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hunter

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53. I've been on the wrong side of that equation.

Wed Jan 24, 2018, 06:28 PM

Jan 2018

A.K.A. "queerbait" in middle and high school. One of the reasons I quit high school.

The original post is not slander of all DU guys. I'll bet most have encountered some rotten apples, and they may have some fresh insights as to how those rotten apples think.

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Question for all the male members of DU [View all] Stargazer99 Jan 2018 OP

Why would "all the male members of DU" have an answer to those questions? jberryhill Jan 2018 #1

Thank you, sir True Dough Jan 2018 #18

Likewise here. I only know what I have read, that sexual predation is more about power than sex... Rollo Jan 2018 #44

Excellent reply. DavidDvorkin Jan 2018 #25

Thank you. I'm repressing the desire to be offended. bitterross Jan 2018 #31

Seriously! InAbLuEsTaTe Jan 2018 #52

Great reply. OP is pure misandry. writerJT Jan 2018 #61

I think you are addressing these ?s to the wrong audience SWBTATTReg Jan 2018 #2

Why are psychopaths psychopaths? lagomorph777 Jan 2018 #17

With young women it is normally a person in a position of trust. NCTraveler Jan 2018 #3

That's one that has bothered me NewJeffCT Jan 2018 #54

Obviously the question is overbroad and yes, offensive but I guess Stargazer is assuming OregonBlue Jan 2018 #4

I thought the same as you, but there's always a handful LanternWaste Jan 2018 #11

I know, I always kind of wonder about the people who are so quick to be offended, whether smirkymonkey Jan 2018 #20

I'm neither oppressed nor offended jberryhill Jan 2018 #22

Not arguing but in fact, I think women would have a better understanding of why women OregonBlue Jan 2018 #81

It makes DU look stupid leftstreet Jan 2018 #23

I don't think so either. Nor do I think it's offensive. It seems to me like stargazer is Squinch Jan 2018 #30

Men probably conceal this behavior from other men, moreso than from women jberryhill Jan 2018 #32

If I recall correctly, "jail bait" was quite the draw and the subject of bragging rights for Squinch Jan 2018 #39

I don't recall anyone confessing a crime to me or bragging about it jberryhill Jan 2018 #42

If its anything like their reaction to hearing their buddies did some creepy assault - its not bettyellen Jan 2018 #47

Exactly...It wasn't meant as an insult...I ask my husband these types of questions sometimes whathehell Jan 2018 #40

Male here, but I'm not a psychiatrist... ExciteBike66 Jan 2018 #5

Almost all of the men in question have been in a relationship... brooklynite Jan 2018 #6

What makes you think most men understand the mental/emotional dynamics of this? Lurks Often Jan 2018 #7

Geez..What's with all the defensiveness?..She may just think that whathehell Jan 2018 #43

I find it offensive that because I am a male I'm supposed understand how sexual predators think Lurks Often Jan 2018 #67

I am 60 year old white man thbobby Jan 2018 #8

A lot of males view themselves as still being excessively young inside, while their bodies age. TheBlackAdder Jan 2018 #9

No, I think it's the disgusting "power and purity" dynamic. hunter Jan 2018 #36

My husband is the youngest of four kids. His parent came over from Ireland in the late Demsrule86 Jan 2018 #41

This is creepy. You should delete n/t leftstreet Jan 2018 #10

No it isn't. She isn't accusing anyone of anything. Men behave differently around men than they Squinch Jan 2018 #33

Yes it is leftstreet Jan 2018 #58

I Can Only Answer The Question In Your Third Paragraph ProfessorGAC Jan 2018 #12

What the hell makes you think that the male members of DU john657 Jan 2018 #13

Being male I thought would give an insight that I would not have or experience Stargazer99 Jan 2018 #24

I don't think anyone is insulted jberryhill Jan 2018 #29

Read through. Lots of insulted victims here. Squinch Jan 2018 #37

They certainly sound as if they are... whathehell Jan 2018 #50

Impacted anal glands leftstreet Jan 2018 #60

You should probably ask a Psychiatrist. beaglelover Jan 2018 #57

Wow such a kind response. boston bean Jan 2018 #71

Im a man G_j Jan 2018 #14

You'd have to ask the people who do that. We're as puzzled as you are. (n/t) Iggo Jan 2018 #15

We are disgusted by these predators too PatentlyDemocratic Jan 2018 #16

Wow how sexist ! left-of-center2012 Jan 2018 #19

Only someone who would do that can answer your question. MineralMan Jan 2018 #21

Evolution favors the young and healthy. Binkie The Clown Jan 2018 #26

True to an extent, BUT. Blue_true Jan 2018 #68

Exactly. Because you are civilized. Not all people are, sad to say. nt Binkie The Clown Jan 2018 #70

Great answer - unfortunately, not applicable. egduj Jan 2018 #79

I cant answer for u cuz Im a female but my hubby (ever since the #metoo movement, the samnsara Jan 2018 #27

I am a male but I don't even know how to address your question. IluvPitties Jan 2018 #28

I don't know tazkcmo Jan 2018 #34

I'm going to answer in the spirit I think the question was asked... k2qb3 Jan 2018 #35

Terrible post ...delete it. Demsrule86 Jan 2018 #38

I've been on the wrong side of that equation. hunter Jan 2018 #53

I was brutally attacked as a young woman...sent to the hospital.. I escaped the actual Demsrule86 Jan 2018 #80

Stargazer, good luck with your effort to come to terms with this experience from Squinch Jan 2018 #45

Jesus Fucking Christ. LexVegas Jan 2018 #46

um... Cuthbert Allgood Jan 2018 #48

I can't answer why "some men" take advantage since I don't mreilly Jan 2018 #49

This message was self-deleted by its author DonViejo Jan 2018 #51

I wouldn't know. I'm not a sexual abuser. beaglelover Jan 2018 #55

I'm a man and I don't know the answer any more than you. HopeAgain Jan 2018 #56

Post is akin to the lose-lose question, "When did you stop beating your wife?" VOX Jan 2018 #59

Predators prey on those who they see as weaker. guillaumeb Jan 2018 #62

Your question assumes male (and molesting males') heterosexuality. Golden Raisin Jan 2018 #63

I'm female, but some men prey on young females TexasBushwhacker Jan 2018 #64

I think it's a lot of things mythology Jan 2018 #65

Good post especially second paragraph. Nt raccoon Jan 2018 #69

I think that it is 100% wrong to knowingly engage an underaged person. Blue_true Jan 2018 #66

This message was self-deleted by its author GusBob Jan 2018 #72

I honestly don't know. It's not something that happened in my family. jalan48 Jan 2018 #73

Men have been running the show for too long. So they are 'superior' to women and 'in charge' Kirk Lover Jan 2018 #74

Why do some women beat their husbands? LuckyCharms Jan 2018 #75

Women can be abusers too treestar Jan 2018 #76

This has more to do with your uncle and his sick mind. Get away from him. Report him. YOHABLO Jan 2018 #77

Not an easy question, and clearly its something that many struggle with bhikkhu Jan 2018 #78

I think there is something fundamentally resistant to equality in our make-up. Orsino Jan 2018 #82

Your post has generated an unfair amount of blowback Orrex Jan 2018 #83