Pro Tip for Men: Only Enthusiastic Consent is Consent. Here Is a Guide:

[MineralMan]

77. Good question. I think that applies mostly to

relationships that are just beginning. It varies, I think. Sometimes, the signals are clear that contact is wanted. Other times, not so much. Asking is fine. It simplifies things. I remember one situation where I was uncertain where things were going with someone who had been a friend for quite a while. Things appeared to be changing, but I was hesitant to initiate contact and didn't want to risk our friendship. Finally, my friend laughingly broke the ice by asking me a question: "Are you ever going to kiss me?" So, I did, and we were off to the races.

Usually, though, early on, there are pretty clear indications that the time is right, I think. There is a distinct "You could kiss me" face presented at an opportune moment. Or you're walking along together and your hands keep brushing against each other somehow, so you know you can take the other person's hand. Hand-holding is more intimate than many people recognize. It's not just for young teenagers.

But, if you're uncertain, asking works just fine. "Would you mind if I kissed you?" In most cases, you should already know that the answer will be that it's OK. If you don't know that, maybe it's not quite the right time. Other times, the other person will simply take the initiative.

I don't think there is any single answer to your question, really. If you're paying attention, though, the answer should be right in front of you, really. But, if you're not sure, asking is a pretty good solution.

The same thing applies to situations where some new step in the progress of a physical relationship is in the offing. Asking is by far the safest way to make sure what you have in mind is OK. Another possibility is to have had a conversation in a different setting about initiating intimacy. I remember one relationship where the other person told me that she would prefer to initiate increased intimacy when she felt ready for it. I said that would be fine with me. In some cases, she did so before I would have asked, anyhow, so it all worked out just fine.

I think the key is in getting to know the other person as well as you can before intimacy issues even arise. Then, communication is much easier. And communication is the key.