point re modernizing the handicapped placard system. No Vested Interest Jan 2018 #154

Thats a good idea; I agree. cwydro Jan 2018 #158

So sorry about your mother and OldHippieChick Jan 2018 #161

PM me if you need a ride somewhere or any further DMV nonsense. cwydro Jan 2018 #162

Not my experience. My doc signed the form. I mailed it in. Got my sticker in the mail. Easy... CTyankee Jan 2018 #75

DO YOU USE A WHEELCHAIR ?? vkkv Jan 2018 #59

In Oregon, only some of the Handicapped spots MurrayDelph Jan 2018 #65

no, thank god. I have arthritis in my lower back and I am 78 years old. CTyankee Jan 2018 #82

No, what you are saying is wrong. LeftyMom Jan 2018 #85

No, the spots are for people who are classified as disabled LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #89

Shouldnt people with wheelchairs park FARTHER away? Nevernose Jan 2018 #95

No, seriously?!?! I think that DP spots are wider to accommodate a wheelchair lift.. vkkv Jan 2018 #96

Actually, they HAVE temporary placards MurrayDelph Jan 2018 #114

My moms in a wheelchair Nevernose Jan 2018 #144

No lawmaker is going to write a law to move wheelchair access spaces FURTHER from a business vkkv Jan 2018 #145

Renewing a handicapped placard every six months is untenable, for obvious reasons. No Vested Interest Jan 2018 #155

NO TenHouseCats Jan 2018 #108

I dont! Nevernose Jan 2018 #142

And then the parking lot fills up and the guy Ilsa Jan 2018 #130

Thats why I said bigger spots Nevernose Jan 2018 #136

no, they are NOT only for people who use wheelchairs. TenHouseCats Jan 2018 #110

Sorry that happened to you CTyankee. People like that are so selfish and inconsiderate! smirkymonkey Jan 2018 #62

I have been treating myself to a jigger of bourbon in a cup of hot water, No Vested Interest Jan 2018 #77

I have a placard..... usedtobedemgurl Jan 2018 #63

My Nissan Versa doesn't heat up until I drive it. So, no help there... CTyankee Jan 2018 #78

Just saying . . . Sam McGee Jan 2018 #66

Too bad you don't live in Houston OnlinePoker Jan 2018 #67

in lansing, MI, TenHouseCats Jan 2018 #105

I am so thankful I do not need one... yet! Fritz Walter Jan 2018 #68

What kind of vehicle does Trump drive? raccoon Jan 2018 #69

I'd say a honeywagon, but that can't be right OnlinePoker Jan 2018 #70

According to reports MurrayDelph Jan 2018 #115

First world problems. egduj Jan 2018 #72

In a nation where some still have third-world healthcare. Doodley Jan 2018 #76

well thank you. May I just suggest that your remark does nothing to help 3rd world problems. CTyankee Jan 2018 #83

Really? LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #84

wow, I worship you as a person of exceptional moral character and compassion steve2470 Jan 2018 #123

Is gross insensitivity to those with disabilities a first world problem? Because you seem to Squinch Jan 2018 #124

I worked swing shift for years and would stop at the supermarket after 1am. spiderpig Jan 2018 #88

during the last few weeks I had a temporary handicap permit csziggy Jan 2018 #90

My husband will immediately complain to the store manager ismnotwasm Jan 2018 #91

I have called police on said parking violators liberal N proud Jan 2018 #126

Always carry extra potatoes (n/t) FreepFryer Jan 2018 #128

Um, I don't understand your post...am I missing something here? CTyankee Jan 2018 #129

Maybe. Give it some thought, but not too much - its a lovely day outside (n/t) FreepFryer Jan 2018 #131

Just a little humor I believe... LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #151

What is a potato? n/t LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #150

A tuberous food crop indigenous to the Andes. JustABozoOnThisBus Jan 2018 #153

If it happens frequently there, Ilsa Jan 2018 #133

It's kinda hard to find a pollice cruiser nearby when you need it. CTyankee Jan 2018 #134

That's what I'm hoping for: deterence. No reason for them Ilsa Jan 2018 #164

I have MS Sampan Jan 2018 #135

Fuck Trump. NCTraveler Jan 2018 #137

I agree. KitSileya Jan 2018 #146

Big fine for those who are breaking the law. Just sayin. You could notify the police. YOHABLO Jan 2018 #152

I've seen people do that Blue_Adept Jan 2018 #159

I remember seeing a great cartoon years ago: Ken Burch Jan 2018 #157

I'm really sorry that happened to you steve2470 Jan 2018 #169

thanks, steve, it is a real problem with us older folks... CTyankee Jan 2018 #170