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[MineralMan]

107. The Azis Ansari story seems to me to be a series

of misunderstandings and poor communication to me. When I read the account, I thought, "I'd have ended that date" at several points during their time in the apartment.

In my college days, places where privacy was available were limited. Many times, dates continued in my apartment or hers. Sometimes, sex occurred, but not always. In fact, there were several situations where overnight stays that didn't involve intercourse occurred. It got late, and nobody went home, but sexual activity only went so far.

A couple of times, all that happened was a continuation of the conversation we were having earlier, but in more comfortable surroundings. On many other occasions, of course, sex did occur, but it wasn't a given just because of the location.

I thought the Ansari situation was very unfortunate, with a lot of missed signals that should have ended the activity. I know that I would never have continued under those circumstances. I'd have said something like, "Well, we don't seem certain where this should go, so let's call it a night and see what happens at some other time." I guarantee I'd have done that.