Father Of Shooter Asking For Privacy

[Ms. Toad]

96. So which parents failed?

A family member told ABC News that Cruz and his younger brother were adopted as infants, and that his adoptive parents are now deceased. His father, Roger Cruz died a few years ago, ABC reported, and his mother, Lynda, died last November.

https://www.buzzfeed.com/briannasacks/florida-school-shooting-suspect?utm_term=.emMmaVGzv#.ffN9VoBgX

The ones who died/were taken out of the picture when he was an infant?

His adoptive father who died a few years ago?

His adoptive mother who died in November?

The family who took him in after his mother died in November?

He was apparently an older adopted child (having a younger brother at the time he was adopted puts him at at least 9 months, more likely 18 months at the time). Eighteen months is risky for the long-term emotional health of a female child; it is even more risky for the emotional health of a male child. (The greater risk is mostly as measured in risk to society; females are more likely to turn their anger inward - males outward) All of my siblings have some emotional baggage from their early years; the older two (males) have more baggage that could not be overcome.

Because there were two siblings, this was likely a situation in which they were taken from a home that was unsuitable. (That is how we ended up adopting biological siblings at ages 2 & 4 - at least one of whom had FAS and was beaten)

At the time I started challenging you, I had no idea how similar the likely circumstances were to those in our own family, although it doesn't surprise me. A lot of damage can be done to a child by age 2 that cannot be undone - no matter how skilled the adoptive parents are.

So, no. His dead parents (all 4 of them) are not to blame for today's shooting.